my no good very long day...

Canada
February 25, 2007 9:15pm CST
I woke up this morning to my four year old daughter drawing on the walls with a red felt pen. Found out it was more than one wall she drew on. Then I get up, she is being so miserable. I don't know what to do with her when she is like this. My DH gets up, and then she acts like such a spoiled child. My 13 year old is dictating to me when I should leave the house, and take him with me. I take him with me on this huge long walk, we drop rentals off, hit up a couple of stores, and expect to catch a cab home. No such luck, they end up being completely full. So we end up having to run for a city bus, and he ends up losing one of our cans of veggies in the process. We get on the bus and he is complaining the entire way home. We get home, and my four year old is still acting up. Then later on, my 13 year old phones his uncle and is telling his uncle I don't do anything with him (what about that 3 hour walk and talk we just did) and he demanded I take him to the park WHILE I was in the middle of cooking dinner. Because I said no, I am cooking dinner, he then proceeds to tell me what to do, and he told his uncle I never do anything with him, etc. which by this point I was furious because here I am at 6 at night cooking dinner, and he demands I drop everything for him. Then flash to my daughters bedtime. She starts pitching a huge fit, thus David is telling me what to do, my DH is telling me what to do, and im about to go crazy... So now my 13 yr old is downstairs punching something, and I am nuts. I mean come on man this kid tells me what to do all the time. I can't do anything right by him. I bought him a dvd player a couple of days ago, because he complained his wasn't working. And today he complained his hair was bugging him, so he wanted a hat. But yikes today I make this huge dinner and hardly anyone ate anything! I am so mad! Sorry just needed to vent.
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@lonewolfnan (4367)
• Canada
26 Feb 07
Sounds like you went thru the Day of Hel* where no one appreciated anything you tried to do for them and frustration really set in.Well,you survived the Day without killing anyone and things should be quieting down........until tomorrow. Being a parent is one of the hardest jobs someone can undertake.It is a 24/7/365 job where the benefits are sometimes a hug or a "thank you".Sometimes the benefits are few and far between,but when they do happen you feel like you were given millions!. A hard thing to do is putting aside some time each day for just you.Your own personal "time out".But if you do not take care of yourself,how will you be able to take care of your kids?? Here is a (((HUG))) and a THANK YOU for all the times I never said it to my parents.
@mari61960 (4895)
• United States
26 Feb 07
Ya that sounds like a bad day alright. I think that you would feel better if you took time out to thank God. Thank God your 13 year old wasn't 1 of triplets and your 4 year old isn't a twin...lol Sorry I know it's probably not funny to you but what can you do, kids are gonna be kids... I think sometimes if we could only put them in a cage until they are 25...hehehe Bus seriously you really do have your hands full. Sounds like maybe it was just one of those days for all of you... Well I guess you won't have to cook tomorrow...Leftovers..lol I think you should take some quiet time for you asap even if it's just an hour to relax in the tub or read a book. Hope you have a better night and day tomorrow.
• Canada
26 Feb 07
LOL! Thank you, I needed the laugh!!! :) I thank myself each day that my four year old wasn't a twin - she's very smart for her age, and she gets bored really easily...
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@mari61960 (4895)
• United States
26 Feb 07
I'm glad I gave you a chuckle. Kids can be trying, especially when they are smart..lol Thanks for best response...have a good night.
@imsilver (1669)
• Canada
26 Feb 07
Vent away hun, that's what we're here for. And I'm sorry for your day. Just think.. soon you can kick them all to bed.. take a deep breath and just relax... I suggest that you pick a couple of days and don't do ANYTHING for your son at all. Make him realize exactly how much you do do for him. And as to the daughter writing on the walls... ouch... my girls has done that to me a couple of times. Her bedroom wall has had a not so well drawn picture on it for awhile now as well as "gurl power" that she copied of a bratz poster.. lol.. I'd wash it off but it's a good example of what she's NEVER going to do again if she wishes to enjoy a long and happy life. A friend of mine still has the faintest of a big orange circle that my daughter was kind enough to put on his wall when we stayed there for a couple of days. He and various girlfriends have tried everything to get rid of it but it refuses to go away.
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• Canada
26 Feb 07
I should ! He has been such a butt lately... Thankfully they are in bed now, yay!
@SpitFire179 (2536)
• Canada
26 Feb 07
Awwww, sorry to hear hun, I don't think anyone can do anything about anything else but be here for you, but for those nasty marker stains, i recommend getting the Mr.Clean magic eraser, it's amazing, and no I'm not just saying that, it takes off anything, permanent or not, man it's wonderful... Maybe that'll make it a little better for you? 13 year olds, i know they always act out, you remember the days doncha? haha I do... Anyways, i really hope tomorrow's better... you got a couple of kids at that age as they always say... take care.
• Canada
26 Feb 07
Yup I sure do, and I was a lot harder on my mom than he is on me. But the other thing is he has ADHD and Oppestional Defiant Conduct disorder so sometimes I don't know if its just him being a typical kid or what?? :(
• United States
26 Feb 07
It sure does sound like you've had a hard day. Teenagers are tough to deal with sometimes...I know I put my parents through you know what during my teens. Do you think maybe something is bothering him and causing this behavior? Have you considered family counseling? In any case I hope the vent made you feel better and that tomorrow will be a better day!
@sellj75 (208)
• United States
26 Feb 07
I understand. I ahve those days too. The only thing to do is just remember it won't last forever. I have 4 kids, and know that sometimes we have those days. Just hang in there, and be glad the day is almost over, and we can start fresh in the morning (hopefully without drawing on the walls lol).
