He's so stressed, its tearing us apart!
February 27, 2007 2:59pm CST
I love my partner dearly but he's Sooo stressed, its tearing us apart! His reaction is to bottle it up before it explodes into fights, then he admits things (eg financial problems), talks it through and it calms down a bit. I don't think he can change - we've discussed it loads of times. We were planning to get married next year, but everythibng is so stressful. He has been looking awful lately, I'm worried he's going to have a heart attack, or do something stupid. He has agreed to have counselling, but is even worried about that! He may have to take time off work... I really don't know what else to do!?
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27 Feb 07
I think that giving counselling a shot is the thing to fall back on right now. I would suggest waiting for a while for marriage, you both need to be completely happy with yourselves and each other before you can take such a big step. Best of luck to you. I really hope things work out for the best.
27 Feb 07
I'm so sorry to hear what you're going through. i really understand you believe me... although it's hard to believe, me and my partner are going through the same thing. We're young, he wants to build a future for the two of us and it is hard, too hard for him to realise sometimes that things do not always happen the way we want them to. i understand him, i really do although i wish so much that he can see things another way... i know it's painful for you too to see that he's in such a crisis but just try and talk to him whenever he seems to want it too. don't stress him even more by forcing him to talk to you because it can become worse. Just watch his behaviour carefully and try to protect him whenever you see he becomes vulnerable, to encourage him whenever he is in doubt and you'll see he will open his heart towards you. it isn't easy i know, but in time you two will become closer to eachother. have faith lisa! you'll see that it isn't totally necesarry to go to a counselor, but it's your choice if you want to do that. do whatever you feel will make you two feel better. we're planning to get married next year too and this is one of the main reasons for stress. but i am sure we will overcome these hard moments and be eventually happy! good luck!