Isn't 10 too young to start menstruation?

United States
February 22, 2007 8:39pm CST
I usually don't get rattled, but I received a call from my sister that her 10 yr. old daughter started her menses this afternoon. She and I were 11 when we did, but this girl just turned 10 in December. I don't know whether to advise them to take her to the doctor or wait and see. But I do worry maybe it's something wrong. I'm hoping to get some feedback on anyone who has gone through this or knows of anyone who has and I can let my sister know some options on what to do.
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@limosonia1 (1559)
• United States
23 Feb 07
It's natural to start anywhere from 9 to 13 is the usual. She will probably start slowly though. Having it one month and then gone the next. Till she starts to get regular. She is perfectly within rage and should be fine. Make sure she teaches her daughter how to start a calender that way she knows when it's time and can help guide her daughter. Try to keep the embarrasing moments at bay. Teach her how to properly change. It will be hard because 10 year olds aren't very attentive to things they don't like. So the burden will be on your sister to help her make sure she is taking care of herself.
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• United States
23 Feb 07
Thank you so much for the response. I will definitely speak to her mom, she tends to think this little girl should remember everything on her own, and she is only still a girl.
@Lakota12 (42600)
• United States
23 Feb 07
this is ok I had a neice that started at 9 years old just make sure your sister talks to her about being a young lady now. and all the facts of life for that neice went off and got PG and had a baby at 14 which was a bad situation ended up haveing baby took away from her later but she does know where she is now. and can see her.
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@Lakota12 (42600)
• United States
23 Feb 07
your welcome and if she talks better to you then go for it I had to have talk to all neices for their mother wouldnt did it or she just didnt know how .I had a neighbor lady tell me for my mom didnt and I swore I wouldnt ever let my daughter go with out knowing I didnt either she got the talk too
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• United States
23 Feb 07
That's so sad about your neice. That is one thing I do worry about. She is being raised in church, so I'm hoping the abstinence thing will stick with her. But I also know of the peer pressure kids have also. I'm going to make sure she has the talk about being the young lady though. She communicates better with me than with her mom. So maybe I can talk to her. Thanks for sharing with me.
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• United States
23 Feb 07
I think I will talk with her, even if her mom talks with her. I want to be sure she understands. Her mom likes to dramatize everything, and will make a mountain out of nothing. So I need to make sure she realized it is natural and nothing to worry about.
@JC1969 (1224)
• United States
23 Feb 07
Basically, you cannot fight nature. Please take a look at this website: http://www.womenshealth.gov/faq/menstru.htm As a medical professional myself, the average age is about 13 to begin menstruation. However, like this accredited site says, girls start menstruating between ages 8 and 16. So, your neice is in that normal range. Also, she may be very irregular in her cycle at this point and stage in time. It is possible that she won't have a cycle again for a month or two months, and this is considered normal.
• United States
23 Feb 07
Thank you for sharing this with me and for the link to the website. I explained to her last night on the phone, that she may or may not bleed much to begin with. But being her little girl self she really didn't understand. So hoping that her mother will talk with her, but I will talk with her some more too.
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@KrisNY (7590)
• United States
23 Feb 07
My daughter is 10 and hasn't started yet.. He has other signs of maturing- Hair armpits and legs (she has been shaving for about 6 months).. Little buds. She is also moody alot- so I'm sure she will start soon. I keep hoping it will be awhile. I asked a similar queation to this a while back-- Alot of my responses were kids start earlier than we did-- hormones in food and such. I know last year when my daughter was in 4th grade- about 3 girls in her class had already started. I had the talk with my daughter and she giggled--and said she already knew because of these girls. 10 is still a young little girl.. but our girls are maturing faster these days. Their bodies anyways-- not their maturity level. Poor kiddos!
• United States
23 Feb 07
Wow, my neice hasn't started shaving yet. I haven't noticed an increase in body hair, she did ask me to buy her some deodorant last summer though. She stays with me when she is out of school. Bless her heart, I can only imagine what must be going through her mind about all of this. I know for me it was quite emotional, knowing this would happen every month for years and years. I plan to speak to her some more about it and calm her fears if I can.
