when to plan a second baby?

India
February 24, 2007 12:24am CST
i m married for 2 years. my first baby was cesarian. now she is 9 months old and i want to have a second baby. is it too early? please advice.
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• Canada
24 Feb 07
When you have a cesarine it is advised that you wait a little longer as you have had an operation and this is harder on the body and takes much longer to recover from . If you are really considering this though , then you should bring it up with your family doctor and see what he/she suggest as a good time for when you can start trying again . They will weigh all the pros and cons with you and let you know if this would be considered a safe time . Best of luck !!
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• India
24 Feb 07
thankyou. i will definitely see a doctor
• United States
26 Feb 07
I think it depends on you. Technically your body isn't fully healed from the c-section but that doesn't mean you can't handle another pregnancy. I got pregnant 6 months after my first c-section. They are 15 months apart. Then when my second was 4 months old I got pregnant again--they are 13 months apart. I had 3 c-sections in 2 years and 4 months time and I survived just fine. In fact my 3rd pregnancy was really easy despite chasing around a baby (who became a toddler at 10 months old) and a toddler. The recovery wasn't that bad, either and I cooked Thanksgiving dinner a couple weeks after the c-section while taking care of a newborn, 14 month old and a 2 year old (all in diapers, lol). I just had my 4th c-section last year and it was a lot harder to recover from. Not sure if it was because I was older or just bad luck. I also had a hard time adjusting to having a baby. It had been 3 1/2 years since I had a newborn in the house and was so used to not needing bottles and diaper bags and strollers and carriers, etc. My older kids were 3 1/2, 4 1/2 and 5 1/2 when the baby was born so we could just get up and go when we wanted to. They are 6 1/2, 5, 4 and almost 11 months now.
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@catcai (1057)
• Philippines
25 Feb 07
hi shalu, well for me i think its too early, your 1st born is only 9 months old- unless you can afford to get a permanent baby sitter to help you with your first born then maybe you can have a second baby, but if its juts going to be you and your husband, i think you should at least wait till your 1st born turns 2-3 yrs old. At least they can be already commanded and can be trained to be cooperative at home and not make much mess while your taking care of ur second baby.. well its just a suggestion.
• India
26 Feb 07
thankyou for the concern. but i m staying with my inlaws, and my mother-in-law is taking care of the baby since i m working. so i dont think i ll be having any problem as such.
@MrsSgtB (289)
• United States
25 Feb 07
I think it is completely up to you when you want to start for another baby. As long as your doctor gives you the ok to get pregnant again then go for it. My personal choice was to wait at least 2-3 years to have our next child. I really did not want 2 kids in diapers at the same time. Thankfully half way through my pregnancy my first born potty trained herself at the age of 2.5 yrs old. I am so greatful for that. If we do decide to have a third I will be waiting the same amount of time to try again. In the long run I want breaks to save money for high school proms and graudations...haha I have two girls so I think we will be spending lots of money through out their high school years.
• India
26 Feb 07
lovely, i guess your daughters are very sweet. u see girls are always adirable. thankfully my 9 months daughter has potty trained herself. so no more diapers. and i think by the time i ll have my second child she will be one and a half years old, big enough to play with the other one.
@JuliaPan (565)
• Canada
25 Feb 07
Ugh, for me it's too early. Not only because you had cesarian. I would wait a bit to watch and enjoy the things your first child learns to do (like first word, first step, etc.). You may happen to miss something if you have two small kids. That's my opinion. Though I already want a second baby myself :) (my first son is 6 months old only). But I will wait a couple of years I think. Wish you to make the right decision!
• India
26 Feb 07
yeah,i guess its the right thing to do. but this thought i guess is hardly going to stop me. i m just too crazy.
@sidoney (1033)
• Jamaica
24 Feb 07
It depends on how your body heal it is said it take up to 2 yrs to heal but if you get a check up and your great then why not
• India
24 Feb 07
thankyou for ur advice, i m eagerly waiting to have a second baby and i ll definitely get a check up at the earliest.
@soumyaraj (401)
• India
24 Feb 07
YES , according to me ,I think it is too early....if you had a normal delivery you could have thought about it , but since u said you had a cesarian so ,it is better to wait atleast for 2-3 yrs before you think about another baby...because due to cesarian our body also needs time to heal....so it will be good if you could wait..and have your next baby....it will be healthy for you as well as the baby......
• India
24 Feb 07
i appreciate your concern. i ll definitely discuss this in my mind before planning and will discuss this with my doc also. thankyou
@Signal20 (2282)
• United States
24 Feb 07
That's a totally personal choice. If you think you can handle a toddler running around while you're pregnant and tired, and having a toddler while dealing with a newborn, then go for it. Also think to, when you go to the store, your cart is already full of kids :) But, lots of women have done it, and I"m sure they don't regret it. My first 2 were about 2 years apart. It worked out pretty good for me, no real problems. My 3rd one is 14 months now, her sisters are 12 & 15 years old. To me that's the best, because I have babysitters now :) And they're real cheap-free :)
• India
24 Feb 07
thankyou but i havent concieved yet. so i guess if i concieve in a monthe or two by the time i ll get to my delivery she will be more than one and a half years and i guess that will be fine. what say?
• United States
24 Feb 07
No, I don't think it's too early. My youngest is 11 months old. My husband and I have been trying to get pregnant again since he was 5 months old. We also have older children. I think that having the kids rather close in age is a good thing. If you are comfortable with it, I think you may want to look in to a VBAC birth, because after 3 or 4 c-sections, I think they tell you no more kids. So it also depends on how many kids you would like, your age, and why you had the c-section to begin with. Good luck in trying.
• India
24 Feb 07
thankyou so much for ur support. i was seriously waiting for atleast one positive response so that i stand assured. thankyou once again
@mbarryton (1873)
• United States
26 Feb 07
im no doctor but i was always told that to have a baby with no complications to wait about year after your last one. if i was you since you didnt have a normal delivery id talk to your doctor. they know best and id wait to see what he/she says. good luck to you