Who Do You Love Most In Your Family?

@lkbooi (16101)
Malaysia
February 24, 2007 6:45am CST
Hai mylot friends, would you kindly share your experience how you love your children with me. I have only one child so I don't know how parents with more than one kid treat their children. Do children share the equal love from their parents. Who do parents love most? Eldest child, 2nd child or youngest child. Or do you love your eldest sister/brother most or love your youngest sister/brother most?
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• India
1 Oct 10
I think.. I am not attached to any of my family members currently (which is a joint family). There are lot of reasons for my negligence towards them. However I always have care on my Mother, Sister and Grandma who was my real mother of all the time. But there are some persons whom I love and respect more than my family. They are always a treasure in my life. They were my biggest support for me all the time and they knew more about me than my family knows about me. (However, I think my granny is an exception here.. lol) To give a definite answer about the person whom I love the most in my family, then I would say that I like my Grandma and then my Mom and then my Sister. I dont love them equally even i knew that they all loves me equally. Let this response of mine be a part of your discussion. I will explain my words after 20 years while writing my Biography. Have a nice time, dear.. Happy Postings!
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@lkbooi (16101)
• Malaysia
9 Oct 10
Hi raghul, don't forget that blood is thicker than water. Very often we never aware that we are really fortunate to have our loved ones who are always with us all the time. This is because beef and prejudice have deceived our eyes. They never abandon us even when everyone is no longer to be with us. So try to entertain them as your friends and interact with them as what you have interacted with your friends. Might be this would promote the relation of you and your family member more intimate and understanding. I'm glad to know that apart from your beloved family members, you possess also some true friends who understand you very well. For me, genuine love is a kind of fantastic feeling. It's indescribable and a person whom we love would feel it. I treat my son and husband just like good friends. We get along with one another frankly and honestly. There is none of topic which we never like to touch upon. actually love couldn't be measured as we could only feel it as well as see it from everyday life. Yeah, as what we always heard, none of the five fingers having same length I hope I would have chance to read your great biography. Happy posting.
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• India
9 Oct 10
Wow.. What a clear explanation... I agree each and every words of yours, dear.. I will try to improve me.. (But at the sametime, there are still a lot things are hidden in my circle beyond these explanations. Even if don't try show my love and care towards my family members, I will try not to show my anger or disappointments! You will get things clear in the air when you read my Biography. Lol..) Have a nice time!
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• India
9 Oct 10
Actually I was slightly afraid whether my granny will scold for my comment that I am not attached with my family members.. But i got saved..
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@acie_21 (5647)
• Philippines
6 Feb 10
hiya there friend!.... hmmm....i love my dady so much..its because i find him approachable. and he makes me feel that im still his little girl.. when i walk down the aisle i felt sadness that i couldnt explain knowing that i wont be his little girl anymore..even though im the eldest in the family he treats me like his youngest..i never felt any problems or anger about him. he sacrificed a lot and he never let us feel that he was in pain when he has problem in his business ..we are very closed to our dady. sometimes he ask me if i still misses him.. and realized how he really misses me too..i told him "ofcourse why shouldn't i?" when i see my dad i always hug him tight to let him remind that i do miss him every single day.though i dont really show it often to him...he is always in my prayer to give him more strength in facing his obstacles in life.. i just feel weak when i saw him weak..if only i could carry his sorrow and pain..i would do it whatever it takes..every child dont want to see their parents fall and get hurt.thats how i love my dad so much and thats how he loves me too! whatever happens his still the best dad i ever had.. nice post!.. thanks! keep posting! cheers!
