Do all females undergo depression after the deilvery of a baby???

India
February 24, 2007 3:46am CST
Is it true that all females go through phase of depression and loneliness?? I really get scared with these inputs from my friends...I am married but whenever I think of having a family...these thoughts bother me a lot.. All mothers.. please share your views...
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14 responses
• United States
24 Feb 07
Not every woman sufferes from post partum depression. Its true that many do. But there are alot of factors that go into it. What is your support system like? Your spouse and family? Will they be there to help you when you feel overwhelmed? Do you have a history of depression, in your maternal family do they have a history of depression? If you have a history of depression, you can be aware of it, and fight it as soon as you notice a problem after the birth of your child, there are several medications that are safe while brestfeeding. I should know, i have a strong history of depression so it wasnt too surprising when i developed post partum depression 6 weeks after the birth of my frist son. I was medicated and felt back to normal within a few days. Alot of people confuse post partum depression with the very commen baby blues. Which is a general sence of being overwhelmed after childbirth but passes without depression hitting them. Im sure that you will be a great mom, dont worry about that chance of post partum depression, and think of what having a family will be like. Its far more rewarding then anything i can think of. And for a few weeks of depression i got my beautiful little boy. Hes worth all that and more. Im also happy to say i only needed medication for a few months when i was able to deal with things on my own.
• India
24 Feb 07
Thank you so much...I really cant tell you that how better I am feeling after reading your response. Ya I know it would be worth all efforts and pains that I might go through..Also I thank GOD that my husband is very supportive and he loves babies.. So all I need to do is ask for help and be optimistic about it.. God Bless You!
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• United States
24 Feb 07
Think good thoughts. Its never a for sure thing. And its so easy to take care of. Good luck to you!
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@beaniegdi (1966)
24 Feb 07
Please don't let this put you off having a baby. Lots of moms do get the baby blues and this is a reaction to the change in hormone levels after your baby is born. You can also experience low moods because you are tired from being up in the night feeding. If you have real problems with depression after you have a baby then you can get help from your doctor. Don't be embarrased to ask for help. If you try to get as much sleep as you can when your baby is little - the housework can wait - then that can help. Accept any support offered by family and friends, eat well and generally look after yourself. You get so much joy from having a baby that for most people it outweighs all the bad stuff that can come after your baby is born. However only start a family if you really want to and not because you think you should or have to.
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• India
24 Feb 07
Thanks for responding. It makes a lot of sense to me that I should think of family when I am prepared for it...Thankfully my husband also supports this view point.. Thanks dear.
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@Blazing15 (333)
• United States
26 Feb 07
Not all women go thorugh depression after having a child. I will admit that I had depression after having my first child but not after having my second. I was so scared that I would have depression again while pregnant with my second one that it drove me insane. Thankfully I didn't have it. I would try not to stress too much over it. If you do happen to start a family and after having your child you do feel some sort of depression go talk to you doctor sooner than later so that you can start to talk about it and start trying to make things better for you. You deserve to be happy and not depressed. Please don't let depression scare you out of having something so wonderful.
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• India
27 Feb 07
thanks blazing for sharing and i will surely take some learning from your experience..:)
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@anij34 (317)
• United States
24 Feb 07
I had a little bit of the baby blues after having my child. For two reasons, I didn't want to return to work and I didn't want to work 3rd shift and then stay up during the day to take care of my newborn baby. It was really hard, I was a zombie. But by the time my daughter was 3 months old the baby blues left. I was just a little sad once in awhile but it went away. Mine wasn't bad but I was glad when it was gone and I felt like myself again.
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• India
27 Feb 07
Thanks anij what I understand is at the end of the day, family support counts a lot. Only support can give you that strength to pass through all the blues and reds in life...wassay..:)
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• United States
24 Feb 07
I have six kids and have never had postpartum depression. I never felt better in my life than I did after I had my babies. I think that women who go through all that are women who have no support system in place to help them with their newborns. I know I always had my mom, my hubby and my other kids to help me and I was always happy to bring a new baby home.
