How do you let go of the person that you have built your world upon?

@catcai (1057)
Philippines
February 27, 2007 6:15am CST
Seriously guys, how does a person let go? I have trouble letting go of someone= and he did nothing but give me pain and false hopes, but why can't i let go? I keep telling myself "yeah im over him" but everytime thoughts of emerge, How do you really let go?
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@missybal (4492)
• United States
3 Mar 07
You can't if you ask me. If you really had your whole heart in it then you can never let go. I still feel like sometimes I'm not over my first love even know now I am happily married to a very good man that cares so much more about me then he ever did and treats me better. Really all we can do is move on, and the fact that you were able to love someone that much dispite their faults shows you are a good person and you will find true love that last forever. The trick is finding someone who loves you will their whole heart too.
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@catcai (1057)
• Philippines
6 Mar 07
...thats exactly what i feel- though it must be harder for you now that your married, i dont even know if ill ever have the chance of getting married now that im going to be a single mom...i dont know if i will still have that chance on love or if God's Best is still out there for me... im just clueless- and still sad... thanks for the response, take care...
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@mummymo (23707)
6 Mar 07
Don't think you ever truly let go catcai but the feelings change and mellow as time passes and you move on with your life!!! After my marriage split I was on my own for 3 years with a small son and I met a man who has now been my partner for almost ten years! The right man is out there for you and when you stop looking he will probably walk straight into your life -Good luck!
@cliffcliff (1350)
• United States
5 Mar 07
you just have to give time dear, maybe a long time, and also you will grow and meet another nice guy too one day that will want to marry you, so just be happy for life right now.. god bless you.
• Nigeria
27 Feb 07
well it is very much possible. What you need is a change of environment annd things youused to do.Why not find something that could occupy your time,as in probably a new sport or a new hobby. Try going out on dates once in a while and if you have the resources try and give yourself a vacation out of your home. Do something which would make you happy and learn to read books which could offer some help as regards been single
@JuliaPan (564)
• Canada
27 Feb 07
I believe that true love is when you don't set conditions to the other person and yourself. It's when you thank God every day for what you have, both good and bad, and if it ends somewhen, you'll continue to thank and love God. It's when you don't say "I love you because you are (love me, cute, rich, etc)". I believe that true love is when you say "I love you. Thank you for your love." All in all, you will be able to let go your beloved one easily, if you truly loves him.
• Philippines
27 Feb 07
It is very hard on letting go which especially you love dearly. All I can suggest is to love yourself first. Pamper yourself and try to focus on things you enjoy most. Then you can start to let go.