Set it free

@edujccz (929)
Philippines
February 26, 2007 11:28pm CST
There is a saying that " if you love someone set it free and if it comeback to you it was meant to be. Kindly explain your understanding on this , or any experience if this is true...
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@g_aileen09 (1354)
• Philippines
2 Mar 07
If you love someone...set it free...a noble thought indeed. Allow me with this attempt to look at it from a different angle --- by loving my own life. LIFE is so precious. Yet we must not discount the fact that this LIFE has to END some time, whether we like it or not. We value our life most, which i believe, is tantamount to loving. Most of us are not yet ready to leave mother earth. We say we're still young, or we have yet lots of things to do for ourselves and our family, or we simply wouldn't want to die because we're afraid of what happens next. That's how a typical human being value his life. If we cling too much to life...we will lose it with much regrets. But when we surrender ourselves to the will of GOD, we are actualy setting our life free. Surrendering ourselves is letting go of all worldly pleasures and embrace our life's mission (we know our mission by listening to out hearts). We really have to do a lot of sacrifices. And until then, we will come to realize that we have given our life a favor: to experience the greatest Love we truly deserve.
@edujccz (929)
• Philippines
2 Mar 07
You are excellent aileen, many of the would look at it at love, but you interpret it through life, and with your sharing I learn a lot from you. God bless you always...
@mjgarcia (725)
• United States
27 Feb 07
Sometimes in a relationship one person is ready for more than another. In that case you need to let the other person go find what they want in life. If the relationship is meant to happen, then the two will meet up again in the future. That is actually a saying that I used to live by. There is a wisdom to it. But the experience I had with it wasn't good. I loved someone, and let him go. He did come back to me - three years later. But lied to me and put me in the middle of a marriage that I knew nothing about. All because he was selfish and figured I would help him out of his current situation. He figured that because of that love I would fight to keep my relationship with him and he could leave his wife. But I knew that his actions were not out of love, but selfishness and I had to have more respect for myself than that. Thats been many years ago and the last I heard, he was still with his wife.
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@edujccz (929)
• Philippines
27 Feb 07
yeh, i pity you for such a selfish person, sometimes, when they come back to you, you have to investigate as to your case, he is already married with plenty kids, what a liar. so the situation change, when it come backs to you, it was not meant to be. yes they happen and women, must always be very careful with such a man who pretend there is love. I lke your thread, it gives a lesson to everyone thank you for sharing. have a good day
@lucky_witch (2713)
• Philippines
27 Feb 07
The saying "if you love someone, set him free, if he comes back, he is yours. If does not, it wasn't meant to be" There are times that we love someone so much that we dont want to let go... things such as time and spaces is what this saying wants to tell us. Sometimes no matter how much we love someone... we have to let him grow and go in his own. We need to give space and time to that person, so he could think. And if in time he comes back... then he is meant to be yours... If he does not... you have to accept that no matter how much you love him... he wasn't meant for you. love need space and you have to have the courage to accept that love has its way on its own... it will come and stay if its meant to be. But it will slip through your hand no matter how tight you hoild it if its not meant to be. I experience that with my husband... we're married. But when the time comes that he fell in love with another woman there is nothing I can do. No matter how i hold on it still slip through my hands. Then I learned that I should let go because I guess we really nevere meant to be. Sad nbut true... even marriage cant do anything when love decided to leave. Now I move on and happy with my new found love. I just hope this time it would stay for good. but if in case, i'll be motre willing to let it go, if it decided to leave.
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@edujccz (929)
• Philippines
27 Feb 07
wow , you are a strong woman , you can let go even a marriage like that, did you have children with the first one. maybe that is a lot more harder when there is offspring from that love. thank you for your sharing
@joby_09 (498)
• Philippines
27 Feb 07
It happened to me just recently... For almost a year, we never had any single communication. Not even a single text message was sent. When I graduated from college, i was hired on the company he's working. There i realized, I still love him. We started talking again and i thought that could be the continuation. We started going out but we had another friend with us. And then just recently, i found out that something is going on between the two of them and i've been fooled by the things we did. The datings and all were just a friendly thing and no malice. I also found out that they've been exclusively dating. It was so painful. But i just realized that there are really things that are not meant for you. Here's my version of that quote: "If you love someone, set it free And if it comes back, Either he's meant for you or He went back for you to realize that nothing was and will be there"
@edujccz (929)
• Philippines
27 Feb 07
oh i know it hurts, yes, we realize now that to every one is not the same...... thank you for sharing