Mood swings

@ausnikki (4055)
Brisbane, Australia
February 24, 2007 7:07am CST
As a lot of you would know my daughter is pregnant and has recently moved home with her partner.I have noticed with her she has been having some shocking mood swings.Her poor partner is copping alot of it.Thank goodness it's not me lol.I have been telling her partner that her hormones are running rampant at the moment but the poor guy can't say anything without her jumping down his throat.The problem is he bites back which makes it worse than it might have been had he kept his mouth shut.I have told them if they keep it up I am going to bang their heads together lol. Did any of you have mood swings this bad? I don't remember having them this severe when I had my kids.
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@caramello (4381)
• Australia
2 Mar 07
I think I was better when I was pregnant even with all the problems that came with it, as PMT was not around for the time of the pregnancy but boy did it come back with a vengence! lol Hormones can play a huge part in mood swings and need to have someone to understand them that is around!
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@ossie16d (11827)
• Australia
7 Mar 07
Oh I had some pretty severe mood swings while I was pregnant and they were caused by a few things, at least according to my Doctor. They included the fact that the hormones are running rampant, plus the stress and worry that everything would be okay. There is actually nothing that anyone can do, except maybe find out if she is concerned about the baby. It might mean a little mother and daughter chat, to see if you can get to the bottom of it. Tell her also that studies have found that women who fight while they are pregnant could end up with a unhappy cranky baby. Well, they do say that the baby can hear even while it is in the womb, and in fact it is recommended that the mother should listen to soft soothing music. This "supposedly" means they will have a contented baby, rather than a cranky one. After talking to your daughter, then talk to her partner and let him know that biting back only exacerbates the situation. Also repeat the words about how it is best for the baby if there is no conflict. I cannot say whether this is fact, or wishful thinking, but what harm can it do to tell them if it stops some of their arguing. LOL Good luck nikki and I do hope that you can enjoy some peace now, before the baby comes that is, as you will surely be very busy after then.
@ausnikki (4055)
• Brisbane, Australia
14 Mar 07
Thank goodness it seems that the hormones are leveling out.The mood swings don't seem to be anywhere near as bad as they were.I did have a chat with her and she was concerned about the baby because of the early bleeding, but as she has had an ultra sound now and has been told everything is as it should be she has calmed alot
@ossie16d (11827)
• Australia
28 Mar 07
It is good that things are levelling out a bit now nikki, and hope that all is going well for everyone. Thanks very much for giving me best response on this discussion, and it is really appreciated. (Not been around much lately because of other things, but now trying to catch up on everything).
@ausnikki (4055)
• Brisbane, Australia
28 Mar 07
Welcome back ossie,I have missed you.You are so welcome for best response.My daughters mood swings have improved dramatically since she has gone over the 12 week danger period.
@brokentia (10396)
• United States
15 Mar 07
Oh man! Did I ever have the mood swings something bad!!! I would get really really upset and do the same thing as your daughter. And the more he opened his mouth, the worse it made it. ha ha But then I would get the mood swing where I would start crying because I felt bad. But those were the times when he didn't open his mouth. Then I would calm down and realize that I was the one getting upset over nothing. But to have him point this out to me...and it was no longer pointless. The best thing for him to do...is to learn to just agree with her. She will then calm down and apologize. LOL :) Hang in there...it sometimes gets worse in the last trimester. ha ha
@ausnikki (4055)
• Brisbane, Australia
16 Mar 07
She has actually been alot better lately,thank goodness! She had an ultra sound and knows everything is fine with the baby, and that has been a load of worry off her mind.She and her partner still have some spats but nowhere near as bad as they were.He is learning to keep his mouth shut.I'm really not looking forward to the last trimester if the mood swings get that bad again!.lol
• United States
2 Mar 07
It all depends on the person, stress, their security, etc. Just have a talk with her and they both need to sit down and talk. Like he can remind her or say something sweet that will remind her to calm down, something like "honey its okay, I understand." and just listen until she's done. On her part, she needs to work on thinking positively. If she is constantly nagging him, the thought where there before the hormones. He may need to actually listen to what she's saying. Listening to it all, all at once, would overwhelm him. I suggest you sit down with her and talk to her about how woman always do that, and they are even more emotional while pregnant. Remind her of all the good things going on, make her smile and laugh, and while she's in a hormonal mood on the HAPPY side, maybe you could say "you have to work on realizing when your getting emotional so you can calm down and take care of the baby" Woman are much better than men at dealing with stuff like this, in my opinion, so he should understand and she should recognise, and together they can be mostly-stress-free. This is my opinion and ideas. hope it helps.