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@lkbooi (16101)
• Malaysia
7 Feb 10
Hi acie, after reading the touching story I can understand how close and intimate the relationship between your dad and you is. There is no generation gap at all, except lots of love, caring, understanding, etc. Yeah, in our loving parents eyes kids are always kids no matter how old and mature they are They always try their best to fulfill our needs regardless of how difficult it would be sometimes. I’m glad to know that you are a good daughter as well. And you are also doing the same good things to your dad in return. I believe he must be really happy if knowing that he is always in your prayer It’s not easy to have such loving and understanding dad, therefore cherish the relationship. Give and take and forgiveness are the ways to maintain the intimate relationship I suppose. Have a nice day and happy posting
@acie_21 (5647)
• Philippines
7 Feb 10
hi there.. heheeh!thanks for the response..hmm..i love my mom too.. but i am more closed to my dad... and yes your right..im glad to have a father that understands his children.not like others they tend to fight and hate each other.. or even leave their children in streets... i pity those children..but im thankful that im blessed to have a wonderful family as well.. thanks! happy posting! cheers!
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@lkbooi (16101)
• Malaysia
21 Mar 10
If watching people we know around we could see girls always stick to their dad and vice versa. Yesterday when my hubby and I having four o'clock tea at a bakery cafe there were two couple of mother and son enjoy eating desserts and beverage there happily. My son loves both of his parent equally but he likes to go out with me most of the time as we have more to share with. Yeah, his dad is rather strict and a bit stubborn as well. Yeah, my late mom also quite strict to me but anyway she was a caring and responsible housewife and tended to do things systematic. Yeah, we should thank god for giving us harmonious family that full of love and care. It's lucky that in my country there are state-owned as well as private orphanages to take care of the pity orphans. Therefore we could hardly see any wandering child in the street
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@jesbellaine (4157)
• Philippines
29 Apr 08
Well, I don't have kids yet but surely I will love them equally. No doubt that I love my parents but I love my mother most. I am really close to her and tell her things.
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@lkbooi (16101)
• Malaysia
30 Apr 08
Hi jesbellaine, from your words I know you will be a good and fair future mother as you will love your kids equally. Yeah, every kid loves their parents but sometimes we would tend to bias a bit and to spend more time with either one than the other.
• Philippines
30 Apr 08
Hi There. Thank you so much for your kind response! It makes my heart warm and happy. Yes, I hope someday I get to have kids of my own and be able to take care of them. You do have a great day! Cheers!
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@lkbooi (16101)
• Malaysia
1 May 08
Hi jesbellaine, you are most welcome and thank you for those kind words. Of course sometimes I did face some problems when having kids but anyhow they really brought lot of pleasures, liveliness and hopes to my family. Thanks for dropping in here again and bye ...
@boylopez (382)
• Philippines
2 Feb 12
In my own i love most my family. No one is above all. I give attention to everyone. I do not want that what i have experience in my youthful times be happen in my family.
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@lkbooi (16101)
• Malaysia
2 Feb 12
Yeah boylopez, it's certainly that we love all our family members as they are our dearest and loved ones. In fact love is hardly to share equally like solving maths. Therefore it would happen that we might rather close to someone whom we have more common interests and of course have more to share with most of the time too. Like my son, he has more to share with me than that with his dad May be my husband is rather strict and like others to follow his idea. Due to this, seems that he gives others always is a straight face. Actually his character is very benign and hospitable and likes to help others. It's true that as parents, we should do our best to love and take good care of our kids equally, even though it's difficult to do it perfectly equally exactly. Anyway parental love is warm as well as a pleasant feeling that could comfort kids and to boost them to grow up healthily and happily It's not wise and good for parents to smother the eldest or youngest or certain kids among their children with love. This is unfair to others and would spoil the favorite kid as well. Happy posting and have a nice day
@KrauseHome (35025)
• United States
10 Sep 11
Personally if you were to ask me who I loved the most, since my Mom has passed on, and I am married, with no kids of my own, I would truly have to say that it is my husband that I Love the most. He is truly my Inspiration and I would not trade him for all the money in the world. Even in the worst of times he has never failed to be there for me.
