Getting your childs ears pierced, will it be up to you or your child?

@Mollyjo (268)
United States
February 22, 2007 10:22pm CST
I have 4 daughters and I just got my 7 year olds ears pierced Sunday. I wanted to wait until she was old enough to decide for herself on getting them pierced. I know that some parents have them pierced when they are babies. What is your opinion on having them pierced should it be up to you as a parent or should you let your child decide when they want them or don't want them at all?
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@Monkeymia (206)
• Australia
23 Feb 07
My mum wanted to get my 5 month old daughters ears pierced but i said Im waiting till she can make a decision for herself. I know that they cope better with them at a young age and have less infections but to me, that should be up to the child if and when they decide to do it. If she wants to get it done later, I will gladly take her and get them pierced but for now, I won't make that decision for her.
• Italy
30 Oct 07
i think you are right, better take a decision after.
@carlaabt (3508)
• United States
23 Feb 07
If we have a daughter we will wait until she is old enough to decide for herself whether she wants them done. I had my ears pierced when I was six. My aunt asked me if I wanted it done and asked my mom if it was okay when I said yes. My mom even decided she would like to have hers done since she had never had them done before. So we all went and got them done together. I'm glad my mom didn't just automatically have mine done when I was little. Letting me make the big girl decision was so exciting! I don't want to take that away from my own kids.
• United States
23 Feb 07
We hae a family tradition of piercing our childrens ears young. Its partially cultural. Generally the ones who were pierced as an infant have less issues then the ones who were done in childhood. IN MY FAMILY. So with my experence im planning on doing it young if i ever have a daughter, but like so many other things i was "Set on" before becoming a parent... it may change.
• Canada
23 Feb 07
I will definitely wait until my daughter is old enough to make the decision herself. Who am I to decide whether or not she should have holes put into her body? I will probably wait until she is 11 or 12 to let her get them if she wants them, but depending on her maturity may let her get them earlier.
@cjthedog64 (1554)
• United States
23 Feb 07
Well, my SD's mom got SD's ears pierced against DH's wishes, so we didn't have any say in that. And DS is hopefully not going to go through this issue. But my opinion, if it would matter in my situation, is that I would let my daughter decide when and if she wanted them pierced. My requirement would be that she be mature enough to care for them herself, and to take care of her earrings. SD wasn't mature enough to handle the pain (mom let her get it done while she was under anestesia from getting her tonsils out), and then didn't take care of them. They got infected and she wouldn't leave them alone to heal, they eventually closed up, she redid them a couple years later, and now that she's 12, she still loses earrings all over the floor in her room and won't pick them up. If my vacuum worked better, I'd just vacuum up all the junk she loses...