How many kids would you like to have?

United States
February 24, 2007 9:15am CST
My hubby and I have been discussing for some time (even before the marriage) starting a family within two years and are discussing how many children we want. I think two would be fine. He thinks three or four. What about a happy medium?
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@KaMlBob (786)
• United States
25 Feb 07
I had 6 kids, 5 boys first and then my daughter. My first four with my x were so easy! They were close in age and kept each other occupied well, but the other last two are 6 years apart and fight, well, kind of fight, they have nothing in common and therefore get on each others nerves! I think having them closer together, no less than 2 years apart is ideal.
• United States
25 Feb 07
My husband and i have discussed this and we will discuss this even further. We are expecting our first child and he says he wants as many as he can have. I on the other had have tried to talk him into having at two. I think we will end up probably having 3 but that the max.
@pittan (156)
• United Kingdom
25 Feb 07
My wife and I had planned to have two children. However we have been fated to have only one child. We have now given trying to get a second as age is catching up.
• United States
25 Feb 07
When my husband and I first got married, he said that he wanted 5 kids- but then after we had our first child, he changed his mind and said 2 or 3 (he didn't realize how much time they take and that it's not all fun and games.lol.) I still want 4, I would really like and even number and I just don't think that 2 would be enough for me because I love my children so much.
@JuliaPan (564)
• Canada
24 Feb 07
Before my son was born, I thought two children were enough. Now I think I will give birth to more two kids. No matter, boys or girls, though to have children of different sexes is a great experience. But I'm almost 30, and I want to be in time for enjoying parenting and to have time later for my career!
• United States
24 Feb 07
Dh and I have 2 girls. I say we are done unless we adopt (which I really want to do), but he wants to try for a boy again. I want a boy too, REALLY REALLY bad and as bad as this is going to sound written out, I would be really disappointed with another girl and I don't want those feelings to make me love "her" less if that makes sense. However, he is not opposed to adoption and we have also talked of fostering children.
• Malaysia
24 Feb 07
For me, if we have three or four that is fine because our kids is our truth property. They are our live.
@lillake (1634)
• United States
24 Feb 07
I have 2 and that's a perfect number for me right now. Maybe in 3 or 4 years I may want another, but for now 2 is fine. I think you should have as many children as you feel comortable raising. :)
@MrsSgtB (289)
• United States
24 Feb 07
My husband and I said the same amount right after we got married. After we had one he said that is fine no more. Then after he returned from Iraq he was ready for another. I am happy with the two kids we have. Also having them 3 years apart is lovely. One is out of diapers and is able to do things on their own while the other is in diapers and still dependent on the parent 100% of the time. My 3 yr old is a big helper with me and her baby sister. I think once we hit 3 we are out numbered and our house will be a complete disaster. haha.
• United States
24 Feb 07
Well, I always wanted four, but ended up with six. I think that I have the perfect number. Just think about the financial responsibility of raising children, the diapers, the clothes the food, the activities and everything that kids need can really add up fast if you aren't careful. We do alot of hand me downs and shopping at discount stores and on ebay. You just have to think about what you think you can afford and what you and your spouse can handle as parents. My grandparents were poor as dirt and had eight, but always managed to keep a roof over their heads and clothes on their backs. So if you want name brands and expensive stuff, then one or two is the number.
• Nigeria
24 Feb 07
I will like to have two or three kids say a boy and a girl or two boys and a girl.I want to have good time for each so that i can be able to control and take proper care of them both morally and financially.
@sgshetti (30)
• India
24 Feb 07
i also agree with you that every married couple should havetwo kids.i certainly would not recommend more than two.mainly because if a cople has two kids they can amnageb to look after then very well.and give proper attention and care to them when they are growing and can rear them well.even financially two kids,happy family.
• United States
24 Feb 07
My husband and I aren't realdy to have kids any time soon. So I have no idea how many kids... I hope not too many.. I think one is good. And we're talking about adopting...
@coolsid2007 (1031)
• India
24 Feb 07
For me ideal situation would be a Girl and a Boy... Boy being elder... but in either ways i'd want 2 kids Only... at the max...i dnt think i can handle more ... or i want to handle more...