I am already 53,do you think I can still possibly look for a husband?

Philippines
February 26, 2007 11:07pm CST
Well,sounds funny and humilating,I was alone for so many years shouldering the responsibilities for my five children my husband left me 27 years ago.He died at his very young age.I worked hard and so now I am here still alone.My sister and my daughter keep telling me everytime to find another man,I was just laughing and ignored their advices but the fact is I am so bored about my life specially these days that I am having trouble and problems being alone.Today I was convinced by my sister.Ok, fine, but who could be the man?Anyone of you here could help me finding another partner?...LOL.
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• United States
27 Feb 07
No honey! Get out and get yourself a man. Sure you might want a husband, but first find some friends. I am not single so I don't have much advice as to wear to tell you to look. I do know alot more people are using the net. I am 29 and know that even at 53 you are young enough to get a man. Remember 50 is the new 30. So in a sense you are 33. So you go girl!
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• United States
27 Feb 07
What a nice thing to say misschriss, I could not help to respond. I agree with you 100%, you are never too old to find someone that will make you happy. Enjoy life and all it brings you, hopefully soon you will have someone to enjoy it with. Take care
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• Philippines
27 Feb 07
Thanks misschriss,I think it's better for me to go out once in a while.
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@oarnamav (2708)
• India
27 Feb 07
You are very much correct in this thinking. You have already sustained a lot in bringing-up your kids. This is ofcourse a right time I think to go for a life partner once again. You were even correct in keeping yourself away from this fun till your kids as grown. I am very much sure that you definitle would find a good partner that too of your liking. Be specific in selecting this man do verify his intentions before you go for a bond. It would be better if the person to whom you are choosing has sustained some calamity in life as like you without any fault of his own. It would stiill better if he has no more attachments of any kids. In short I want to suggest you that don't just be with poor confedence but be aggresive as well as selective, Because it's very very painful to get injured repeatedly on the same wound in the life again. Wishing you a best luck in finding a best match in near future and a happy happy life forever in the days to come. Thank you.
• Philippines
27 Feb 07
Thank you for the advice and encouragement,I can sense that you a good adviser to the people around you.Ok, if in case that i will find again,I hope he will be a better one.
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• India
27 Feb 07
i think you have taken the best decision atleast now.better late than never. we are humans so definitely we need another persons help. particularly at your age you should have a partner.your sister is absolutely right. your daughter is also a very matured girl i think.its your life.lead your life as you wish.dont think about the neighbours. dont take the life as it comes.you go to it and make your life more beautiful. i wish you all the best and i wish you could find a very nice partner.
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• Romania
27 Feb 07
I agree with you . "better late than never" . You have to ask many close people if you want to know the sure thruth.
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@catcai (1057)
• Philippines
27 Feb 07
Sure why not? age doesnt matter and love comes in many forms, regardless of age and civil status. I know its hard to be alone, no man is an island as they always say and thats true. Yes you have your children with you and technically youre really not alone, but its really different if you have a life partner so to speak, someone you could really depend on. maybe you should try signing up at dating sites, maybe you can try this link www.lovehappens.com, its like an online dating site- well who knows? you might just get lucky, just beware pranksters though =) happy hunting!
• Philippines
27 Feb 07
thank you for the information,and you are right for what you said,really it's hard to be alone,sometimes I am envious with some women who are having a happy and complete family.Anyway,I'll try.thanks again.
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@suman76 (648)
• India
27 Feb 07
If you think from the inner side that you really want somebody to come into your life then you can goahead because after doing a responsibilities of your five children you are tired now then how can you take the responsibility of a person and their childrens on your head. Suppose if somebody interest to get marry with you then also he will put you on some restrictions.
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• Philippines
27 Feb 07
Thank you suman,but you see,I don't know if I have to take it seriously.I feel nervous.
• United Arab Emirates
27 Feb 07
53 is not old, and there are many things you can do at 53. I am assuming that your kids are now grown up and have left home. Enjoy your life, but don't go out with the intention of finding someone. It could lead to a lot of heartache. It would be better for you if you just went out on holidays, to parties with the sole intention of having a nice time. If you meet someone, great! But, if not, then that's fine too. After all you have achieved so much in life, you have single handedly brought up your kids. The point I am trying to make is that you don't NEED a man, but if you can find a life partner, then that will be great! Take care though! Wish you all the best!
