Emergency room visits don't you hate them

@TriciaW (2442)
United States
February 22, 2007 7:00am CST
Last night my daughter woke me up in tears. She had been having a sore throat and last night she woke having troubles breathing. It is bad enough that you have to wake up quickly from a dead sleep but when you get to the emergency room and the doctor comes in and acts like you ruined his day it doesn't help. Like what you enjoy having to rush your child in? He had no compassion for her and said well everything looks fine I can not see any reason why you can't breathe. My 14 year old daughter looked at me as if someone had just said she was lying. Now with that said he gave her a steriod shot and put her on a strong antibotic. If there was nothing wrong why would he do that? The last time she visited this emgergency room she had fallen off a horse and they told me nothing was broken then called me 2 weeks later saying oh she broke 2 fingers. A bit late in the game when they heal in that time and healed wrong. I really just hate emergency rooms. Has anyone else had any bad experiences?
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@crowfan (67)
• United States
22 Feb 07
yes emergency rooms take forever unless you are dying
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@lionsong (44)
• Australia
22 Feb 07
I think I've only had one good emergency room experience personally, and that was when I went in because of kidney stones. I got in quickly because they wanted to be sure it wasn't my appendix and the staff were all really nice, which shocked me. I went into one hospital because I was having a miscarriage. They treated me okay, except that when they put the catheter in they ruptured my urethra and while doing the internal ultrasound the guy badly bruised my insides. I was in so much pain for days after that. I would have been better off staying at home. I make a point to write letters of complaints to the hospital and everyone I can to make sure it doesn't happen to someone else, but I'm not sure it ever really makes a difference.
@TriciaW (2442)
• United States
22 Feb 07
I am so sorry to hear of your bad experience. I guess I never thought about writing a letter. I did have one doctor once though really make me mad. My doctor had sent me to ER because daughter had a history of stopping breathing and he wanted me to have an exray. So off to the ER I went and the doctor there said she sounds fine what do you want me to do slap her in the hospital? I said no I want you to do and Xray and call my doctor with the results. This doctor was the same one that told me once well she is breathing now you know we never know when our time is up you can step off a curb tomorrow and get hit by a car. Well the last time was the final straw so I took her to my doctor the next day who happened to be friends with the ER doctor and told him that I would never allow him to touch my daughter and I would not listen to a Doctor who couldn't make it in his own practice when I deal with 10 specialist and know what I am doing. My doctor was like oh ok. I am sure they had an interesting conversation about me at their next golf game.
• Australia
22 Feb 07
I can't stand most doctors. They think that because they go to school for so many years that gives them the right to treat everyone else as if they were morons. When I was a teenager I injured my knee in gymnastics. My doctor sent me to an ortho who basically told my mom he couldn't see anything wrong with my knee and that it must be my head that has the problem. Boy was my mom furious. She told him that he better do something with my knee because she knew I wasn't faking. I would collapse and my knee would swell... you can't really fake that. So finally he agreed to do arthroscopic surgery. Took two years because he kept rescheduling (probably hoping we'd give up on it), but finally when I was 18 he did the surgery. After I was brought back to my room from recovery he came in with this goofy grin saying "looks like you were right after all". It turned out I had torn a ligament that didn't heal properly, so he removed it. If I was able to I would have gotten up and punched him in the face.
@anij34 (317)
• United States
22 Feb 07
Oh my goodness yes!! When my daughter was 9 months old she had a stomach virus and was throwing up and couldn't keep anything down. As a result she was dehydrated. The doctor told me that the hospital was already waiting for us so I took her over. They wouldn't let me hold her while they tried to get a vain (my daughter has had a lot of blood draws so we had a routine and she was great as long as she sat in my lap). They took her down the hall and strapped her down (a 9 month old!!) and tried and tried to hit each vein 5-6 times. It took 3 people to hold her down, when I heard her screaming her head off I went down and tried to open the door and a nurse blocked the door so I couldn't get in. I DEMANDED my child back and said, I am taking her home. They told me, You can't do that without the doctors permission. I told them to call her, I knew she would approve it. They had tried so hard any little bit of hydration she had she cried out. My poor baby was so sick. The nurse came back and mumbled something about the doctor approved me taking her back to the office. We treated her dehydration in her office, the doctor was so mad she had all the nurses wrote up. I had to take my daughter to her office twice a day for a week plus call her twice a day to keep her updated but within a week she was completely better. I will never again take someone back to that crappy hospital. I can't believe that they did that to my baby.
