Age Difference between Husband and Wife

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India
February 21, 2007 10:42am CST
What do you think should be the proper age difference between a Husband and wife? What is the age difference between you and your spouse, and for those who are planning to get married, what is the age difference between you and your fiance?
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@Bujoyseth (1684)
• Philippines
3 Jun 07
age difference between a husband and a wife is no big deal! it's about the relationship of both party.. it's how they handle the situation.. i'm married for four years and we got no problem till now... we have 2 years gap with my husband...
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@siddhinfo (1501)
• India
3 Jun 07
As per me being it should be of 5 to 7 years between husband and wife. Husband should be elder, but if it is love marriage many time both are of same age and even wife is elder to husband.
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@Bizziebod (3526)
3 Jun 07
Hi, I'm not married so this doesn't really apply to me, but I don't think age should matter between husband and wife, aslong as they are happy with it why should it bother anyone else?
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@angel_27 (129)
• United States
2 Jun 07
Me and my husband arent even a yr apart in fact we were both born in the same year.He's a few months older than me tho'. But i don't think age matters as long as your in love.
@sands01 (16)
• United States
1 Jun 07
my husband is 9 months older than me. If you look at our age difference it seems as if I was born for him. I don't think there is an ideal age difference. When I was younger I didn't want to date anyone more than 5 years older than me. It depends more on what you have in common and how you feel rather than your age difference.
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• India
29 May 07
i am elder to my gf just by 9 months or so... i dont think theres any ideal age gap that can ensure u that u have a gr8 love life...it solely depends on the person's insight rather than anything else...u gotta respect ur counterpart n that'll earn u love n respect for urself n i dont think theres any story of age involved within this...its pretty straight forward...
• United States
22 Feb 07
I don't think there is a "proper" age difference. Compatibility,and above all knowing that you both are truly in love with one another is what matters the most. Statistically females mature faster than males, but that is not so for each person matures at their own rate due to life experiences, etc... My husband is 9 years older than me. When we met I was 21 and he was 30. It was not our ages that attracted us to one another, we talked for hours before I asked his age. My guess was 25. We were married 10 months later, I had just turned 22 and he had just turned 31. We immediately started our family with Frankie, and 16 months later came surprise Jake!(btw, I would recommend to anyone to have your children close in age. I was already changing one diaper, it wasn't a big adjustment because i was still in "baby mode"- they play on the same sports teams, they share a common circle of friends-it's easy) Next month we will celebrate 10 years of marriage, and he can still send shivers down my spine. Don't let anyone sway you to not marry the one you love because of age difference, as long as you are both adults. Marriage is a wonderful thing- best wishes to you!!! :-)
• United States
22 Feb 07
I am 22 and my husband is 24. I think that the closer you are in age, the more you probably have in common, however, true love knows no age- look at Caterine Zet-Jones and Michael Douglas, he is quite a bit older than her and they have had a very successful marriage and raised a family.
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• United States
21 Feb 07
It depends when do you choose to marry. If you are marrying earlier then very young immatured spouse is not good but if you are marrying at 30 and above then a difference of 0 to 5 years is fine.
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@crazynurse (7489)
• United States
21 Feb 07
In my opinion there is no age difference that is 'proper.' I think it is more of a compatiblity issue. If the two people are compatible and they love each other, then age shouldn't matter. My husband is 5 years older than me.
@inked4life (4227)
• United States
21 Feb 07
I don't think there is such a thing as a "proper" age difference. True love transcends such things as that. There is an old saying regarding this subject that I like. It goes "Age is mind over matter. If you don't mind, it doesn't matter". And, for the record, my wife is 6 years my senior (45 and 39)
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@dj_faheem (738)
• Pakistan
22 Feb 07
i think its 2 to 4 years difference between husaband and wife .......................................................