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@lkbooi (16101)
• Malaysia
10 Sep 11
Welcome Tina, really happy to have you to drop in one of my old discussion Yeah, for a married woman whoever would be the person whom she loves most? Her husband of course. The only person who is more than willing to share every thing, no matter weal or woe,joy or pain. Me too, my husband is the person I love most after my marriage. After the birth of my son both of them have become equally important in my life. But to my loving son it's mother love like what my late mom loved me. Nowadays my son has grown up and works in another state since his college graduation. I'm glad that there is an intimate loved one always by your side to support you both in spirit and life. You are fortunate Tina and your husband seems like a priceless treasure to you. Nothing is more precious than to get an authentic and sincere life's partner who have mutual support in every life Happy posting and have a nice day
@Sreekala (22720)
• India
24 Nov 10
Hi dear, In childhood I was close to my father, grandfather and paternal uncle. Mother, who was a person always saying a ‘no’, especially to her daughters she used the word ‘no’ more often. (Means girls are not supposed to do all those, lol). But on growing up I become close to my mother as I could understand her view points. After marriage and become pregnant with my first child, I realized the greatness of motherhood; I realized how much sacrifices she did for us. I don’t know why she left us so early. Now I have two kids and I think am equally treating them though my elder son is complaining that I am giving special consideration to the younger one. I told him that I treated you like the same when you were on this age. But he is not ready to accept my justifications. Regarding my in-laws home, the family is bigger than mine. Each sibling is living separately but the unity among them is rarely seen anywhere. They do much care each other and I think I am lucky ………... [This is my 3000 post and I am doing it for you deliberately]
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@lkbooi (16101)
• Malaysia
3 Dec 10
Hi Sree, thanks for dedicating the valuable and meaningful number with a three followed by three adorable zeros You know I'm so happy to receive such unique gift from you, for zero is my lucky number. I hope I would be very fortunate in the coming future, having these lucky zeros presented by my dear friend from a distant country. Lol....I will carry them together with me wherever I'm. I'm going to send this post now. It's really happy to see you to create the number with the combination of a couple of thirty. This is a fortunate figure to wish you to have a perfectly happy family, healthy and everything goes well Hopefully I don't miss the opportunity to see it... I wish this unique number you made then would be the beautiful remembrance of us when sharing feeling about our loving family members here. Okay, let's back to our topic now. Many of us realize deeply only, how great the unselfish maternal love is, and the willing of a mom to sacrifice everything for the blessedness of her children after we have children. It's quite normal for your elder son to have such thinking, for he was the only focal point before and later you have to spare time to take care of the young. He is no longer the lime light of the family in his mind, after the having of a younger brother. He seems he is neglected lol... no wonder he has such complaint. I'm looking forward to seeing the fantastic number to pop up....
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@shia88 (4582)
• Malaysia
15 Aug 10
Hi, I am a mother of one kid and For sure, I love my family alot. If i were to choose who I love most,then I would say I love my son and my husband alot. They are my priority. The next one will be my parents and followed by my siblings. We have a strong relationship among siblings and very close to our parents. If I were to have more than one kid,then I will love all of them.I will give them the same amount of love to each of them.
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@lkbooi (16101)
• Malaysia
16 Aug 10
Yeah shia88, I believe not only me there are lots of other married women would have the same thought as you. A married person always puts his or her kids as well as the spouse in the priority place. I have son only and he is now a grown up adult working and living in outstation. We keep in touch closely via phone chatting and sending email frequently. We have our family gathering several times yearly to have all the sibling families to meet and have happy moment in the reunion during the happy festive occasions A mom will love her all her kids equally for sure. Kids have their respective individual character therefore the mom treat them in different ways. And this might be made the kid thinking that his mom is unfair to them After having our own kid we then realize deeply how much our mom loves us Happy posting!
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• India
20 Mar 10
Hello my family consists of my wife, two sons, their wives and grandkids, i have equal love for all of them, but wife is naturally special, but i never have any discrimination for my kids Happy posting, cheers Bhuwan
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@lkbooi (16101)
• Malaysia
21 Mar 10
Hi Professor, you are my dear friend now It's so nice to learn that you have such a lucky and happy family with all the lovely members mentioned above. My son hasn't married yet so envy you to have adorable grand kids. I believe they always bring fun and joy to you but sometimes they are funny trouble makers as well. Yeah, no doubt we love all our loved ones but we still find there is difference between the love our kids and siblings with that of our life partner. Just like me I don't feel embarrassed and shy at all to share everything with my hubby. I have only a single son and our relationship is close and intimate. We could share lots of things in many respects but there are still a little bit put aside Have a nice day and happy posting
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• India
2 May 08
Well, I love my mommy most in my family. She gave me inspiration to do everything in my life . If she wont be there ....then I wont be here in this study system too. Because I was not interested in it ... She said me to do the things and I always use to do ... thanks !!!