@Wanderlaugh (1622)
• Australia
23 Feb 07
Yes, but it's not that uncommon, and can be treated. Good Morning America had a show where a five year old was suffering from that condition. Some sort of hormonal irregularity, apparently. Needs some rather lengthy maintenance, obviously, but recovery seems to be the norm.
@chertsy (3798)
• United States
23 Feb 07
That 5 year old had a thyroid problems which caused her to start that early. Once the doctors were able to fix it, it stopped completely. I never knew your thyroid could be a pain at that early of an age. Poor little thing.
• United States
23 Feb 07
I too have never heard of a thyroid condition in a child that young. I always thought once they reached puberty the thyroid may give trouble. I had a brother that had thyroid trouble, he used to wet the bed. He was very large too. I'm glad the 5 year old had successful treatment.
@mommyaiai (295)
• United States
23 Feb 07
Yeah ten is really too young.I have mine when i was 12 and the other of my family is like 13 and 15.I think nothing is wrong with her coz i remember the daughter of my friend she had her period when she's also 10,so yeah i think there is nothing to worry.
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• United States
23 Feb 07
Thank you for responding. I was worried at first, but have calmed down considerably since reading all the responses from everyone at mylot. This has been a great help. I called her mom awhile ago and gave her the suggestions that I have rec'd and she said my neice went to school today and seemed ok with it. She is still considering taking her to a gyn just to be sure, I tried to tell her not to make a big deal out of it, so hopefully she will listen. But if it makes her feel better, to take her.
@shahinshk (384)
• United Arab Emirates
23 Feb 07
nowadays girls are very active and growing very fast. they keep running here and there therefore this can lead to fast menses. you got it at 11 that does not mean she should get at the same time. some children body structure is quite healthy and this leads to fast menses. you do not have to get panic but have to be extra careful if she has started so and be frank with her and talk about it to her asking her also to be very careful.
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• United States
23 Feb 07
She does stay very busy. Always on the run or on the go doing something. As most girls her age are doing. I was very concerned when I heard about it, she had just been at my house this past weekend and showed no signs or anything. I was just completely shocked. Thank you for reassuring me, I will definitely pass onto her mother what I have learned.
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@Ravenladyj (22904)
• United States
23 Feb 07
No its not unusual at all...in fact one of my neices started getting her menses at 8 yrs old....I would just have your sister sit down and talk to her daughter honestly aobut it all and teach her what needs to be taken care of/done etc etc...
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• United States
23 Feb 07
Wow,at 8 I would have been concerned too. I've heard of starting at 11, and I also did. But 10 sort of was so unexpected for me. I never had any girlfriends or relatives who started at 10. I am hoping her mom will teach her how to care for herself and how to not stress over the sitation. She (the mom) tends to dramatize things.
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@TerryZ (22076)
• United States
23 Feb 07
Its not unusual for it to start that young. I wouldnt worry about it if she is not having any problem its okay.
• United States
23 Feb 07
I am so glad I posted this discussion. It has really helped to ease my concerns for her. I didn't realize so many knew of girls starting so young. I was just so alarmed and taken by surprise at it. Thank you for responding.
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• Philippines
23 Feb 07
i think it is perfectly normal. well i had mine when i was 10 the only thing will happen is she will grow the body of an adolescents even if she not in her teens and i think these can make a possibility that she may get fat easier. i dont think its necessary to take her to doctor.
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• United States
23 Feb 07
Thank you for responding. She already has a weight problem, I wonder if it is maybe a reason why she started so young. Or maybe b/c she is developing inside so young, maybe why she has a tendency to be overweight. She has always been chubby. Her mom too has always been a little overweight.
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@filchi (291)
• Netherlands
23 Feb 07
I heard it too that the earliest the menstruation period of a girl the realier also it will stop, like you will have an early menopausal...
