advice?

Canada
February 27, 2007 10:58pm CST
When a friend comes to you for advice, and then they still do something totally different, how do you feel? And how do you feel when someone goes out and delibertly does something stupid, even though they have been there before, just because they figure things will be different a second time around. What do you say? to me, i'll be there for my friends no matter what, and no matter how much they get shut down i'll be there for them. But I wonder how much you can sit there and think about them and their actions, before you say something about it?
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@crazy_me (588)
• Philippines
2 Mar 07
That usually happens when a friend's problem is a love problem. I sometimes get irritated but I do not really get mad at my friend. I just try to understand him/her. I believe that it is really not easy to think logically and do what is right when there are problems that involve the heart. Even people who give good pieces of advice sometimes find it hard to apply their advice to their own situations. So as a friend, all I can do then is be there when my friend needs someone to talk to and a shoulder to cry on.
@TinWolf (184)
• United States
28 Feb 07
First of all if the FRIEND actually solicited advice there shouldn't be any judgement by you of the fact that they may have just been SHOPPING, or wanted multiple opinions. Also you need not take it as a personal attack. Another thing to consider, if they didn't actually ASK for advice, is perhaps they just wanted to VENT to someone they knew would at least listen. I'll offer one more thing to consider, and it may sound negative, but it happens. When we are close to someone, and maybe have a circle of friends who are the same people, and are young, especially,(No offense) VERY OFTEN advice might become a weapon in a gossip war, or a solicitation to incite jealousy, etc. etc. etc. especially if it regards things like "BILLY DUMPED ME, what should I do? I THINK he's hanging out with Kelly now; she's your best Buddy, what am I gonna do?" Steven Wolf
@syndibee (799)
• United States
2 Mar 07
it doesn't concern me when a friend doesn't take my advice. i know i think differently than most people including my friends lol. now when someone deliberately does something stupid repeatedly i do get irritated but i still try to stay there for them knowing they will come to the same results, yet again. i do ask them why they repeated and how they expected the outcome to be different. i love giving advice, it's an honor when it is taken, but it's at least an option when it's not. i like trying to let people see the world just a little bit differently to try to help them make up their own minds on what they will do in the long run
• Philippines
2 Mar 07
This is a definition of unconditional friendship in which those who don't deserve your utmost care and attention have received one. I am quite touched by how you handle your friends, though you get irritated sometimes while looking at them committing the same mistakes - without learning anything from their experience. I hope that your tribe will multiply.