Anger management

Anger - A frustrated man
Singapore
February 25, 2007 9:51am CST
How do you guys and gals deal with anger? What do you do when you feel the volcano erupting out of you? For me, where it is viable, I drop down to the floor and do some push-ups to work off my frustration. It is a win-win situation when you think about it - you feel calmer, and get fitter in the process.:)
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@Chele2k2 (241)
25 Feb 07
For me when I feel some pent up anger building up inside me, I will do one of two things. 1) Go into another room, where I can be alone and listen to some music. It helps to calm me and put me in a better frame of mind. 2) Get a bit physical, channel my anger into something constructive, whether it be, tackling some unfinished jobs or doing some household chores. By the time i've finish what I have done, i've usually forgotten why I was so angry in the first place. Instead of anger, i'll feel pleased with myself because I would have accomplished something, even if it is just cleaning out the toilet ...........lol
• Singapore
25 Feb 07
Well done, pal. I like your second alternative better though since it is constructive anger management where you channel your anger to something positive. Many times, it is tempting to be destructive - like bashing someone up or something like that, ha!
@Chele2k2 (241)
25 Feb 07
It is temping to bash something but that leads to sore knuckles, holes to repair and a bigger reason to be angry ....... lol
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• Singapore
26 Feb 07
Ha ha! But I grant you, that's true - though you get tougher bones after that. :P Bashing something releases that energy - that frustration in you. Imagine if someone invents a way to convert this intangible energy called frustration into something that can really be used (literally) ....
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@suryapal (36)
• India
14 Mar 07
the best way to control your anger is that you will be quit for a while and and look different activities of different people around you it willl really make you smile becouse most of activities done by the persons are like a drama...so people must try it it will work
@kritipen (4083)
• United States
26 Feb 07
Music is the medicine for me. Everytime for sleep or stress or anger music always comes to my aid. And not all types of music it is classic music that i listen to everytime i am in need of some relief from excess stress or anger and it always provides me the relief.
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@Shaun72 (15968)
• Palatka, Florida
15 Mar 07
for me I start cleaning house. Or leave to get away from the person I am fighting with
@maddysmommy (16233)
• United States
16 Mar 07
I do the same. I do my best cleaning when I'm angry. Depending on why I'm angry, if its something trivial then I deal with it there and then with whomever I am arguing with. If it's a bigger problem, then I need to calm down before I can talk it over and getting away from the person is the first thing I do, whether its cleaning, or going for a long walk.
@charms88 (7541)
• Philippines
15 Mar 07
Hmmm...I might do that push-ups thing you're mentioning. Gives me extra muscles. In days when I'm really upset, I will clean my house from top to bottom, even the drawers were re-organized. I never experienced feeling that volcano erupting inside of me though. After an hour, I'm back to normal again. I never stayed angry for long. Don't want to have wrinkles yet. "smile"
@fxfriski (209)
• Singapore
14 Mar 07
Just had to contribute to this one... hehehe... I am working on an experiment, wonder how many people would be interested to try it out. When you get angry, raise your head and look UP. Let's see how long you can stay angry in that position.
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@Grandmaof2 (7603)
• Canada
14 Mar 07
Bless your heart, I wish everyone had this kind of anger attitude/management... Take Care...
@flowerchilde (12538)
• United States
16 Mar 07
Good idea! I'll have to remember that next time! Usually I do one of two things, retreat (well I most always do that, as I don't believe much in arguing) but I may go and sit quietly somewhere.. or very often I will tackle a chore I've been putting off, even if it's just the dishes or something.. Then you feel happy you got that jopb done. I think exercise is a great idea too!
• Singapore
16 Mar 07
This is a good idea - converting that awful bundle of energy towards fighting procrastination. :P
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@xParanoiax (6997)
• United States
18 Mar 07
If I get really angry I seem to get calmer. If that makes any sense lol. I'll release some steam by writing..or I'll begin to clean -- even though I clean more and better when I worry than when I get angry lol. But most often I'll write or read a book. Take my mind off it til I can handle what I got angry at, logically.
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• India
18 Mar 07
actually i m not getting angry normally, but to control my anger i generally remains silent for sometimes .