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@lkbooi (16101)
• Malaysia
2 May 08
Hi there, from your description, I know clearly that your mom is the person you regard as the most loving, respected one whom you are obedient too in your family. And she is the person who influences you a lot in many aspects as well.
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@burcun (504)
• Turkey
1 May 08
I love my mother most. She is so important to me . Of course I love my father too but my mom is diffrent for me. Also I have one little sister I like her too. But now I have different family I have husband and a daughter . I love my daughter more than anything .
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@lkbooi (16101)
• Malaysia
1 May 08
Hi dear burcun, there might be a little bit bias towards either of them though we love both our parents very much. Yeah, kid of course is our every thing in life and we will love him forever.
@rhane7315 (5673)
• Philippines
1 May 08
i love my father more than my mother because we get along each other well all the time
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@lkbooi (16101)
• Malaysia
1 May 08
So do I, dear rhane, many people told me that most girls tend to love their dad more whereas boys are the other way round. I doubt how much it is true!
@PRIYANK1992 (1678)
• India
30 Apr 08
i love my sister most in my family.she is the greatest sister of the world i like her most
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@lkbooi (16101)
• Malaysia
30 Apr 08
Hi PRIYANK, I believe you do get along with you sister very fluently and happily, so that she is the person you love most in your family.
@roxanne271 (2035)
• Trinidad And Tobago
29 Apr 08
I am an only child and I am not really sorry to say that I love my dad above anyone else in my family. My reasoning is simple. My mother could use some parenting classes or something. I'm not saying she is all bad...but a few years back when I was a teenager I never used to talk to her because of the way she would talk to me, about me and sometimes treat me. Now, don't get me wrong, she wasn't abusing me but some of the things she said or even the little things she did would just be going too far. When I tell my dad, sometimes he would ask me why didn't I tell him sooner because by then she would have already gone back to her apartment or we would have already come back to our country from vacation. My dad and I were like best friends and could talk about anything and everything and I knew I could trust him as well (something I learned didn't hold well with my mum) For the few years I didn't live with my mum or dad ( I stayed at my grandparents in the USA) I still had hatred for my mother and love for my dad because things still didn't change. After a rough patch in my life, which happened "recently" (it still lingers) I realized how much my mother actually does care for me and my dad as always stood besides me and gave me support, advice and love in a way I never really thought I would ever need... Anyway, i still love my dad more than my mum, but I have forgiven her now and realized I only have one mum, no matter what happens...or happened.
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@lkbooi (16101)
• Malaysia
30 Apr 08
Hi roxanne, thanks for telling me your story during your teens. I always believe that the relationship between parents and kid should be as that of best friends and talk out our feeling freely as we wish and have mutual trust on each other, and consideration, just like what your father have done so far. That's why you love your dad more. I feel relieve and glad to know that you finally came to understand your mom does care a lot for you and you has forgiven her at last.
@itsmepinky (1301)
• India
29 Apr 08
I love my mom more then my dad. My elder brother is married and he stays in a different city as he is working there. BUt i do miss him at time. ~Pinks~
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@lkbooi (16101)
• Malaysia
30 Apr 08
Hi pinks, there must be certain reason why to love a person more than the other. Glad to know that you have a loving dad. Just opposite to you I prefer to spend my time with my dad as he was more lenient and liberal. He always respected my decision and he was unlike my mom who was stricter to me in all ways.
@williamjisir (22904)
• China
29 Apr 08
Hello dear lkbooi. I am the youngest of my three siblings, but I think that I love my mother most because my mother has been taking the best care of us children and my father included though I love my father and siblings as well. Mother's love is the most important to me during my growth to being an adult. My parents are now old in their early seventies and eighties, but I am glad that they are enjoying their life with good health. Though I have been working far away from them and my siblings for so many years, I have always been missing them all very much. In fact, I love them all as much as I love myself and my own family of three. I wish all of my family and relatives in good health. I have them in mind like they have me in mind. Family is a great bond and we live and work for the bond from generations to generations. Thanks very much for this significant discussion of yours with great appreciation.