@TriciaW (2442)
• United States
22 Feb 07
Oh my gosh I would have hurt someone over that. How awful now the poor little thing will only see the hospital as a bad thing. Just think of the parents that wouldn't have the guts to have them call their doctor to take the child out of the situation. My youngest daughter used to get dehydrated very easily and if they couldn't get it on the first two pokes I made them call in an anistiologist (sp) because they deal more with putting in IVs. Bless your heart as a mom that had to have been just awful.
• Canada
23 Feb 07
If the nurse blocked the door to me I think I would have gotten violent. I absolutely HATE when nurses don't listen and think they know best.
@eminyone (113)
• United States
22 Feb 07
i hate the er. i dread going and i dont go unless i have to. i took my daughter in her when she was like 7 months old. it was really late at night and she was pucking everywhere. we took her in and we waited like 4 hours, you would think they would want to see her since she was a baby and throwing up everywhere. there was like 15 other people there and in the 4 hours we were there they saw no one. i finally got a hold of her doctor and she said just to give her pedialyte, so did the woman that was waiting with me. i asked her if i should stay and wait to be seen she said if i wanted to. i left. you would think that they would be quicker on seeing people and getting them in and out. they are rude and act like your bothering them but that there job. and most of the time they say nothing is wrong with you and act like your lying.
@TriciaW (2442)
• United States
22 Feb 07
That is awful. I agree it is there job and there is no reason to be rude or make you feel like you are lying. Like you want to take a 7 month old out at night???
@Sissygrl (10999)
• Canada
22 Feb 07
the hospital where i live had a really bad Emerg room, all the doctors just could give two poo's! It sucks having to go there. everyone who lives here says that its a good hospital to either be born in or die in, but other then that your boned if you go there lol. and its true. my husband and i have both had crappy experiences there. I was 5 months pregnant and had really bad pains in my stomache and they just left me in a hospital bed all night throwing up and all till the morning when a doctor came in. and then the doctor was supposed to check back in on me a day later and NEVER showed up to do so. i just left the hospital at that point. And my husband cut his hand open pretty bad at work, but he crushed it, so it didnt look bad on the outside, but it was REALLY deep, and the doctor was calling him a baby! i just looked at him and i was like Dont swear. lol
@TriciaW (2442)
• United States
22 Feb 07
They are probably lucky your husband's hand hurt because he probably would have hit them.
• India
23 Feb 07
is this a discussion??
• United States
23 Feb 07
I had to bring my son in when he was a month old. He was on a medication to lower his insulin, and it gave him a horrible reaction. He swelled up really bad, his hands feet, even his eyes! It was so scary! When the nurse came in to draw blood, she really messed it up. She had one nurse holding him down while she just held the tubes up to his arm to scoop the blood in. I was hysterical. I made sure to tell the pediatrician and his endocrinologist and they were horrified. He's about 2 months old now and it's like it never happened.
@biaxin (3)
• Canada
23 Feb 07
i have had more than one of these types of experiences. My son was a little over a year and i woke up to him havin a seizure, it was the first time so i didnt know what to do i was afraid and panicking so i called 911 they came we sat in the emergency room for 6 hours until they admitted him overnight. I was pissed so after they discharged him i said i would never take him back to the hospital in the town again. A month later he had 4 in 12 hours and they just sent us home until he had a 15 minute one then they finally did tests and cat scans. My experience with emergency rooms since then has never been the same
@filchi (291)
• Netherlands
23 Feb 07
I think it depends to where you are. When we were still in the Philippines, doctors at emergency act quickly and show their concern and really nice, i think its a thing of being a filipino, they are really doing their job, maybe that is why lots of nurses are accepted in another countries like in the U.S or in Europe because they are curtious and patient,but yes when we move here in the Netherlands, i got a bad experience my first time to go to the emergency hospital, because got a fight with my husband and he broke my arms, i went their around 3 pm, only to tell me to wait in line, thought emergencies are meant to be emergencies, lots of doctors in the Philippines maybe so you are sorrounded with doctors(good ones), but here My god, lots of patients waiting and i got my two kids with me, i was told to wait for at least 3 hours or more, how come i can wait with two kids with me. So i just left...
