A divorce question

United States
February 22, 2007 6:27pm CST
State if you are a male or female. What did you feel like the moment you received the court papers that you were divorced? How long were you married? I was married for 6 years. I stood on those court steps and felt such freedom and relief.
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17 responses
@Krisss (1231)
• Australia
23 Feb 07
I was married for 22 years and it was a weird feeling when the divorce was final. I was relieved, but there was a tinge of saddness that it was a major turning point in my life.
• United States
23 Feb 07
After that amount of time, I can understand. I hope things are happier now for you.
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@gabs8513 (48803)
• United Kingdom
23 Feb 07
Well Margie when I got mine through, I was happy and I felt that my Life has been given back to me. I was married for 21 years and for 19 years of them I was fighting to keep the Marriage alive, to make my Ex Husband realise that he has a Wife and then Kids. The thing is before we where married he was a totally different Person and as soon as we where married he showed his true Self. I held on as long as I could and then I snapped and could not take anymore.
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• United States
23 Feb 07
I am glad you have some peace now. You did all you can. Bless you.
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• Australia
23 Feb 07
I am female, when i separated from my ex i said "when i get divorced im going to have a party coz ill be glad to be rid of him" . We were together for 13 yrs and married for 4.5 yrs. When the paperwork came through i cried partly from relief that it/he was finally over but also because i thought that when i got married it would be forever and i felt like i had failed.
• Australia
23 Feb 07
Just remembered i never did have that party, maybe its a good excuse to have one now.
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@brokentia (10396)
• United States
23 Feb 07
I felt as if I failed. I felt relief. I felt a loss. We were married for 7 years. But I didn't feel freedom because even though we were divorced, he was not letting go. And because I was pregnant, I didn't get any more freedom when he found out. Instead, we later decided to try again. And we are together still to this day...we have been divorced since 1997. But we are not getting remarried. Marriage will probably never happen again for me.
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@vityota (879)
• India
23 Feb 07
i am a female and i am married for six years now.. no i am not divorced and i am happy that you are so courageous and came out of it without any depression and are happy in your life or else here in India i have seen people in trauma after their divorce
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@sandie61 (2359)
• United States
23 Feb 07
I am female and I was divorced from my 1st husband after 16 years of marriage. when I received the papers I was relieved that it was over.
@villageanne (8579)
• United States
23 Feb 07
Thankfully, I have never been in this situation. I am still married to my wonderful husband of over 28 years. I am sure divorce may be the answer to many problems but we have always been able to handly our problems together
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• United States
23 Feb 07
Unbelievable sense relief and now I can get on with my life. That evening went out with friends and had a divorce celerbation.
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@sigma77 (5385)
• United States
23 Feb 07
I am a male and was divorced after 6 years of marriage. I don't recall what I was feeling exactly. Maybe wondering what happened and why it had to happen. That was nearly 17 years ago and till this day I have no idea why my ex wanted a divorce. It doesn't matter, the way things were going, it could never work out in the long run. I hardly ever think about it or even care that it happened. I admit that I made a poor choice of partners.
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@Mitzi72 (20)
• United States
28 Feb 07
I am a female who was married for 11 years. When the day of my divorce came up I was up early and the court house an hour before the time it was scheduled. My husband didn't even show up. I was so relieved and happy to be divorced I called all my family and friends to celabrate. The funniest is that I had to go back after I got my paperwork in the mail cuz they had mixed mine up with someone elses and put in all kinds of odd phrasings that had to be fixed. The new final divorce decree is framed and a gorgeous piece of work.
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@cblackink (969)
• United States
25 Feb 07
I'm a female (46) and have been married and divorced twice. In both cases, when the papers arrived, I was relieved. I have learned that just because you love someone or just like them an awful lot, that doesn't mean you should marry them. I have a great deal of respect for the institution of marriage now through these experiences and don't take it lightly. Although I have a great partner now, I don't know if I ever want to be married again.
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@AskAlly (3627)
• Canada
24 Feb 07
I have never had to go through that experience. I am glad you found release after your divorce and had the opportunity for a happier life.
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@Bee1955 (3887)
• United States
23 Feb 07
Female. I did the same thing and I was married for 15.
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@Bytemi (1553)
• United States
23 Feb 07
I am female, I received the papers from my attorney to give to my husband and I was relief and happy that it was almost over. I was married for 8 years and we dated for 3 years before that. I lost a decade of my life. My divorce was final on Valentines day 2006, I thought that was appropriate.
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@avs189 (1031)
• India
23 Feb 07
I am 21 ...still not married..u can say if such problems do occur in marriage i would prefer to practise celibacy..since i dont want such problems in my life..i feel that marriage is long -term decision and u should be very careful while taking such decisions...
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@linda345 (2661)
• Canada
23 Feb 07
I am a female. It was a weird feeling. I was pretty young. I was married at 20, had my first child at 21, second at 22 and divorced by 23. I felt overwhelmed and wondered how I was going to survive taking care of these 2 little babies on my own. I was married 3 years.
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@007plus1 (312)
23 Feb 07
i never be maried, because i dont want kill me myself..