Would you date your friend's EX???

United States
February 21, 2007 6:48pm CST
I never see myself dating my friend's ex. I would feel awkward about it and I will just spare her my respect on not dating any of her EX.
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24 responses
@babykay (2133)
• Ireland
22 Feb 07
Glad to see this discussion topic as this situation was happening to me. My ex who I dated for a number of years and dumped, started latching on to all of my friends and coming on to one in particular. It looked like they were getting on very well together, and I would be happy for him to find someone, also would be happy for her, but it would be too weird. Anyway, it turns out they are just friends although he is hoping for more. I don't know if I would be too happy - a bit embarrassed for both of them if they did hook up!!
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• United States
22 Feb 07
Thanks for sharing!
• United States
22 Feb 07
I could never date a friends ex. If someone wanted to date an ex of mine I would not care. I just wouldnt be able to do it.
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• United States
22 Feb 07
Thanks for sharing!
@apky12 (776)
• United States
22 Feb 07
I would never date a friend's ex. I feel like well they had feelings for each other at some point and what if the one I was dating thought about my friend sometimes. It would just be weird. My friend actually married someone I dated. It was very awkward at first but it's fine now.
• United States
22 Feb 07
At least it happened to you on the opposite side...your friend dating your ex. Anyway, I think it still the same. Good thing that everything works out fine now. Thanks for sharing!
• Philippines
22 Feb 07
if you liked her ex then i think it its ok but it is better if you ask your friend first if it is alright with her dating her ex. if your friend would honestly say to you that she has gotten over this ex & they are ok as friends now, im sure she will give you her blessings. but, if she still feels bitterness & pain over the ex then i guess you have to respect your friendship with her & not go on with dating him.
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• United States
22 Feb 07
Thanks for sharing!
@Meg109 (95)
• United States
22 Feb 07
I doubt I would ever do that, even if she was fine with it. I don't know, it just seems kind of runde and upsuppourtive to me.
@maryannemax (12174)
• Sweden
22 Feb 07
true. even if my friend will not oppose to the fact of me dating her ex, i will still not do it. it's just against my rule of friendship.
@bmoliv (184)
• United States
25 Feb 07
It depends on if they are on good terms and how my friend was dealing with it. If they ended on a bad note and hate each other of course I wouldnt do it. I would definitely set a certain period of time to wait too.
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• United States
25 Feb 07
I would not if deep love was involved...
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22 Feb 07
I'd never date a friends ex. An acquaintance's ex, maybe, but never a friends ex.
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• India
22 Feb 07
Well, it just did happen with me once. My friend was seeing this really nice girl on a casual basis. They were seeing each other for a couple of months, during which the girl started becoming serious about my friend. My friend however was not ready to get into any kind of a serious relationship and so developed cold feet. He had invited her to his sister's wedding and had planned to break the news to her there. I too was a guest at the wedding. I saw the girl for the first time there and not long after, she was leaving in tears - my friend had messed up big time. He could be a real jerk at times. I tried to console her as best as I could, as any good samaritan would, but I was smitten by the girl's simplicity as well as honesty and sought her friendship. I started calling her and speaking to her quite regularly after that. Initially, it was just a nice friendship. She was pretty heartbroken and wanted a shoulder to cry upon and I was there whenever she needed me. It developed into love after some time and lasted more than a year. Unfortunately, we developed differences along the way and slowly drifted apart. Maybe the relationship was doomed from the start. Maybe it was just a rebound relationship for her. Whatever it was, I still have no regrets for anything. She was a special person. I still miss her. On a side note, this relationship also cost me the friendship with my friend, but I have no regrets about that either. He was a total jerk, anyway.
@elisa812 (3033)
• United States
22 Feb 07
I agree, I would not date my friend's ex. I would feel weird about it and guilty...and plus sometimes my friends talk to me about their relationship problems, so then I might already know bad things about their ex! lol
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@pirtlems (246)
• United States
22 Feb 07
yes i would ,but i would ask my friend first out of respect and if said or acted like he would be offended then i would not.if he was cool about it and i was sure it wouldn't bother him then i would.
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• United States
22 Feb 07
If I really valued the friendship, then no I would not date a friends ex. Like you said, it would be awkward.
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• Philippines
22 Feb 07
as for my own opinion, i think wont dare dating my friend's ex bacause it is too ashamed to do and might be the reason to start an misunderstanding between you and your friend
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• Canada
22 Feb 07
To me it really depends if I like the person or not. If so then yes, there is no reason not to, if you think it might be love go after it and charish it. Your freind, M0thakap0p
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@maryannemax (12174)
• Sweden
22 Feb 07
oh. never. i haven't gone through such an experience. and i think it's rude to do so. i know people won't agree on this. but this is how i see it. i really don't even dream about dating any of my friend's ex. it's my way of atleast respecting my friend.
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@urbangirl (1461)
• Australia
22 Feb 07
It would have to be the love of my life for something like that to happen, otherwise I would not date my friend's exes, nor have I ever done that.
• United States
22 Feb 07
I wouldn't ever date my best friends ex. That is, unless she said she was alright with it. I guess it all depends on how close of a relationship they had and how close of friends the two of you are.
@caharin (19)
• Philippines
23 Feb 07
if she's hot, then WHY NOT?? no seriously, if i happen to like her and if i'm sure that they're both over each other, i definitely would. it wouldn't hurt to try if it really was us meant to be together as long as nobodygets hurt in the process.
• United States
24 Feb 07
Thanks for sharing!
@sharkee (63)
• China
23 Feb 07
I don't like the thought of dating my friend's ex! I think it's really sick. But it also depends on how far the relationship went between them. If it was a thing that lasted only for about 3 weeks and nothing really happened between them then I might consider dating her ex, especially if I have strong feelings for the guy. But if they had a relationship that went on for a number of years, it's not something I would consider. Even if I felt strongly for him it's something I'm going to have to get over. But I really doubt it, it's hard for me to fall for my friends' boyfriends because i look at them in a very different way.
• United States
23 Feb 07
I know! I also see my friend's boyfriends or ex as buddies or friends so I don't see myself falling in love with them. Besides...there's plenty of fish in the ocean, I'll look for my won, lol. Thanks!
@glenry86 (211)
• Australia
25 Feb 07
dating your friends ex is like playing with fire, its only a matter of time before you get burnt and everything turns to $hit, in my opinion is not a smart move, especially when your friend still has feeling for him or her.