Is is OK to just respond and not start new discussions?

February 23, 2007 5:03pm CST
See the thing is, I'm new here, I don't really know what the 'done thing' is. I've jumped straight in and slung my two-pennyworth in to a few discussions and started a couple of complete flops and I've come to the conclusion I'm much happier responding to other people's postings as opposed to starting my own. If was was to find a few Mylotters on here who I find interesting and enjoy their postings would they think I was akin to a stalker if I kept responding to their posts? Would it be OK to do that? The way I see it is I was always a far better party guest than party thrower - why beat myself up trying to think up discussions to start when there are so many good ones on here I can add to. All comments appreciated and, assuming the general consensus of opinion is positive, this may well be one of the last discussions I start.
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72 responses
• United States
23 Feb 07
I respond to others way more than I post a comment. I have to say everyone gets stuck in the brain. Go get em. Have fun.
5 people like this
23 Feb 07
Well with 3861 posts to your name I guess you know what you're talking about! Thanks for your response - and BTW your website has some lovely things on it.
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@sunita64 (6473)
• India
24 Feb 07
Even I do not start many discussions only when I really want to know peoples opinion on some issue then only I start. So I feel there is nothing wrong in not starting a discussion.You can earn well simply by responding to other peoples discussions.
3 people like this
24 Feb 07
Much appreciated.
@mythmoh (3986)
• United States
23 Feb 07
i usually do respond a lot than start a discussion.first thing i didn't start discussion is i am not a good starter.second thing is though somehow i managed to start a discussion it doesn't get that much response.so i am very much confined with responding.The proof for this is i am just having less than 100 discussions under the discussions i've started tab.I am earning pretty well here for responding.
24 Feb 07
Cheers for that.
@nishanity (1651)
• India
24 Feb 07
hey buddy... it wont hurt by just responding to discussions instead of starting them.... i do tht sometimes... but u know what? you get paid a litle bit more when u start a discussion than when u get to respond to one!! so u pick your choice.... would it hurt to start some discssuions once in a while? sometimes no one responds to any of my discussions either even though they aint the boring type of discussions! i guess the time when u post them aint right!
2 people like this
24 Feb 07
Good point nishanity.
@soccermom (3200)
• United States
24 Feb 07
I think the biggest part of myLot is doing what suits you. Somedays I just respond, some days I wake up and start discussions like crazy. Don't hold yourself back from starting discussions because you don't think anyone will respond. I've started some that I thought nobody would read and they really took off! Good luck to you Bongoheads, I look forward to seeing more of you in the future.:)
24 Feb 07
Backatcha soccermom and thanks!
• United States
24 Feb 07
First off, just have fun on here. I don't write many discussions at all. I reply too ones that I find interesting, so I reply more than anything. You don't HAVE too post discussions if you don't want too. The choice is always up too you.
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24 Feb 07
Thanks valerieanne!
@tammyr (5955)
• Etowah, Tennessee
24 Feb 07
Yes it is okay. I have only started a few and they do not get a lot of responses, but we get paid for the first response so as long as there is one, I do not care if there are no more, as long as they are relevant, and not spam. I regularly go to a home page and answer lots of discussions by one person, and no one has accused me of stalking. I do this to my friends and to people i want to add to be friends, so I will see if they are the type of poster I like. I have done this to you!LOL I also asked for your friendship, as I like what you wrote on the ones I saw.I also check out discussions they have replied to, and will answer several of the same. I do not think that is stalking, I think we all do it.
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24 Feb 07
How kind Tammy - I shall go and accept your friendship offer immediately! Thank you so much for your input :-)
• India
24 Feb 07
That's ok.But if you hope to earn good money i think u should start new discussions.
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24 Feb 07
Hiya, my motivation for being here isn't financial - thanks for your input though.
@astroo13 (965)
• India
24 Feb 07
I admit it is much easier replying to some ones discussions than starting new ones. I am saying this from my experience. Most people who want lot of responses don't bother responding to all their responses. I respond to all the responses I get and since it is not that large a number I manage it easily. I fell if you have something to say you should say it irrespective of 0 responses or 50 responses. Most of the top discussions are usually on matters which I am least interested or have nothing to say on the matter. So I usually stay away. My personal opinion is you should start a new discussion if you feel like saying something or have an opinion on something. Regards
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24 Feb 07
Yes I know what you mean - I'm trying to respond to everyone now but I'm in the middle of making a mouse costume for my daughter so I'll have to do the thanks in tranches! Thank you for your comments.
