Is this a matter of "trust" or "propriety"?
By manong05
@manong05 (5027)
Philippines
February 22, 2007 9:26pm CST
We advertised a urgent need for a stay-in house help and the first applicant was a 23 year old extremely pretty, sexy, charming and obviously a flirt girl. I told my wife, let's take her but she refused. Don't you trust me? I asked her. It's not that, she replied. It's not an issue of trust but propriety. I don't think it's proper.
What do you think? What would you do if you are in the situation like this?
2 responses
@mommydiaries (191)
• Philippines
23 Feb 07
Hmnn... this is tough. I don't blame your wife for not wanting to hire that pretty/flirty girl. Women have strong instincts. If it is pretty obvious that the potential house-help is the flirty type, I say your wife made the right call. Don't open the gates for a potential domestic problem. It is not you she doesn't trust, it's that girl. But if the girl is simply pretty, but you don't sense anyting flirty/dangerous with the way she acts/transacts, i suggest you talk it over with your wife. it's not proper to discriminate against pretty girls. If everyone felt the same way about her, she'd never land a job.
@manong05 (5027)
• Philippines
23 Feb 07
Thanks. Actually, we've sat down and talked it over and I saw no point insisting my opinion if I find her not happy with the idea anymore. I felt sorry for the girl and I wish someone can talk to her about her behavior and the way she dresses, which was really suggestive, if I may use that word. If she is turned down again and fail to land a job, she may start to think about it.
@jodyliwanag (151)
• Philippines
24 Feb 07
I cannot blame your wife for the decision she made. I also feel the same way sometimes, not just particularly about the household help but with everything else. I do trust my husband very much but there are just some people around him that I do not trust, or let's say that I don't trust the environment or the scenario. Temptations can happen anytime. You might now receptive you will be if you are put in such awkward situation so better to safe and careful rather than having domestic problems in the future.
