Can I leave my 3 children to desperately work abroad?

Philippines
February 27, 2007 10:56am CST
How can I manage to leave my 3 precious and young children to work abroad if I can't spend time with them, watch, guide and protect them as they grow? After all, I wanted to give them all the things I never had when I was growing up. I loved the idea of coming home everyday and having them sit on my lap and tell me about their day. It is amazing how fast kids grow. I will miss seeing them in school plays, mall shopping, helping with household chores with their mom and many moments that I feel they need me when they are in troubles.
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6 responses
• United States
2 Mar 07
Ok, from someone who's been there, this is what I have to offer: Don't do it! I recently gave up a $50k a year job so that I could be home with my family every night. There's no reason that you can't support your family and be home every night. I have supported my family on minimum wage for a year at a time. It can be done. This is also what give you the motivation to land that great job!! Do you want your kids to remember you as their daddy, or as their father/mother's husband? I learned the hard way, but thankfully early enough that I haven't done any damage. I wish you the best of luck.
@sylvrrain (662)
• United States
27 Feb 07
Is there a really good reason you can not take them with you? If there is, maybe you should consider staying and looking for work in your community. To give the children what they need is easy, they need love and attention. They need to spend time with the people that they love. You do not have to be rich, you do not have to give them everything they want. You do need to let them know that you love them, and the best way is to be there with them as much as you can.
• Philippines
27 Feb 07
I really appreciate your concern, the thing is, I can't imagine how hard it is for me and very disappointing to see how my family suffer with our present financial crisis without having a good break to land a better job to support them. Well, considering the fact that there were instances that I can't even provide them their very NEEDS not what they WANTS. I guess I had been to these dilemmas and frustrations when I was a kid like them that's why I don't feel it necessary to make my family to feel the same way. Thank you very much, God bless. I will think about It...look for many options as I can.
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• Philippines
27 Feb 07
I really appreciate your concern, the thing is, I can't imagine how hard it is for me and very disappointing to see how my family suffer with our present financial crisis without having a good break to land a better job to support them. Well, considering the fact that there were instances that I can't even provide them their very NEEDS not what they WANTS. I guess I had been to these dilemmas and frustrations when I was a kid like them that's why I don't feel it necessary to make my family to feel the same way. Thank you very much, God bless. I will think about It...look for many options as I can.
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• United States
27 Feb 07
This is simple enough- You either take the family with you or You don't go See that? Not so hard. What is more important to you- that they have things or that they have you???
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• Philippines
27 Feb 07
For me it's a matter of having them with me but my frustrations linger as long I can't find a better job for a family sustainability not for a bachelor like what our prevailing employment rate/income here in our country. However, the moment I can think of a better option I may consider to stay. Thank you and I badly need your prayer for enlightenment and wisdom.God Bless!
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• Philippines
2 Mar 07
i know that making decisions like these are not easy to deal with... but i know how badly you wanted to do something for your family too, i'm from the philippines also, and just like you, i've been trying to find ways to ease the problem of having financial constraints for a year now, but still haven't found any options to do so... I think every one of us has to make sacrifices... i know that being away from your family is the toughest one for you, but we just have to be practical, i know you will miss them and i'm sure they'll miss you too, maybe u just have to explain to them that as a father and a husband, you only want the best for them, and by doing that they have to be supportive and cooperative for you to make it...i'm sure they will understand
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@cuddleme01 (2728)
• Philippines
27 Feb 07
it depends on the need to work abroad. sometimes as parents you need to make hard sacrifices to provide the best life for your children. if going and working abroad is the best solution to give your children teh kind of life you want them to experience,then go for it. but if you can find ways to just stay in your country and yet still able to provide well for your children, then you better stay. there is not substitute for lost family time when you go abroad.
• Philippines
27 Feb 07
If God permits..for me to leave or stay with my kids I will surely let his will be done 'coz I know that He will make a way. You can count on that!!! Thanks a lot!!!
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• Philippines
24 Mar 07
hi! i understand your frustration, everyday everything seems to be more expensive, money is tight, and the work we have is not enough anymore for us to support our family. Thats why i find myself in websites such as mylot in a way to ease the financial burden a bit...but mylot is not like that, a high profit site...but instead i find everyday people with everyday problems and i have the power to connect and maybe encourage someone or help someone out, whatever. i and my wife have been contemplating on working abroad, and although it is very difficult, the only option right now for us to have a comfortable life is for one or both to go abroad and work...with little opportunity of bringing our family with us. It is a very difficult decision, you have to weigh everything and even numb yourself to he pain of separation. Some people have tried it and kept their family intact, some unfortunately have lost their family because of this problem. I like your faith and trust in God as truly he is the answer. i hope we find better alternatives rather than go abroad. God bless!!