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@Modestah (11192)
• United States
18 Mar 07
I may drop down to the floor as well, only to pray instead of do push ups. I really struggle for meekness and have a choleric personality which I must make a concertive effort to overcome, and then, the cleaning is also a great way to release that energy.
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@Erilyn (3020)
• United States
13 Jun 07
I know this is an older discussion, but I just happened to see it, forgive me please? When I get anmgry I usually clean. Considering I have a teenage daughter that gets on my nerves my house is always clean lol. Then I will listen to relaxing music and do some yoga streches, and do some meditation.
• Singapore
13 Jun 07
20 push-ups later.. ok, forgiven. LOL :P
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@Erilyn (3020)
• United States
13 Jun 07
forgive the spelling too please I didn't realize it was that bad till i just reread it lol. Wow I need more coffee before I start to try to have discussions lol.
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• Singapore
13 Jun 07
Well my grasp of English is sufficient enough to read past the typos. :P
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@kelly60 (4548)
• United States
15 May 07
Sometimes I calm myself with music, sometimes I take my anger out on my household chores. Some days one works better than the other.
• Singapore
15 May 07
Try both. Play music and do some cleaning. :P
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@kelly60 (4548)
• United States
16 May 07
Quite often that is what ends up happening. I might start out doing one or the other, but usually end up doing both before it is over.
11 Jul 07
I have been accused of having a short fuse on occasion hun. When I get that wound up and angry I take myself off to a quiet place and let rip. I've *killed* a cushion before now, a few swift punches helped a lot though.
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• Singapore
11 Jul 07
What an innocent cushion. I hope you said some prayers for it.:P
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• Malaysia
17 Jun 07
I obviously has no good anger management skill, normally I will keep quiet sitting at my place, keep myself calm for few minutes, then I'll find a victim and start to complain about what i am angry about for few hours. If it's about somehting that i can't complain to anyone, i will go back and get a nice sleep.
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• Singapore
17 Jun 07
If you can keep quiet for a few min, that's pretty good management! :P
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• India
13 Jun 07
Hey I am not like you, surely I can't just drop down and do push ups every time I get angry. Actually I am a bit lazy :P. But being a pisces its nice, as I can't be angry for long. It just comes like the wind and goes like the storm. All I need to do is to handle myself for those few seconds. And for that I always try to divert my mind to some happy things or other goals that I have to acomplish, or just some other work. I don't have to do it for too long as I calm down instantly. Haha I feel its a good blessing. Any ways Take Care May GOD Bless YOU
• Singapore
13 Jun 07
That's why it helps you not to get angry easily - since you don't want to do push-ups lol. :P
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@Chryssi (828)
• United States
13 Jun 07
For me, I usually keep my anger inside. I keep it at bay, until it is just too much, and I just explode. I want to be left alone if I'm angry, and God help those who bother me. If I can't find any peace, then I take a long, long walk. A lot of the time, though, I take my anger out on my house by scrubbing it from top to bottom.
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• Singapore
13 Jun 07
This is actually quite dangerous.. you are like a dormant volcano just waiting to erupt. :P
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• Australia
18 Mar 07
Well, since I seldom get angry, I had to think about this one, and I've come to the conclusion: get OLD! When I was young I had a bad temper. I got angry quite often. Maybe I should say I had flaming red hair, so can I blame my hair? Redheads are supposed to have a temper, aren't they? I think it has been many, many years since I've been angry or impatient. I don't think I've purposely done anything to curb it, though I do believe it is a waste of energy. It achieves nothing good, and probably hinders rational thinking, and causes ill will, so it doesn't make sense to get angry. Apart from that, as I said, maybe you just have to get old!
• Singapore
18 Mar 07
You are lucky if you seldom get angry. And yes, redheads are supposed to have that famous temper... :P
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@Perry2007 (2229)
• Philippines
16 Mar 07
Greatmanagement. there is a way they say that you can release anger, get a baseball bat and hit it hard releasing your anger on some punching bag. Shout if you want and release all the tention and anger inside you.
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• Singapore
16 Mar 07
I've always wanted a punching bag in my room.. but I can't find space for it after I put a sofa in my room...
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@teleios (738)
• Philippines
13 Jun 07
when i feel so angry that i feel like i'm about to blow up, i usually cry, if it comes to that or i 'll just take deep breaths and think of positive things. or, i eat...anger usually gets me craving for siomai.;)
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