Would you date a good friend's ex?

Saint Vincent And The Grenadines
February 23, 2007 4:45am CST
I would like to know if you would date one of your best friend's ex. I personally don't find any moral objections on it, but I admit that at least in some cases it can lead to some problems among the three people involved if things are not handled properly. What are your thoughts on it?
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mimpi
@mimpi1911 (25464)
• India
23 Feb 07
truely speaking, i can never do that, that is against my values and mental makeup. i really abide by it. however, having said this, EVERYTHING S POSSIBLE IN LOVE AND WAR and i believe, we are but puppets in the hands of destiny. thanx
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LightninStrike
@LightninStrike (5915)
• Saint Vincent And The Grenadines
23 Feb 07
lol, very nice post mimpi...you're right, no matter what your values are everything is possible in love and war and one never knows what we will end up doing after all...cause after all...if you are against it but you end up falling for that boy or girl...what will you do? forget about it? it's a hard thing to do.
whozefa
@whozefa (448)
• India
23 Feb 07
well first i wuld lik to find out the reason for there break up if ur friend mistake then u can go ahead, coz girl is good and if vice versa then u better think b4 dating her coz u cld be suffering form the same as ur friend has to be
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LightninStrike
@LightninStrike (5915)
• Saint Vincent And The Grenadines
23 Feb 07
thanks for your reply.
ESKARENA1
@ESKARENA1 (18261)
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23 Feb 07
i really dont think i could date a friends ex, not if i wanted to keep the friendship anyway
LightninStrike
@LightninStrike (5915)
• Saint Vincent And The Grenadines
23 Feb 07
ok, thanks for reply. but do you think friendship would be menaced in every case?
mathurvarun
@mathurvarun (980)
• India
23 Feb 07
First of all i ll talk to my friend if he is ok with it then i ll date his ex..but i dont think so its gonna be any problem if he is ur best friend then he can understand ur feelings and dont want to become any problem in it
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willocfc
@willocfc (963)
• Australia
23 Feb 07
Is the best friends ex hot? :P Nah i dont think i could, it would cause to many problems for everyone involved. You friendship with you friend would be ruined, and you would always be comparing things to the ex and so fourth
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michelledarcy
@michelledarcy (5220)
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23 Feb 07
I think it depends on how your friend felt about it. If they were happy for you to do that and you were sure that they didnt have any feelings for each other then it would be fine.
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Bunny2
@Bunny2 (2102)
• Australia
2 Mar 07
Broken heart versus broken friendship - Broken heart versus broken friendship - which is more important to you? I would have to choose friendship.
Morally there's nothing wrong with it, but ethically there could be. You risk losing your friend over it and have to weigh up how certain you are that this relationship would work over losing you a good friend. I would choose the friend- but then I haven't had to choose and that would be tough.
hottie0728
@hottie0728 (1732)
• United States
24 Feb 07
I believe that I have posted this discussion 3 days ago. http://www.mylot.com/w/discussions/803179.aspx
Sasselle
@Sasselle (698)
• Australia
23 Feb 07
It would totally depend on a few things - but mainly on how they broke up and if my friend still has feelings, especially if it was a one sided break up. I personally think I would find it very difficult but that's just me ... not that i've ever been in this situation so i don't know for sure. I know a few people who have dated their friends ex - one has even gotten married - so it can work out in the right circumstances.