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Canada
February 22, 2007 9:03am CST
Oh man... I have told my fiance time and time again NOT to move my clothes. Not to move my stuff. Because once he moves it, I don't know what he does with it, but I never see them again. And when I buy new clothes, new socks - anything - it vanishes. I don't know what he does with them, but he puts them away so I end up buying more. And then poof. I can't keep wasting money like this. I can't tell him to leave it alone, because he's so anal about moving my stuff, its unreal. Like for example - I l;eave a bottle of bubblebath in the bathroom - he MOVES it. Not in the bathroom, but elsewhere. I have a habit of leaving my clothes in the bathroom, because then I can find them right? NO. He moves them. I have very little clothes as it stands because since we've gotten together, and moved in together, half my stuff is gone! But this is too much! What else can I do, besides chain my stuff to the countertop?
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@sylvrrain (662)
• United States
22 Feb 07
I would talk to him about it, and then try to compromise with him. It sounds like he is a neat freak, always picking up things that should not be where he thinks they should be. Is he throwing the things out? If not, they should be in the house somewhere. If he is, then you need to say something to him quick. I had a problem with my husband doing my laundry. He dried a cashmere sweater in the dryer on high heat, he turned all my socks pink, etc. He thought he was helping me out. I learned quick to have my laundry done before he got a chance to do any of it. I now keep my clothes seperate from his. Good luck with this, it is hard living with someone. This is a minor problem that should have an easy solution. I am sure this is something you guys will laugh about in the future.
• Canada
22 Feb 07
I don't let him wash my clothes because he will wash them, and put them away somewhere. I just found my brand new clothes that I just bought, tossed down the hallway stairs. I am so annoyed right now, because this house doesn't feel like its mine anymore. I mean even around my computer he cleans up, thus not making it feel like its my own anymore. I don't have any place in the house to put my things, because he moves them to a place where he feels they should be put. So yeah. I have no where to put my things without them being tossed someplace else, and believe me unless the dryer is eating all of my clothes, I think he's throwing them out. Reason being is he puts them someplace and I will never see them again. I have four tshirts out of the pile which I know where they are. I also have one pair of jeans that I know where they are, which fit, because he's moved all of my other clothes. So it looks to people that I only have 3 shirts and one pair of pants, but I can't help it, I keep buying and he keeps moving, so I don't buy anymore.
• United States
22 Feb 07
That's rough. from what i understand that is all part of being in a relationship. Since I have been single sure I get lonley sometimes but at least I know where everything is. i'm not trying to encourage you to split up but I guess you got to let him know how you feel, and if you know how his personality is use finese so he doesn't take offense.
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• United States
22 Feb 07
Get your own cabinet or drawer then put a lock on it. Hide the key or dont tell him the combination to the lock and keep everything in there. If he is anal about stuff, perhaps he just wants everything put away in a very orderly manner so if everything is locked and in place inside the cabinet or drawers, then he wont fret and even if he does, he cant get to it anyway! Goodluck! In the bathroom, have a little box or basket with lid where you can store all your stuff and you can also choose to lock it if you think he will dig in there too. I think its a little weird that he would take the bubblebath bottle away from the very place its supposed to be... in the bathroom but hope you get this worked out.
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