Graduation dillema

United States
February 22, 2007 8:23am CST
My 6 year old will be graduating from kindergarten next month here in the Philippines. Finances are really tight so I'm thinking of not letting her attend the graduation. Because there is a fee of almost $20 but we can really use that on other things instead. I feel bad though because she will only graduate now and then in 6th grade again. My grandma who helps me told me to let her graduate if I have money. Everyone knows I don't, so what is the right thing to do?
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22 Feb 07
Whatever will they think of next? Why do they have a graduation for kindergarden kids?
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• United States
22 Feb 07
I'm 32 now and I had one when I was 6. I guess it's been tradition here in the Philippines. Parents who live abroad even come home to be at their child's graduation, even for the 6th grade one. I know it's ridiculous, probably another way to earn extra money. My daughter cries in school without me knowing if she doesn't get what the other kids get. Her teachers have told me and she really is afraid to ask me. She knows I'm a single mom who's out of work right now. I hope I can come up with it. I will work extra hard here at mylot to do it for her. She is pretty smart, it will be a shame if she's not in school to receive any medals or awards.
22 Feb 07
It is ridiculous, as you said another money making scam. The only graduation I went to was my uni grad, i think thats all you need, maybe high school too. I reckon you should try and raise the cash if everyone else is going in her class and she might cry.
@sylvrrain (661)
• United States
22 Feb 07
I think I would do almost anything in the world. Talk to her teachers or the school. They may be able to waive the fee or take up a collection to help pay it. Gratuation is important to kids. It gives them the feeling of acomplishment and lets them know that they did a good job. Maybe you can talk to friends and see if they can contribute. I do hope things work out. Twenty dollars is not a whole lot, and you have a month to get it. Try skimming $5 a week off of bills and groceries. Hit up your friends and family for the rest.
@stephcjh (32328)
• United States
22 Feb 07
I would do whatever you think is best and just try and explain to your daughter that you cannot afford it, if you choose not to do the graduation thing. I know how it is sometimes when money is tight. You have to whatever you feel and know is best. You could take the chance and go ahead and let her do the graduation and hopefully some more money will come in for you to cover what you spent. That is a very good possibility. I hope you can figure it out and do what you feel is best with no remorse.
@Willowlady (10666)
• United States
22 Feb 07
What is this graduation thing? She is not finishing school. That happens at the end of 12th grade. She is young and I see no need in attending something that will not matter to progress later. Use that money for more important things. What is right is what you think is right for you and yours.