should i finish with my parrtner if i cant give him a child and let him move on

February 25, 2007 9:57am CST
to some one who can give him a child. me and my partner really want children, but im having doubt that i cant give him what he wants, im 31 and his 29. i have had 2 misscarriage already this will be my 4 time in trying, but for me and my partner it be our 2nd, as we lost our 1st child at 3 months before i got to the 2 nd stage of pregnancy,i just feel guilty cox all i ever want it a child, maybe i will never be able 2 give him such a gift, and be better of with sumone who can.
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• United States
25 Feb 07
I think if your partner truely loves you he'll be supportive and would prolly be hurt that you think he'd want to be eith someone else over something like that. You should obviiously consult your doctor and see if there is something wrong inside your body that's causing this to happen. My sister had 3 miscarriages befoer going to the doctor and getting a stitch in her uterus. Afterwards she had 4 kids and no more miscarriges. You could also look into surrogates to bear your children, it gets costly but there are plenty of people out there who are willing to do it. A sister maybe? That should cut down on the expence and the child would prolly look like the both of you.
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25 Feb 07
already spoke to the dor but done no good, have 2 lose 1 more before they will look into, they done me a scan and nothink is wrong, so we just have to wait till im pregnant again and see what happens
@BeachBaby (819)
• United States
25 Feb 07
Sweetie don't give up and if you truly love each other he will be there to support you and your problems, I have been trying over a year and haven t even had as much luck to even get pregnant.. Hang in there, its tough but god will produce you one when he is ready or knows you are ready, Consult more with your doctors to find out what you can do different
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25 Feb 07
i know but want a child with my partner for 2 yrs is so long and when we got our 1st wish in oct 05, we was never happyer, only to be let down 3 months later.. i dont want the same mistake to keep happening, he was so happy when i calld him daddy he said why u calling me daddy im not ur dad i said no but where having a baby.you should of seen the look on his face, and for him 2 be let down he was so guted, i cant put him though that again, we spoke about the bay yesterday 1st time in a year, and only talking about it with him made me upset.ty for replying