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@trouble1 (29)
• United States
26 Feb 07
Sounds awful I have a 13 year old daughter that just got ungrounded after being grounded for around a month and a half and now she thinks shes the boss so she may not be ungrounded for long. Just think in about ten to fifteen years he will be leaving you alone and driving some other woman crazy. A tip for the red tip marker the magic eraser by Mr Clean or you can buy them at the dollar store will take nearly anything off or you can try W-D 40 it works miracles too. If neither of those work let me know I have other things you can try also. Hope you have a better day.
@Trace86 (5034)
• United States
26 Feb 07
I hope today is a better day for you and yours. I hope you find some way to let your 13 year old know that he is not the boss without knocking out all his teeth. Maybe you could take away some of his privileges. "I don't like the way you are talking to me. If you don't stop right now, you will not be allowed to watch TV or have dessert tonight" Then stick to it. If you make a threat, you must follow through. If the other stuff doesn't work on the marker, try baking soda. Make a paste and rub on the stain. It's kind of like a lower abrasive Soft Scrub. Good luck!
@mamakat (321)
• United States
26 Feb 07
LOL! Oh, can I ever empathize with those long, rough days. Mine are currently all under the age of six, so I know I'm in for some interesting times ahead. The big thing to remember is that this too shall pass! Never forget to take that big, deep, cleansing breath before saying anything. And most importantly, act instead of react. :( I understand completely how frustrating things can be in the moment. I know there are days I keep my eye on the clock and do the countdown till DH comes home and I have free hands for somewhere in the neighborhood of oh, 18.2 seconds before someone melts down or needs something again. Not that it's my place to give parenting advice, but sounds like your 13 year old needs to understand that he's the child and the world doesn't revolve around him. There is a proper time and place for everything, and that means there are times he needs to wait to get something he wants or needs. Or even that there are times he just plain won't get something he thinks he needs. I'm sure I'll go through my share of experiences like this. And I'm just praying I can remember to keep a feeling of calm in the heat of things. Hang tough, and always remember that tomorrow's another day. Oh, wait a second. That could be bad too. lol--kidding! Keep your head up and have a good one!
@tarsadawn (350)
• United States
26 Feb 07
I hate those days. I spent half the day Saturday cleaning my room, where I found lots of crayon marks on the walls, and even some on my bedroom furniture. I knew there were some marks, but not as many as there was. It was like, he was moving furniture to draw, thinking I wouldn't see it. Thank goodness for Mr. Clean Magic Erasers!!!
@KrisNY (7592)
• United States
26 Feb 07
Your day sounds like it stunk- Why is your 13 year old telling you what to do all the time?? And why are you giving in and listening? I say do nothing with him for a while- then he has something to complain about- Then maybe he will be more appreciative of what you do for him. Kids I tell you- Hope you got your walls clean and didn't pull out too much hair in the process... Hope your day brightens up!
@anup12 (4181)
• India
26 Feb 07
I can understand,just forget it.Everyone has this bad day.JKust shrug it off and begina fresh day.
@sharon613 (2324)
• United States
26 Feb 07
My friends art studio - This picture my friend had taken of her recent art studio.
isn't this site great where you can vent out your woes. Your 13 year old has no business treating you like he's the adult and your the child. You will have to try and set some ground rules with him. I should talk, I have a pain in the neck 20 year old who keeps on preaching things to me. Now that I have been helping him to find a place of his own, I lash right back at him. Instead it just ends up in a shouting match between the two of us. My 18 year old daughter has her problems that were are both trying to solve. The sooner the better then there is my 4 year old who is sometimes nothing but a spoiled brat. Hang in there. Good luck!
@gabs8513 (48717)
• United Kingdom
26 Feb 07
Well I really feel for you there as that is certainly a bad Day. Tell your 13 year old to get his act together. He is sounding like a spoilt brat there. And I certainly would not have him telling me what to do. Well I have to say I would not cook Dinner again if that is the case that they do not even eat it, I feel so sorry for you. You have had one of them Days where you wished you hadn't bothered getting up.
• United States
26 Feb 07
That does sound like a stressful day. But count your blessings because things can be worst. So focus on the things that went right. Some people don't have dinner to cook, or a place to live. Kids will stress you out, that's what they specialize in. Try to focus on what is going right regardless to what goes wrong and you won't be so stressed. Trust me on that.
• United States
26 Feb 07
When he puts the phone down from his uncle you pick it up and call Super Nanny ;)
@karsted (241)
• Canada
26 Feb 07
I am not sure what happened, but the other response I tried to post did not work at all. I am sorry that you had such a bad day. Try some non-aresol hairspray on the marker, it should work. Spray it on, and rub in a circular motion with a dry teryy cloth. That should do the trick, but be careful, because it can be sticky. Take some time for yourself. I find that a locked bathroom door, and a nice bubblebath, is a good stress reliever for me. Take care.
@cjthedog64 (1553)
• United States
26 Feb 07
Sounds like an exciting day. LOL! Don't you just hate it when everything happens at once? Couple of suggestions - you and your DH need to get on the same page when it comes to discipline. Your 13 yr old should not be permitted to tell you what to do. You're the parent, they're the kids. It's understandable to have to deal with a 4 yr old with a bad day, but the older one should shoulder some responsibility for themself. And the uncle should have nothing to say about what goes on in your house. It sounds like the 13 yr old could benefit from some professional counseling. You don't want the little one to learn all those behaviors too. Good luck!