@crickethear (1420)
• United States
23 Feb 07
Sounds like you have some complaining to do. I would call the hospital administrator. In addition, call the medical board, and if there is a different hospital, take her there. No one should be treated like that.
• United States
23 Feb 07
You know what I HATE? The doctor dont always know what they are talking about. For a great example. When I was 18 going to be 19 on Dec 20th well I injured my knee at work. I had to go in and I got there about 12am so it was tech my birthday. I got to spend the first few hours of my 19th in the ER of Kaiser. The doctor didnt know what was wrong with my knee. He did x-rays but saw nothing bad. Instead he put me in a straight huge brace thingy with velcrow and such and told me keep it on for a week. He also sent me to a knee doctor. When I went to that doctor, he said my knee popped out of place and caused me to fall and it popped back in then I fell and hurt it more. I had to have the thing on my knee for THREE weeks (not one) and YES something happened. The other doctor acted like what I was saying didnt make sense. I said I had heard a pop and another one. My knee was swollen and everything. Its like hello!?? :((
@lingli_78 (12852)
• Australia
23 Feb 07
yeahhh... i have bad experience as well... i have to wait forever whenever i go to emergency room and the doctor there is not really nice and friendly as well... sorry you have to go through this bad experience and hope your daughter is getting better soon...
• Philippines
23 Feb 07
I don't like to go to the emergency room if my children or family are involved but I do have to go with them because I'm a nurse and when I see a wrong act by anybody in the medical field I tell them..My sister had her delivery and the nurse was going to put a dextrose to my sister and she can't find her vein and she keeps sticking the needle in my sisters arm and I told her to stop it because she doesn't look like she knows what she is doing..
• United States
23 Feb 07
I also hate emergency room visits. They are just sooooo annoying. And they keep you waiting for forever! When I had a miscarriage in Feb of 2005, I was told by the on call Mid-Wife that if I started having certains signs, to go in. I had those signs so I went in to have a diagnosis of a miscarriage. I am RH Negative, so if I was having a miscarriage, I had to have it diagnosed so that I could receive a rhogam shot. The doctor that I saw, thankfully not the one that did the internal exam, was so rude and uncaring. He told me that I was young and healthy and that I had 4 kids at home so that I could obviously be pregnant and to not be too sad or upset about all of it. I looked at the man in shock. I am so thankful that I had left my husband at home because I think he would have punched the guy! I don't think that the E.R. docs are trained well in bedside manner and compassion. After all, each patient is just one in hundreds that they see each night, why should they really care?
@_hope_ (3917)
• Australia
23 Feb 07
well where i live you are lucky to ge to see the dr in the emergency room at all .The last visit i had there i had an extreemly painful ankle and i was in quiet a bit of distres that the hospital actually sent me off on a pair of crutches to see the dr as he couldn`t possible come up to see me i was in so much agony .as it turned out i had a septic ankle and needed surgery the following day in a hospital 350km away .So now i stay away from the hospitals all together
• United States
23 Feb 07
yes i dislike the emergency rooms . you sit for hours to wait for somone to tell you everything is ok. and charge very high prices. I would not have gone back to that hospital (if that was an option) after mis diagnoising her with broken fingers. I would call your family dr and make a appt to see him just to make sure there was nothing wrong..
• United States
22 Feb 07
Oh gosh I know exactly what you mean. The hospital we used to go to before we moved was horrible. Luckily the hospital we go to now has its own kids er so it isn't too bad. Back to that horrible hospital... when I was pregnant I was very sick (undiagnosed kidney issues) I ended up in the emergency room several times throwing up incessantly. What do they do? Leave me in the waiting room to puke in front of everyone. I tried staying in the bathroom as much as possible but other people needed it too. Then the one time they said I had a kidney infection and sent me home with no treatment.