@ausnikki (4055)
• Brisbane, Australia
3 Mar 07
Thank you for your response.I have sat my daughter down and had a chat about her mood swings and I can honestly say that she is trying to be alot calmer now.
@BELMCstar (1341)
• Australia
26 Feb 07
I don't remember having mood swings quite so bad when I was pregnant, but it was a while ago (the youngest will be 5 in about a week).
@ausnikki (4055)
• Brisbane, Australia
26 Feb 07
I don't remember having them this bad either
@isasice (2015)
• Iceland
25 Feb 07
Oh poor girl! I went through terrible mood swings while I was pregnant and was actually surprised I still had any friends left after that :). I never thought I would get like that because it usually takes a lot to upset me but during that time, anything and everything would make me mad. My husband never said a word (11 years later he still has hardly said a word). The worst of my mood swings hit me at work, I ended up in a big fight with my boss, walked out and got another job. I hope your daughter gets over this soon, this was the only part of being pregnant that I didn't like.
@ausnikki (4055)
• Brisbane, Australia
25 Feb 07
Well at least I'm glad to know she's not the only one to be like this.It can be very taxing on the other members of the household.I hope she gets over it soon! :)
@gabs8513 (48715)
• United Kingdom
24 Feb 07
No I don't remember having them this severe either. She might need some Vitamins Ausnikki to settle her Hormones and that. It is a bit strange that she has them this severe.
@ausnikki (4055)
• Brisbane, Australia
25 Feb 07
She is already taking the preggy vitamins Gabs.Though she is having trouble taking them.She has a doctors appointment tomorrow,I think I will ask him/her about the mood swings.
• Kuwait
24 Feb 07
not me but my frined, she doesnt like her husband around but when her husband is not around she is more mad and crazy, she even choose to go on vacation alone for one month.
@ausnikki (4055)
• Brisbane, Australia
25 Feb 07
Wow those are extreme mood swings!
@kathy77 (7488)
• Australia
24 Feb 07
Oh yes a lot of woman when they are pregnant have bad mood swings, yes it would make it worse when your daughters partner bites back it always does. My temper was not the same when I was pregnant but mainly it was not too bad either.
@ausnikki (4055)
• Brisbane, Australia
25 Feb 07
It just drives me nuts with the constant b*tching back and forth
@mmiller26 (1932)
• Canada
24 Feb 07
Hormones really mess us up, don't they? Her partner needs to understand that she doesn't have a whole lot of control over what's going on right now, and that sometimes the best thing to do is leave her alone instead of arguing with her. I didn't have so many problems when I was pregnant, but when I'm expecting my period, I'm a basketcase. I'll get angry and freak out and then start crying, for absolutely no reason. And I know it's happening and I know it's irrational but really can't do anything to stop it. My husband has learned that when I'm like that to just leave me alone until I feel better. And don't forget, she's probably getting to the stage in pregnancy where she's uncomfortable, feeling poor about her body, and just wanting it to be over. A little understanding will go a long way. Congrats to your daughter, and congrats to you on the pending birth of your grandchild. :)
@ausnikki (4055)
• Brisbane, Australia
24 Feb 07
Thank you for your congratulations.My daughter will be 9 weeks on Tuesday so this is only the beginning of her pregnancy.I hope this isn't a sign of things to come as she gets further along lol. I have told her partner to keep his mouth shut but he can't seem to help himself lol.
@mel_87 (856)
8 Mar 07
hiya, i cant really remember if i did i can remember having a really bad craving for picked onions but not mood swings but saying that i dont think i had the chance for mood swings lol