@ElicBxn (60895)
• United States
24 Feb 07
If you request the people who's discussions you like to be friends, than they will love you, you can know when they post a new subject and they will know when you start one too. STALKER - heck NO!! its called friends here!
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24 Feb 07
:-) thanks for that ElicBxn - I appreciate your comments.
@znitrx (168)
• United States
24 Feb 07
It's okay to just respond to discussions. It's much easier to do this than start new discussions. It's hard to get good discussions going. If you do start one up, then it's financially great for you.
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24 Feb 07
ah well that's OK because I'm not here for the dosh!
@Tetchie (2933)
• Australia
24 Feb 07
I doubt this will be your last considering this questions success, hello! I go through phases of question asking. Can get quite intimidating considering how many great askers there are. Stalk away I say. Before long you'll have so many friends you won't know what to do with them. Some people need secretaries to keep their files in order. Welcome.
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24 Feb 07
You're too kind!
@cjthedog64 (1553)
• United States
24 Feb 07
I have seen such a variety of posts, that pretty much anything I can think of has already been written about. So I just stick with responding for the most part. Now and then I'll come up with something new, but then I barely get any responses. I have noticed that I tend to respond to the same people too. I think they just happen to be in similar circumstances and have good discussions.
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24 Feb 07
Thank you for your comments and I'll be looking out for your discussions!
@greengal (4286)
• United States
24 Feb 07
It is absolutely fine to do that Bongo, but you earn more when you start discussions too. Your discussions should be able to evoke more responses and the cents begin to flow in. All of us have had the bad discussions phase, so don't worry about it. Once you get the hang of what pleases myLottians then you will know what kind of discussions to start. The longer you stay here the better your ideas. Hope to see you around.
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24 Feb 07
Ditto greengal.
@caraj444 (1080)
• Canada
24 Feb 07
i havent started any discussions in a very long time i just post responses, whats the point in trying to rack your brain for a discussion to start, if you have a question ask it if not then might as well just post replies instead. i find it really time consuming also to go back and respond to all the responses to my discussions because im on dial up and i dont like not going back in to do comments so im happier now just giving responses and it sounds like your happy to do the same and you might as well be enjoying your time on the site or its just going to feel like a chore instead of being fun
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24 Feb 07
Good point - thanks!
@NatureBoy (493)
• Singapore
24 Feb 07
Hmm I guess all newbies have the same problems. I'm also new and Im thinking the same things as you. I also just reponse alot to the many discussions out there. I think there really is not much to think about in this. I read and see some topics that I feel I can contribute my 2 cents and just reply. I think its quite hard to come up with discussions too.
24 Feb 07
Ah well, I'm glad to hear it's not just me!
@beaniegdi (1966)
24 Feb 07
Hi, I'm new also and found this really useful. I didn't know what I was doing at first and kept posting comments to everything by mistake. It is a very lively forum with lots of interesting topics - it seems to be very addictive because of the variety. I'm glad you don't have to make new topics although I did post a couple of jokes -not sure if that counts.
1 person likes this
24 Feb 07
Well I'm very glad if my little post has helped you out too!
@Gwapako_28 (2142)
• Philippines
24 Feb 07
It is okay to respond and not to start a new discussions.But as a member of mylot, it is more okay and we are obliged to impart some thoughts which are relevant to ask and post so you can collect opinions too!Just like what you are posting here right now and this is my opinion for you!
24 Feb 07
and thank you for sharing it with me!
@mkirby624 (1599)
• United States
24 Feb 07
If you enjoy a specific poster's topics, request them as a friend, that way you can easily keep up with them. I don't like to start discussions because, like yours, mine are flops and get a max of 4 or 5 responses. I prefer to just respond, as well.
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24 Feb 07
I'm sure you're being too hard on yourself! I shall keep my eyes open for your postings in future - thanks for your response.
• United States
24 Feb 07
I believe that you will get further in mylot, whether that is making mylot friends, money, or referrals, it is better to do both. However, you are safe doing either. You are free to do whatever you like here, just enjoy yourself, and write things that follow the rules, and all will be well. Sometimes, I just respond to those on my friend list, some of the top list, and some of the new list of discussions. Other times, I just start a few discussions, it all works. The better you do in everything, the higher your rating, also. Good luck, have fun.
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24 Feb 07
Many thanks.