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• India
27 Feb 07
hey thanks friend :)
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@charms88 (7546)
• Philippines
24 Feb 07
From what I can decipher, post-partum depression may be related by hormonal changes. When I gave birth to my eldest daugter, I had post-partum depression that lasted for a year. My husband was in an overseas country and wasn't able to witness the birth of our child and all through her first year of life. My depression may stemmed from that reason or maybe because I am really a very emotional person. With my second baby though, I didn't had any depression at all. You should not let this thing bothered you too much. Granted, post-partum depression is not something we were eager to look forward to. But upon seeing your newly born baby, all your worries and concerns will simply vanish.
• India
27 Feb 07
With help of all you dear friends I have started believing that sweet smile of my baby will definately take away all unwanted thoughts and blues....Thanks :)
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@Anixie (89)
• Philippines
24 Feb 07
I don't think most women suffers through post partum depression. I think the ones surrounded by lots of loving family are spared. I went through it myself and was able to push away the 'baby blues' with the help and support from my husband. I didn't understand and believed it myself until I went through it.
• India
24 Feb 07
Ya by God's grace i do have a supporting husband and my parents are also very helpful...So now i think i wont have a big problem dealing with it. Thanks dear.
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24 Feb 07
I think this phase of depression you are talking about is the "baby blues". I think all new mothers gets this but it supposed to be due to the dramatic change in your hormone levels because all of a sudden you have come from being pregnant to having a baby. It does pass, i think mine only last about a week or two
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• India
24 Feb 07
Ya i din't know its called baby blues. But neways thanks for the response. With each and every response I am getting lot of clarity regarding the doubts that I have rather I had...:)
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• Canada
14 Jan 08
I have an almost 4 year old son and I never suffered from depression after having him. I am due in March with another son and I'm not sure I wont suffer again but I'm the type of person that deals with things as they come. I wouldn't let it stop me from being a mother. Being a mom is the best thing ever!
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@catcai (1057)
• Philippines
24 Feb 07
Based from what i've learned from school, not all moms experience post natal depression. however, i believe that pre natal depression is more prevalent or is more experienced by almost all moms because of the hormonal imbalance happening in the their body during pregnancy, i am currently 8 months pregnant and i think im going through prenatal depression,its something i really couldn't control, all of a sudden i feel so empty and i dont even know why, then all of a sudden my mood will change, its easier to cope with these types of phases when you have a partner to help you though it, usually a husband...- unfortunately, i dont... so i find it really hard to cope up and im kinda worried what will be the effect of all my sadness towards my baby. Brooke Shields i believe has suffered from post natal depression, i think i watched it before on Entertainment Daily that she almost killed her own child because of this..
@MsEddie86 (236)
• United States
15 Mar 08
no not all females go through the depression, i did have some depression but it wasnt the i wanna jus stay n bed type i actually felt unattractive but i did go out in public but i felt that i was so ugly.it didnt last long once i lost the little weight that i had put on while i was pregnant. not everyone gets the depression my mother did not get the depression effects after pregnancy. i mean every pregnancy is different. if u have a wonderful pregnancy u may not go throught the depression at all but unlike me had to argue with my daughters father about paternity reasons, because of the simple fact we are not married and we've broken up since then because of other reasons but not everyone goes through depression. dont let depression after having a baby stop u from wanting a family.
@summta (65)
• China
15 Mar 08
I have suffered slight depression during my son three months old, but my hubby helped me carefully,and thought about every things for me at my angle. It is said that nowadays about 60% female may suffer depressions in various degree.The key problem is how you will face when it comes.So dont be worry.
@34momma (13918)
• United States
15 Mar 08
that is so not true. i have three wonderful children and i never went through depression. i hear that it happens, but the joy of having those three wonderful people never ever made me depressed
• United States
15 Jan 08
If I remember right, I was a bit lonesome after having my children. I think it comes from being "empty on the inside". It is not as bad as you think (for me anyway). The worst time that I went through this depression was when I had my tubes tied.