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• Philippines
27 Feb 07
Yes,I agree with you,I am also thinking why I get bored,it's because I don't go out for leisure,In my everyday life I am just working and home.Maybe sometimes it's better for me to go outing,but the trouble is everybody around me here are also busy at all time.Anyway I know you are right.Thank you for these wise words from you.
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27 Feb 07
Your never told old to do anything! Life is one big never ending search for happyness, with lots of little adventures on the way there is bound to be someone out there for you just keep looking.
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• Philippines
27 Feb 07
oh, it's so nice to hear your words peterphillips.I am so enlightened.thank you very much!
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@cher913 (25895)
• Canada
27 Feb 07
Why not? You are still young...go for it!!
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• Philippines
27 Feb 07
thanks!
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• Philippines
27 Feb 07
well....there will always be the right one for you but for me is you are doing well for now rather to add one more conflict in your life.you can fight loneliness with the help of HIM....He can help you fight negative feelings within yur system.
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• Philippines
27 Feb 07
maybe,but I hope I could make a good decision.thank you my friend.
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@webbuff (926)
• Philippines
27 Feb 07
Strive to be happy.. is all i can say. people change but love isnt. its not funny or humilating but always remember god dont give us these situation if we cant handle.
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• Philippines
27 Feb 07
Thank you,friend, for these words I heard from you.
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• Pakistan
27 Feb 07
yes
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• Philippines
27 Feb 07
thanks!
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@cuhkiz (569)
• Philippines
27 Feb 07
Definitely you can!!! i encourage you to find a new partner my friend :) Im happy for you and advance congratulations :) Your not that old my friend...think of this, your young and still very beautiful :) you deserve to be happy also like others who have their lovelife fulfilled :).....goodluck to you...
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• Philippines
27 Feb 07
Oh, you made me smile,thank you!I hope I could find the right one for me.
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• Philippines
27 Feb 07
i think your'e still young, of course as we grow older we need companion, and i think you need it most right now. do not lode hope, i know somebody here is looking for a partner too. goodluck
• Philippines
27 Feb 07
Thanks krislouiebaby!Before I always tell myself I can live alone but I found out that it's really difficult,anyway,I should be careful just in case.Thanks again.
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@jhartana (1087)
• Australia
27 Feb 07
You should consider in getting new partner to accompany the rest of your life. My father lost my mum when he was 52 years old. One year after, me and my brothers and sister convinced my father to find new partner. After all we were thinking that my father better be accompanied rather being alone. We knew it was hard for him to cope over my mum's passing however we don't think he will be alone forever. Some two years later my father finally married to a nice lady with two kids from her previous marriage.
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• Philippines
27 Feb 07
your father is lucky for having understanding children like you.good for him.now i'm starting to think what move should i make.thank you jhartana!
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• Indonesia
27 Feb 07
You still can get a husband of course. Get out, get wild (a bit) and then enjoy the life of being 'eligible'. Or if you have time to join any dating site (get a free one) try the online dating service. Goodluck to you.
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• Philippines
27 Feb 07
thanks a lot!but the trouble is I don't know how to get wild,l'm a little bit conservative,anyway I want to try. lol!
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• India
27 Feb 07
yes ofcourse why not...husband i snot only for having xxx...you need somebody who likes u and also u like him to whom you can talk and share ur life and dont worry about other people as they will speak in both ways...if some is there wainting for you go ahead and and marry him and stay happy dont think of age and alll u should good at heart body does not matter
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• Philippines
27 Feb 07
right pacific_pa,of course I understand what you mean,thank you.
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@babyjane (1395)
• Philippines
27 Feb 07
Age doesn't matter when it comes to love. But beware of those who are materialistic guys. Say yes to somebody when you know he loves you for what you are not for what you have. You could still find a husband.
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• Philippines
27 Feb 07
Yes,thanks!don't worry I'll be careful.
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@3acres (748)
• Singapore
3 Mar 07
I think you can still find someone that can be your partner for the rest of your life. Age is not the question but on how you really welcomes someone to your life. Kaya mo yan!
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• United States
3 Mar 07
I think when you open yourself to the possibility of loving another partner again, it will happen when you are least suspecting it. I think it's wonderful you dedicated your life to your children and raising them. If you are lonely and want to find another partner, go for it! It may be someone who has been around you for many years, or it could be someone you have yet to meet. Pray about it and God will guide you where He wants you to be. the best to you.
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• China
28 Feb 07
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