Do you think it's okay to live together?

United States
February 27, 2007 1:07pm CST
I have a friend that lives with her boyfriend. They have been together for 9 years, and just don't want to get married. They both think that it's easier to go there own ways if something were to happen, rather than have to go through a divorce. I personally think it's okay, but what do you think??
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@JuliaPan (564)
• Canada
27 Feb 07
I think it's OK to live together before marriage, to see if you get well together. But I can't understand those who live for a long time (9 years like your friends) and they don't get married. If they have lived as a family so long time, why not to get married? I just think that in many countries a married woman is more safer that a single one. It also depends on the person himself, of course. As I said, I'm for living together for some time, and then getting married (that's my experience actually).
• United States
27 Feb 07
See, thats what I think also. I don't have a problem with them living together. I just never understood why they never want to get married. I can see why because of not wanting to pay for a divorce, if something were to happen. But in my opinion, being together that long should say something for their relationship. But I gave them my blessings, and told them to do what they feel the most comfortable doing. Thank you for your response.
27 Feb 07
yeh ...im up for it!! its very common tooo... and it doesnt tie you down or anything....you hav equal responsibilities....no added pressure!! i find it really cool....
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• United States
27 Feb 07
Thank you for your thoughts!!
@beaniegdi (1966)
27 Feb 07
I don't see anything wring in living together it is up to the couple involved. At one time it was frowned upon but no one really bothers about it today. the only problem can be for the woman if everything is in the mans name - she could be left with nothing financially if there is a breakup whereas that can be protected by marriage.
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• United States
27 Feb 07
I agree with what you are saying. But I really think that as long as they have been together, they will be ok. I was just curious as to what people thought about the situation, Thank you for responding to my question, I appreciate it.
@cupoftea (715)
• United States
27 Feb 07
I think after living so long with each other in most states its considered common law marrige anyway. If they are happy than its no big deal dont need a piece of paper to show they love each other.
• United States
27 Feb 07
You are right. A piece of paper isn't what matters. It's the fac tthat they love each other. Thank you for responding to my question. I appreciate your answer.
• United States
27 Feb 07
I have been with my GF for 4 years, and we lived together for at least 3 I think. We just are fine where we are. Why get married? We would rather go on vacations and things than get married.
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• United States
27 Feb 07
Everybody is entitled to their own opinions. I can see the good side to getting married, but I can also see the bad sides. Theres no need to ruin what could be a good thing!! Thank you for responding to my question. I appreciate the answer.
• Philippines
27 Feb 07
My sister and his boyfriend are living together for more than a year already but still have no plans to get married too. While being a witness of the two, i think it's just okay. Besides, marriage and relationship will just depend on the agreement of the man and the woman. Whatever they think that's good for them will do work for them. However, one disadvantage in cases like this is both of them don't have the full rights for each other yet since they are not yet married. But if they really love each other, even if they are not married, their relationship would still work.
• United States
27 Feb 07
That is true. There are many benefits of being married, and there are also the goods about not being married. Thank you for responding to my question. I appreciate all answers!!