Would you give up your religion/beliefs for someone you love?

church - church - the shrine of Jesus
Philippines
February 27, 2007 9:02pm CST
this might be a sensitive topic for some but i'm posting it anyway. would you give up your religion/beliefs just to be with someone you love?some religions do not allow marriages with different religions. they would request the other to convert to theirs. i had a cousin who married someone of a different faith. his wife was the one who converted. i dated someone who was from a different faith. it was never an issue while we were dating. i respected his beliefs and he respected mine. we didn't end up together but it makes me think 'what if?. would you do it? would you convert and give up your beliefs?
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36 responses
• United States
28 Feb 07
If a person can change what they believe to marry someone, then they are not that grounded in their beliefs to begin wiht. I never could put someone before God. I won't work.
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• Philippines
2 Mar 07
i believe you have a point. any person who readily gives up his faith for something else do not have a strong belief system to begin with. thanks for your insight.
@ghopit (154)
• Indonesia
28 Feb 07
i can't change my faith even for someone i love. so in the first is find someone who has the same faith to be my love one. i make frineds to everybody but for to be my wife, she must be the chosen one from the same side of faith.
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• Philippines
28 Feb 07
so you're saying that you have to have the same faith as the one you will love. but we never know when love will hit us. what happens if you find that perfect someone only to find out that she has a different faith than yours? what would you do? do you just let it go and not give the relationship a chance at all?
@edujccz (929)
• Philippines
28 Feb 07
I know of some religion in my place who advocate that, you need to change religion just to get the girl to me is absurd. No I will give up my love for her. I love my faith and die for that faith.
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• Philippines
28 Feb 07
i admire your strong faith. i know that not everyone will be willing to die for their faith. thanks for your reponse.
@charms88 (7538)
• Philippines
28 Feb 07
My husband and I were married in a catholic church. He is a catholic-buddhist while I'm a devout christian. Religion was never an issue between us. But come to think of it, catholic and christian were not really that different. Having different beliefs will depend on how the couples deal with it. Marrying to a catholic-buddhist was not a hard decision for me. But marrying to a muslim or any other religion will be a different matter.
• Philippines
28 Feb 07
what you say is true. catholic and christian faiths are not really that different. there wouldn't be any significant issue when it comes to beliefs. there may still be but i don't think it will cause a marriage to fall apart and break up.
@wisedragon (2325)
• Philippines
28 Feb 07
No. That would defeat the purpose of religion. Religion is supposed to be based on faith, not on marriage. So I wouldn't change my religion just to get married, nor will I expect my bride to convert to my religion. We have to respect each other's beliefs. If our religions forbid such a mixed marriage, then it will just have to be a civil wedding. There's always that option.
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• Philippines
8 Mar 07
you're absolutely right. there's always the option of a civil wedding.
• Brazil
28 Feb 07
I don't have an religion, my religion is god... God exists but i prefer staying away from religions/churchs beliefing, some of their toughts are well weird in my opinion.. So i'd have a relationship with anyone that is in any church because i think that doesn't matter, but only if she wouldn't be saying to me go to her church or start believing her religion stuff and etc... Then i wouldn't keep dating her because i can have an relationship with someone that go to church and etc but i just can't have an relationship with someone who tries to change my mind even after i said i won't change..
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• Brazil
28 Feb 07
Oh and just adding.. I wouldn't stop believing in god for anyone too...
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• Mauritius
2 Mar 07
The way I have learn t the religion, no, I won't give up my religion for anyone or anything.
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@clod0327 (817)
• Philippines
6 Mar 07
I don't think I can ever give up my beliefs/religion just to be with someone that I love. Because in the first place, if he truly loves me then he should learn to respect whatever beliefs I have.