• United States
23 Feb 07
I hadn't heard that, but it does make sense. I had a hysterectomy at 30 so I don't know if I would have gone through menopause naturally at an earlier age. From the repsonses I've received, it seems as though a lot of girls are starting their menses early nowadays. Thanks for responding.
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• India
23 Feb 07
Hey common dont worry please. I know two of my cousins who started menstruation when they were 9 and 10yrs old. And that is not a big issue to worry. I heard that it is because of some food habits and gene probably. Also I have heard that those kids who eat chicken like stuff more are getting soon because it makes heat body something like that. Now a days these are common thing. And now my cousins have grown up and they had no problem at all.
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• United States
23 Feb 07
Thank you for responding. My neice does eat a lot of chicken. Matter of fact, it is her favorite food. She likes just about chicken anything. My husband had heard a talk show on the radio saying something about all the hormones injected into chickens or into their feed or something as being a cause for girls to develop earlier. But having this happen in my own family, it just sort of took me by surprise.
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@Josette_J (805)
• Malaysia
23 Feb 07
Well, if compared to the olden days, starting ones menses at 10 years old would be considered to young already. If I'm not mistaken, young girls last time used to begin menstruation at ages 15 or 16! I guess girls these days start to menstruate earlier because of our lifestyle and diets. A couple of my friends started their menses when they were only 10. And it's normal, I should think. Mine only started a couple of years after them. I also think that starting later would be better too. I wouldn't want mine to start when I was 10! When I was 10, I was still happily playing and running around. I was carefree and lived life to the fullest. When I started with my menses, life became more miserable for me. But, I've learnt to deal with it anyway.
• United States
23 Feb 07
I am worried for her starting so young. She will surely start developing soon, and hopefully she won't feel isolated in her classroom. At 10 she is still riding her bike and playing with her girlfriends, and it must surely be embarrassing for her to be doing this at such a young age. I tried to talk with her on the phone, but she was still rather bashful to talk about it. I am hoping her mom will talk with her and ease any fears or concerns.
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• United States
23 Feb 07
theres nothing wrong, you dont have to take her to the dr for that, my friend got her menses at 9yrs old, and so did my mom, and some girls dont get it till there 15, everyone is different, you and your sister have nothing worry about TRUST ME.
• United States
23 Feb 07
Thank you for reassuring us. I was worried at first b/c I didn't know if she was positive it was her period. As a mom, my mind always jumps to the worst scenario first. Cancer runs in our family and I guess I was more afraid of something negative like that. But so many have responded in a positive way that I do feel better about the issue.
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• United States
23 Feb 07
Nope not at all I was 10 also when I started. Sometimes it just works out that way and I had a friend who didn't get it until she was almost 15.
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• United States
23 Feb 07
I was 11, but was developing also. My neice has not yet started developing anywhere that we can tell. She has been moody though, this would definitely explain that. Thank you for responding.
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• United States
23 Feb 07
Girls are starting younger & younger these days, I had started at 9. I wouldn't be too concerned if a dr says she's fine or unless she experiences severe cramps, also as horrible as this may sound birth controls pills maybe needed. Not for the main reason (a woman being sexually active), but to lighten & shorten her periods. Hope this helps :) There are some strange cases of girls starting even younger: http://www.snopes.com/pregnant/medina.asp
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• United States
24 Feb 07
I had already started to develope in other areas, so I had already been talked to about my period & what to expect. So it wasn't very scary or surprising. :)
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• United States
24 Feb 07
My neice had not been developing and that is why I was so surprised. I feel so bad that I did not talk with her before now. But I honestly didn't think she was ready. I now feel that is the wrong way to look at it. One lady responded and said her friend teaches this at schools, I wish all schools had a program like this where they could talk to all the young girs and help to prepare them and answer any questions.
