How old should they be?

United States
February 22, 2007 8:31am CST
My oldest daughter is going to be 11 in April and she has been bugging me to let her shave her legs. I think she is to young but, she has had her period already so I know she is maturing faster then most kids her age. How old should they be to start shaving???
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• United States
22 Feb 07
I dont think she's faster than most kids, I think she's right on track :) I was 11 when i started, i remember wanting to do it when i was 10 becasue all the other girls in my class were shaving in 5th grade. When it's starting to make her self-conscious then i say let her. Its better for you to show her how then for her to just take a razor and do it herself oneday (i did this and ended up slicing my finger!) Also, some kids could start to make fun of her for having "hairy legs" Puberty's a tough time and kids can be cruel about it.
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• United States
22 Feb 07
oh and it was actually my DAD that said it was time for me to shave, and told my mom to let me. I guess he had memories of girls being made fun of in middle school for having hairy legs. My dad was the one who always let us grow while my mom was the one who wantedto keep us her little girls forever.
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• United States
22 Feb 07
My daughters were both 11 when they started shaving their legs. I know it was something they wanted too, because they had been asking to start shaving, but all that hair on their legs was driving me nuts too. I swear with both of them it took about three tries before they got it all off. Have you discussed using nair or some other form of hair removal with her. Maybe that would be a better alternative if you feel she isn't old enough to use the razor yet.
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@wmaharper (2316)
• United States
22 Feb 07
I think it depends on your child. You know where she is, and if she is mature enough to handle the privilege and responsibility. I know my father made us wait until we were 13 or so I think, and I hated it, but as I got older, he told me, that he didn't want us to do too many things too early, we were already growing up so fast. First it's shaving your legs, then it's makeup and then it's getting your ears pierced or going out on dates, so he held off on allowing us to, and tried to space out our privileges until we got a little older. It makes a lot of sense to me now that I am older, and it didn't hurt me to wait. Most of my friends in fact didn't shave their legs until they got that old either. It's really up to you though, ask her WHY she wants to shave her legs? If you ask me, there really is no reason that she needs to other than her friends may be doing it, but there is nothing wrong with telling her no, and that she'll have to wait a couple more years.
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@Mamaof4 (222)
• Philippines
23 Feb 07
Yikes, tough question. Are her legs hairy? Or are they covered with thin,fine hair? I remember I was a JUNIOR in high school before I decided i wouldn't listen to my mother when it came to shaving MY legs. I had gross, thick and semi-curly hair...so I decided on my own that it was grossing me, hehehe. I guess it depends on the "condition" of your daughter's legs. If they are covered with ahir, then I'd say go for it. But if there is barely any hair, I would wait. Is she being peer pressured to do it, I wonder?
@dbeamon (128)
• United States
22 Feb 07
my daughter has been shaving since the same age and she only shaves about every other day. when she started her cycle is when she got to start shaving. i dont like it to much bc that means she is growing up but i guess we have to let them.
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@sunny1984 (639)
• India
23 Feb 07
Let her do it becouse she is matured.
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• United States
26 Feb 07
I think she is old enough hun..I started shaving as well when i started mine..all my hormoes went ape crap lol..and if its bothering her let her shave..its soo embarrassing to have hairy legs..let alone being a pre teen..it wont hurt anything..but i suggest buying her an Intuition razor..it has aloe vera on where the razor is..and its not as easy to cut yourself..or even the Silk Effects razor,..but i think shes like the Intuition..aww mom let her..lol shes a young woman now..and ya cant stop it lol..it will be ok..i promise:)
@sj_chaudhry (1537)
• Canada
22 Feb 07
there is no specific age... as long as girls become familiar with their feminie side and want to groom them and improve them then this is just perefct timeto allow them to get shave or wax.
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• United States
22 Feb 07
Does she really have thick hairy legs? I remember being 12 and having hairy legs that even curled but I didn't shave until I was 15. I wish I hadn't shaved because it only made the hair thicker. If it's really bothering her, maybe she can start shaving when she's going to wear clothes that will show her legs. As for me, that's what I do. So if I don't wear skirts or shorts, I don't care about shaving.
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• United States
22 Feb 07
As I recall I started shaving around that age or slightly before. I started my period just after I turned 9 in fact. I think if she's old enough to be asking if she can shave her legs and she finds the hair embarrassing then she should be allowed to do it. Especially if she's extremely self conscious wearing skirts and dresses to school, kids have enough going on these days without having to worry about one more thing they could be made fun of for.
• United States
22 Feb 07
if she's already developing, and had her period, probably yes. hairiness isn't accepted, especially by preteens and teens. be sure her razor is safe, many are safe and difficult to hurt yourself with.
• Australia
22 Feb 07
My daughter is 11 and i have just let her do it for the first time over the holidays so that now shes gone back to school she dosnt have that to stress about .
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@lionsong (44)
• Australia
22 Feb 07
Honestly? I think once they become aware of the fact that the hair is there and it's not a pretty site they are ready to shave. More than likely the girls at school are shaving and to not allow her to do it would make her a victim of ridicule (kids can be so cruel). Really when you think about it... who's it gonna hurt if she starts shaving now. I was 10 when I started and it gave me a good feeling... like I was growing up. Gave me a huge self-esteem boost.