Should I keep my engagement ring?

@Jemina (5770)
February 23, 2007 9:20am CST
I was engaged 7 months ago. However, things didn't turn out well. The guy didn't want the ring back. I don't want to keep the ring. What should I do with it?
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@crosa125 (1483)
24 Feb 07
well i have to say he lost what he can't get ever in his life time.if you don't really want to keep the ring,you can give me it just wait till i come there love,then you can put it on my finger and i can be your wife if you want.
@Jemina (5770)
25 Feb 07
hahaha. you're funny. thanks making me laugh. Cheers!
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@Jemina (5770)
25 Feb 07
I'm afraid, not. LOL! You can have it on one condition. You must claim it within 24 hours.
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@crosa125 (1483)
25 Feb 07
i'm so glad i made you laugh,so can i have it then?
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• Philippines
23 Feb 07
I have 2 engagement ring with 2 ex-bfs before. the first one, gave it to a sister. the second... i think i sold it... hey, it has diamonds in it. LOL
@Jemina (5770)
23 Feb 07
2? Wow! Yea I'm also contemplating on giving it away. Haven't really made up my mind. Thanks for your suggestion.
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• Philippines
26 Feb 07
yeah. been engage to 3 different guys. :D i married the third (finally!) LOL if you think the ring really worth something.. like diamonds or platinum even, try to sell it girl. :)
@kgwat70 (13388)
• United States
25 Feb 07
I am sorry to hear that your engagement did not work out. If he does not want it back, he is probably hoping maybe that you will change your mind. If you do not want the ring, then I would tell him that he either needs to take it back or maybe you can sell it or give it to someone you know that can not afford to buy a ring for their loved one.
@Jemina (5770)
25 Feb 07
Hmmm, you've just given me another valid point. Maybe he's still hoping for "us" in the end. I'm afraid that if I sell it and he just appears at my door claiming the ring back. What shall I tell him?
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@Shaun72 (15959)
• Palatka, Florida
23 Feb 07
either keep it for yourself or sell it.I sold mine after my divorce I figured why keep it I mean he found someone not even 4 months after I marriaged him.I am sorry that things didn't work out
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@Jemina (5770)
24 Feb 07
I see that selling it is legal and I won't be guilty of any crime as more people have already done so. Well, I need to make up my mind soon. Sorry to hear about the divorce too.
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@geejoy (344)
• Philippines
24 Feb 07
well, if i were you, ill sell the ring and give the money to someone who needs it most...
@Jemina (5770)
24 Feb 07
I'll give it a thought. Thanks.
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@stephcjh (38473)
• United States
23 Feb 07
I would pawn it for cash or I would give it to a friend if they wanted it. You could also put it into a jewelry box and just keep it for a while. Is there a chance you may get back together with the other person? I would just hold onto it and think about it for a while. You may not want to get rid of it after all.
@Jemina (5770)
24 Feb 07
I don't think that chance exists nor will it ever do. I just don't think it's going to be a good relationship after all. No, no. Pawning it may be a good idea too. I have to make my mind soon. Thanks for your response.
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@playgirl (1359)
• Philippines
1 Mar 07
you can give it to your near relatives or sell it atleast you can have your money to buy important things or why should use it as pendant.
@Jemina (5770)
1 Mar 07
Thanks, Playgirl. Your response is highly appreciated. Best regards :-D
@raijin (10345)
• Philippines
23 Feb 07
Please don't throw it away, you can always give it tome so I can sell it!LoL You can give to a relative of yours, a friend who are very dear to you or maybe sell it and donate the money to a charity. These are just some of the things that came out of my mind. I can't think of any good reason, for you to not keep it..
@Jemina (5770)
23 Feb 07
probably donating it to a charitable fund would be very noble. thanks for the idea.
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@simplysue (631)
• United States
26 Feb 07
Hold on to the ring for a couple of years Jemina. I'm sorry things didn't work out but we never know what tomorrow brings. Put it somewhere that you won't have to see it if the sight of it hurts you. If after a couple of years you two don't either get back together or he doens't ask for the ring back then get rid of it if you still want to. You shouldn't make this kind of decision now. Let yourself grieve the loss of the relationship first and then decide what you would like to do with the ring. Hugs for you.
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@Jemina (5770)
26 Feb 07
OH, thank you. That was very comforting. I really appreciate your advice. It's a very good one. Thanks for the hugs too. :-)
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@stephcjh (38473)
• United States
23 Feb 07
I would pawn it for cash or I would give it to a friend if they wanted it. You could also put it into a jewelry box and just keep it for a while. Is there a chance you may get back together with the other person? I would just hold onto it and think about it for a while. You may not want to get rid of it after all.
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@mrsturner (518)
• Canada
23 Feb 07
If you were in love with him, it would probably be better for you to sell the ring and do something (whether charity or a vacation) with the procedes. If you weren't in love with him (I say this because I was once engaged to someone I did not love - just didn't want to say no and hurt his feelings - stupid eh) have the diamond made into another piece of jewelry and enjoy it. Lots of luck.
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@Jemina (5770)
24 Feb 07
Oh, change into something else? That's another great idea. Let me think. Thanks for your suggestion.
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• United States
23 Feb 07
Turn the ring into something else like a pendant or something that you can wear. But if it reminds you too much of a time you want to try and forget, I would get rid of the ring. Sell it and use the money for a good cause.
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@Jemina (5770)
23 Feb 07
that would be a nice idea :-P thanks
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@cefaz_21 (2596)
• Philippines
1 Mar 07
Sell it! if you don't want to keep the money, donate it to less fortunate kids, families or whoever you find worthy of donations. You'll feel good about it later on.
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@Jemina (5770)
1 Mar 07
Actually, that's a very noble idea. That way, I won't be guilty of scamming or whatever. I'll think about it. thanks for your suggestion. Best regards :-D
@joluha (342)
23 Feb 07
Sell! Sell! Sell! I would maybe ask the guy who gave it to you first - I doubt he would want to give it to someone else but give him the opportunity to sell it himself. Depends if it cost a lot originally?
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@Jemina (5770)
23 Feb 07
I told him I'd return it but he said I can keep it.
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• Canada
26 Feb 07
Put it up for auction on eBay and make a little money off of it!!!! If you don't want to do that, take it to a local pawn shop.
@Jemina (5770)
26 Feb 07
Gee! That's also a great idea. Thanks! :-D
• United States
20 Jun 07
Make sure he doesn't want it back. If he still doesn't want it back, sell the ring.
• Philippines
26 Feb 07
if its an expensive ring then, sale it or give it to your best friend. no use keeping it.
@Jemina (5770)
27 Feb 07
So if it's not expensive, what would i do? :-D Anyway, expensive or not I don't want to keep it. Just wanted to make sure that selling or giving it away won't put me in trouble.