• United States
23 Feb 07
At age 9 were you upset or afraid? At 11 I knew what was happening and had other friends who had started. But at 10 I don't think I would have handled it as well. I was also living with my dad the time, my mom just so happened to be visiting when it happened. My neice's mom was not at home with her when it happened yesterday, but I spoke with her today and she said she wanted to take her to a gyn, but also made the statement that now she had to worry about boy's. This little girl isn't even interested in boys yet. I hope she doesn't make too much of it, and just let nature take it's course.
@greengal (4286)
• United States
24 Feb 07
Nope nowadays it isn't. Two of my sisters began to menstruate at the age of 10 and so did my sister-in-law back then. We were shocked too and feel so sad for them. I think they are still kids and not even into their teens. It can be such a nuisance at times. For some reason I'm coming across more and more people who have begun to menstruate early. I don't know if its because of constant change in lifestyles, food we eat or something else. Your sister needn't worry coz its perfectly common nowadays. She must give her daughter all the information though.
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@birthlady (5609)
• United States
25 Feb 07
In many ways your husband may be correct that the "environment" contributes to growing up faster...additives in foods such as hormones given to cattle, are one "environmental" contribution possibly.
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• United States
25 Feb 07
He listens to a lot of talk radio, and he said the very same thing one day. So apparantly a lot of scientist and or doctors have been researching this. I think cows and chickens, because everyone, well most everyone eats these meats on a regular basis.
• United States
24 Feb 07
I know at 11 I was more mature and knew things that this girl doesn't know about. So she definitely is in the dark about a lot of things. I agree that she needs to know how to handle everything, from hygiene to keeping up with the calendar to prevent problems down the road. My husband things it's the environment that is the reason for little ones growing up so fast these days. Thanks for responding.
• Canada
23 Feb 07
Slightly younger than average, but I've heard of 9 year olds getting it too. Generally, it happens at 11, with a vast majority somewhere between 9 and 13. If you're scared, consult a doctor anyway, but I don't think it's much to be concerned about.
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• United States
23 Feb 07
I am feeling somewhat better after hearing of others who have also started so young. Thank you for responding.
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@Rozie37 (15499)
• Turkmenistan
23 Feb 07
I also started at 11, but my sister's niece on her husband's side started at 10. I believe that it is perfectly normal, though I am not an expert, I am a medical assistant. Each woman is different and we all go through these fazes at various ages. People have told me that I started early. Then I have heard of little girls spotting the first few times or even starting one day and then stopping and not starting again for a few years. If she is concerned about her child though, a check may be needed to put her mind at ease.
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• United States
23 Feb 07
Thank you for responding. I did ask my neice, and she said it was not a lot so far, so maybe it will be like you described. My daughter was a little older, but she did this, she would start one month, and maybe go months before she'd have another one. But then, now we find out she has PCOS. I haven't yet talked with her mom to see if they are going to the dr. or not.
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• United States
23 Feb 07
I dont think there is nothing wrong about it she is geting to that age. what i knowticed in my family, not sure if its true but my grandma started at 13 mom 12 and me 11. maybe it goes down in gerneration?! one thing to look for is her regulation, if she keeps going on and off you could wait a couple years or either take her to the gyno and get on the pill, it helps.
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• United States
24 Feb 07
In my family the women tend to have trouble with their periods. I was the exception, mine were normal. But my mom had very irregular ones, and my sister did too. I spoke with her mom and reminded her to give it some time to see if she had another period, and to teach her to use the calendar and keep up with them.
• United States
24 Feb 07
My daughter had to go on the pill to be regular. Most times she would not even have one if she didn't have help. I on the other hand was so normal. My mom was not normal either. I agree with you, that my sister should wait and see if there is a pattern before taking her to the dr. They will probably tell her to wait and see anyway.
• United States
24 Feb 07
yea, thats how my family is my mom and i both got on the pill so we could be regular. i waited until i was 13 though so it just depends on how the person feels. if she is not regular at this age i would wait to go to the gyno and get checked, but if still worried can still go. i just think if its not constant wait at least a year or two.
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