@xParanoiax (6987)
• United States
6 Mar 07
No. I'm stubborn I guess, I stick by what I believe in, no matter how much it may cost me. Religion in my opinion, shouldn't divide, it should unite. No matter how different it is from any other rleigion. I would never ask anyone else to convert for me, since religion should also be a matter of what we live by. If they truly believe in their own religion they would NEVER convert either. So, since niether of us would break, it would be a matter of -bending-. Compromise. I would be perfectly willing to compromise. But I would never convert. It's just..no, how could I give up something which means more to me than my life..which IS my life?
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• United States
1 Mar 07
NO I would NEVER give up or change my religion for someone I love. Why? Its a TOP TOP priority. I would NEVER get involved with ANYONE if I thought they werent a strong christian. Its wrong and its in the bible to NOT do so! God is my TOP priority in my life. If its NOT the same I'd never ever even mix with unbelievers!
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@yaneeps (122)
• Philippines
2 Mar 07
No, i wont convert to any other faith just because of a man. my foremost qualification for choosing a mate was that we have the same faith. i cannot compromise my beliefs because it defines me, it is who i am. my values, priorities, pursuit in life are all founded on my beliefs. and i dont think i could live a life with a partner whose faith is grounded on something or someone else.
• Philippines
1 Mar 07
Hmmm...my question would be, would HE give up his religion for me instead, haha? I think being in an interfaith relationship can only work if both partners respect each other's beliefs and not push one on the other.
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@im_anna (717)
• Philippines
1 Mar 07
no i won't give up my faith. as it is written, "in the end, there is only 3 things that last, faith, hope & love..." in marriage, there might be compromises when it comes to faith, but when children arrives, it's a big problem as to how to bring up the children according to their beliefs.
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@Modestah (11179)
• United States
28 Feb 07
no, I could not change what I believe to be True in order to be with someone in this world. I would hope and pray to help that someone convert. If we were both steadfast in our beliefs and they were contrary to eachother I am afraid we would have to go our separate ways. I can not pretend to believe something that I do not.
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• Philippines
28 Feb 07
i admire your strong faith. thanks for the reponse.
@lingli_78 (12822)
• Australia
1 Mar 07
no, i won't... i experience that before... i give up my bf because we have different beliefs... my religion does not allow me to marry with people from different religion and i won't covert my religion just for the sake of love... when we are strong in our faith, i believe God will give us the most suitable person at His time for us... that's what happen to me... now i am married with a man with the same religion and i am really happy...
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• Philippines
1 Mar 07
Personally, I wouldnt do it. I mean if I love someone I know I should but I wont. And I'll be doing that by avoiding liking guys not in my religion. Its gonna be hard for the both of us so I just will avoid them. Right now Im with someone with same religion and its so peaceful.
• United States
1 Mar 07
Hi, This, to me, is putting the cart before the horse; as the saying goes. The key is, what do you have faith in. If it is the One true God, then He should be the one who gives you instruction on who to date and marry. Are you living His way or yours? With that said, a true God is not gonna' bless a marrige not entered into His way. A soverign God knows what's best for us and loves us so much that He gives us free will to live His way and prosper, or your own way in distress. conclusion: I wouldn't convert because I know who I've believed. Think about it. Two faiths and One God? At least one of you has useless faith. A mule and an ox cannot plow together. BTW, you might want to hitch up to the right God first... see 1 Timothy 2:5 countdown21.com
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• United States
1 Mar 07
I wouldn't give up my beliefs for anyone else. And I don't believe if someone loves you they would ask you to do such a thing.I wouldn't be with someone that ask me to change the way I believe.
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@kittles (156)
1 Mar 07
I wouldn't. And I have been in a position before where a man has asked me if I would. And I said no, and if he really does care for me he would understand. He told me his parents would never let him marry a person not the same religion as him and he really wanted to marry me. I could never be a religion I didn't totally justify. He understood and even though he did hint he wanted to convert me I never took any of it and he slowly changed. I'm not with him now but yes thats how I feel on this matter.
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• United States
1 Mar 07
I can understand someone wanting to for someone they love, but I still would not. If they could not accept me the way I was then nothing would happen.
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