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@lkbooi (16101)
• Malaysia
29 Apr 08
Hi dear jisir, normally the youngest is always the pet child in the family. It’s normal that a kid would tend to be closer with mother as she is more tender and caring, as father always spends most of the time working outside. I am glad that your parents are still healthy and enjoy their happy life. You are lucky to have a caring and kind hearted wife to take good care of your parents while you are working far away from your hometown. As a teacher, you have the privilege two terms of long vacations yearly during witch you could spend ample time together with your family. We treasure this much as money can’t always buy time. True, all members of our family do form a strong bond that nobody can separate anyone from us. It’s a great fortune in life to have a harmonious and healthy family. Happy posting and goodbye my dear friend.
@cheongyc (5075)
• Malaysia
9 Oct 07
I am the only child in my family and thus I don't have sibling. So the person I love most are my dad and mum. My eldest aunt is living with us and I love her too.
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@lkbooi (16101)
• Malaysia
10 Oct 07
Hi cheongyc. I am glad to know that you love your dad and mum very much as well as your aunt. I hope you won’t feel it as a burden of responsibility of being a single child of the family. I had learnt quite a numbers of cases where the teens were unhappy with the high expectations of their parents towards them. Anyway I believe teens ought to be given considerable freedom so that they are able to act themselves freely. In this way we could promote more harmonious relation between parents and kids. I always appreciate mutual reliance and support spiritually whenever we come across any hardships in life. Other than parents a relatives close friends could always play an important rule in this respect.
@acquaria (719)
• Italy
25 Feb 07
I love my both parents in equal parts
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@lkbooi (16101)
• Malaysia
26 Feb 07
It's nice to have daughter like you. Thanks for respond:)
@johndur (3049)
• Pasig, Philippines
14 Feb 13
im sure just like any other family.its always the youngest that gets the most attention and the rest get the same attentiion from their parents.
@lkbooi (16101)
• Malaysia
19 Feb 13
Yeah johndur, it's true that the youngest one is always the limelight of the famaly. This is because the big brothers and sisters can take careof themselves usually, whereas the youngest one needs others to take care of. That's why the eldest child seems to be a caring person. And the youngest child tends to be rather dependent therefore. Happy posting
@johndur (3049)
• Pasig, Philippines
19 Feb 13
Very true buddy,and sometimes they tend to bring it when they growup. The eldest be the successful one and the youngest is living a carefree life...
@lkbooi (16101)
• Malaysia
26 Feb 13
Other than environment as well as education, the way the child brought up would affect them very much when they have grown up I suppose. That's why big differences in characters and habits of kids in same family are available usually
• Malaysia
1 May 08
I love all members of my family. My mum and my dad love me very much, so as my sister. They do a lot of things to make me happy. Although because of studies i move to another city, but i go home every week so we can see each other.
@lkbooi (16101)
• Malaysia
2 May 08
Hi dear Athrun, I believe all the children love all the members of their family equally. The difference is that sometimes we might tend to spend more time with one only among them because you and he or she have the same interest or same opinion in many aspects.
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• United States
1 May 08
You love your children equally, no matter how many you have. There are things about individual children you like more or less but the love is the same. I would give my life for either one of my children. I feel the same about my grandson. As far as siblings go, I am closest with my youngest sister and I have two others in between. I may not like things about them but I love them all anyway. We fight and disagree but if push came to shove, I would do anything for any of them. Rosemary decosales
@lkbooi (16101)
• Malaysia
2 May 08
Yeah, I agree with you, we love all our children equally without any condition. We know each child has individual character. Sometimes the mischievous one would regard our scolding as siding the other sibling and think that we love the other more than him. Or the other child likes helping in the household chores so he spends most of the time with us. To others this seems that he is more intimate with us. So extent of love is just a matter of personal feeling I believe.
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