Breastfeeding Sabotage

United States
February 28, 2007 1:08am CST
Has anyone else had to deal with breastfeeding sabotage? I mean nothing serious. Just family members and friends sticking their noses in where it doesnt belong. My son is 6 months old and I am happy to say that I have been able to continue breastfeeding despite these attempts to get me to stop. My mom from day one has told me its just silly, the older he gets, the more she tells me I should stop. I hear things like "arent you about ready to give that up?" and "you will learn when he gets teeth, it isnt really worth it". More than anything it just irritates me. I want to give my son the best possible start in life. My friends just generally say they wish I was done, so I would come out with them drinking again. Little do they know, breastfeeding isnt the only reason I am not out with them every weekend. I have caught both my mom and my husband giving him a bottle if I have been gone less than 20 minutes and just fed him before I left. I think I am rambling a bit now. Back to the original question. Has anyone tried to sabotage your breastfeeding efforts and how did you deal with it?
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4 responses
• Australia
28 Feb 07
Hello again hows things going.I didnt have a problem with anyone, and i fed all 3 of my kids, the youngest i fed until she was 17 months old. She only bit me a couple of times and i gently tapped on her cheek and sternly said NO! and we never had a problem. I was so lucky with the last that i was able to feed for so long, she is 11 now and the bond i have with her is so much better than with the older 2. Tell them all to mind their own business and feed your son as long as you both want. goodluck
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• United States
1 Mar 07
Hello again to you too. I plan on doing it for as long as I want, regardless of them. I do agree the bond is awesome. I think my son and I will probably be closer in the future because of the bond it has given us now. So far I havent had too much trouble with biting. He is teething so when he is getting close to done, he will test me by chomping down from time to time, but I just pull him off and tell him no. He will cry for a second, but doesnt do it again that feeding.
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@wmaharper (2316)
• United States
28 Feb 07
NO, I have only had the support of my family and friends. That is horrible. If it was me, I would talk to my hubby and try to get him on your side, so he'll make sure no one is feeding your son when he's around. Tell him how important it is to you, and besides by nursing you are saving at least 50.00 dollars a month for the quality formula you would have to buy instead! Your mother should know better, but sometimes parents don't act like parents. I would have a chat with her too. But keep on nursing! Don't give in, it only lasts for so long, and then they grow up on you. Also, your friends problably won't ever understand why you would want to leave that lifestyle behind, until they have their own children, I'm sorry to tell you, but it's time to start looking for some more friends, with kids. It's life, it's what happens when you are in a different stage in your life than your frieds are. Good luck!
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• United States
1 Mar 07
It funny you mentioned that. I actually had lunch with some friends yesterday that have a little one. We brought the kids, and it was nice. I didnt feel like I had to keep mine asleep (which I tend to feel like when I go out with friends who dont have kids), the kids batted at each other and had a great time handing toys back and forth (they are the same age. I had a good time, and definately think we will be doing it again. As far as nursing, I intend to do it until both my son and myself are ready to stop.
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• United States
28 Feb 07
Shame on those peopel for trying to stop you from doing what God intended. My daughter never had a bottle except once when I was really sick and had to be on medication. There is a simple way to stop your mom from giving your baby a bottle remove the bottles and don't buy formula. Keep your head up and enjoy your baby, don't let these people drag you down.
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@gabs8513 (48803)
• United Kingdom
28 Feb 07
No as I was not lucky enough to carry on that long, but if I where you I would tell them to mind their own Buisness and let you get on with it. That is what I would do anyway.
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• United States
1 Mar 07
Thank you. I have told them that. My mother just likes to make sure her opinion is heard. She has always been that way, and always will. I just need to be better about turning a deaf ear and not letting her get to me so much.