im confused wid love or marriage?

India
February 25, 2007 3:07pm CST
I love a person for two yrs now.for an yr it was two sided bt then all of a sudden due to circumstances we lost contact..even today i have his pic on my cellphone..i call him to listen to his voice mail,love to read our online conversations..i knw he wasnt wid me all these days bt still im happy..Now all of a sudden a close fren of mine who knws everythin about me has propose to me and he wants to marry me..People do u think its fair to response him for his proposal or shud i jus ignore him n be the way im right now....let me know wat u guys think
3 responses
@Iccara (131)
• Australia
25 Feb 07
Dont marry someone because they ask you to marry them. You have to marry someone because you love them unconditionally and want to spend your life with them. Marriage is hard and it takes both people to make it work. YOu will have your ups and downs, but it is really important that you are both in the marriage for the right rreasons or things will not work. Take it from me.. MArriage is difficult... I have been married for 3 years. Over that time we have had some great experiences and some times that you wish you would never go through. Its important to love the person you are married to or it will never work. Im sure there are people out there who say they have the perfect marriage.. Im not one of them. Me and hubby disagree on most things, we are completely opposite. We have different dreams and aspirations and a different outlook on life, but with compromise it makes life easier. We argue.. but we care and love each other. It doesnt matter if you dont see eye to eye and disagree and argue, as long as you are both together for the same reasons, love and partnership, you will get through. Marriage is hard enough without not loving the person you are with. One more thing... My hubby and I were together for 3 years. I had 2 really close male friends, 1 bought me an engagemnet ring and proposed, the other one took me shopping one night and said "I want you to chose a ring. I want to marry you" I said no to both these people. I did not love them (plus i was in my relationship and they knew he was going to propose). A month later my hubby took me on a romantic night away and proposed. It was the best night of my life. Neither of the other guys would of made me happy. We were great friends, but friends for a reason. There was no "spark". There was only a love of friendship not companionship.
• India
26 Feb 07
i love ur words n very much accept to wat u say..Coz i have been thru this kind of situation earlier too..bt thn this time im in a situation where i have to have someone in my life..
@Iccara (131)
• Australia
27 Feb 07
i understand completely what you mean. The right person will come along and you just have to be patient. You will find that when you are looking for love it doesnt come, but as sonn as you are happy with your life men will be coming out of the wood work wanting you. Take up a sport or go to a dance class. Get yourself out there and start doing things and being happy. You will be amazed where you can meet people. If you want to play a sport but dont have any friends that want to play one, call up your local sport centre. They are always looking for extra people for teams. I did that and met some wonderful people. Good luck!!! Thanks for the best response
@rekhum (2434)
• India
26 Feb 07
Long distance relationships can be messy and upsetting. Its always better to double him or her before you decide to marry him.Try to know him inside and outside for atleast 1-2 years before you decide to settle with him.If the guy's your long time friend i don't think he would feel any indifference towards you and that you should reject him.
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• India
26 Feb 07
ty so much janger......lol.really felt good to read ur words
@Anakata2007 (1787)
• Canada
25 Feb 07
Don't marry someone you don't love. You need to respond to his proposal but I hope you don't agree to marry him if youre still in love with someone else. don't ignore him, but stay single, be friends only with him, and stop pining over the other man whose gone away. Be single for a while until the right man comes along.
• India
26 Feb 07
very true.bt u knw i knw this fren for almost 4yrs now.And yesterday we met after a gap of 2 yrs and he says he still wants to discuss further..thatswhy i got confused.thanks for ur reply