spanking a child

Philippines
February 28, 2007 1:29am CST
Is spanking a child a harmful physical beating that can cause mental stress later in life, or sometimes the only wayfor that child to learn right from wrong?
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@silkyt34 (324)
• United States
28 Feb 07
i dont believe that spanking a child causes mental stress later in life , i was spanked as a child and i learned not to do whatever it was i was doing again my parents didnt spank us all the time just when we did something horribly wrong and we knew it was wrong, it doesnt cause me any mental stress now that i am an adult and when my children were young i spanked them. as long as you are not mad when you spank then i think its fine, its when the parents is upset and not in control of their anger that is when its no longer a spanking but abuse, when my kids were little and i spanked them i always told them why they were getting a spanking and i never used the excuse because i am bigger and i can they always knew exactly what they had done wrong and i never once spanked them when i was angry i always sent them to their room until i had calmed down and i was in control of my emotions
• United States
28 Feb 07
i grew up the same way. i probably only got spanked perhaps 1/2 dozen times at most. but it was always for something i had been told repeatedly NOT to do. lol your right about never spanking when angry. i think that is the biggest reason that nowadays spanking can actually be reported as abuse. some parents just get so mad and then take it out on the kids rear end.
@Rozie37 (15503)
• Turkmenistan
3 Mar 07
When one of my nieces was eight I asked her why she and her brothers and sisters were so bad? She said, because we don't get enough spankings. I asked her seven year old brother why they didn't clean up behind themselves and he said, because we don't have to.
• Israel
3 Mar 07
causes mental stress later in life? oh cammon i've been hitten and spanked and beaten by my parents,teachers,classmates and strangers in my life it isn't really worth it only you will be like: OUCH then after 10minutes or lil more you will get over it my father beat me until i got 14...sometimes he used to hit me with his belt(not kidding)teachers used to hit me with sticks on my hand...lots of times classmates had fights with me..sometimes strangers from street begin to make some moves which made me angry and making a quarell with them i dont have mental stress in my life so IT ISNT WORTH IT
@abbey19 (3129)
• Gold Coast, Australia
28 Feb 07
There is no harm in spanking a child if he has done something really bad - as long as they know the reason they are being spanked for. The danger comes when the parent spanks them out of anger and loses control - then it's abuse. I was spanked as a child along with my brothers and we turned out ok - we had a healthy respect for our parents. I spanked my children when they needed it - only on the bum, and they all turned out fine, no hang-ups. I think we have taken this thing of not spanking our children too far - thus the lack of respect we see today in young ones for any kind of authority. It's such a shame, because children need to have guidelines so they can distinguish between right and wrong.
@aries_0325 (3062)
• Philippines
28 Feb 07
I was spanked as a child, and I got through my childhood just fine. For certain, whenever I got spanked for doing something wrong, I was a lot more careful not to do that in the future. I used to have a friend that his parents would never lay a finger on, and they never layed a finger on him, and just tried to explain why the things he did was a mistake. The kid is a total ******* to everybody (well, except for me apparently :/), he had no respect for anyone, especially his parents. I had been to his house on more then one occassion where he would just be screaming strings of profanity and his own mother and she would just calmly keep saying, "Quiet down." One time she yelled and he ran away from home; he came back to his house about 2 to 3 days later, and from the way things looked, he had regained utter control over his parents again. I don't personally have a problem with spanking, and my above paragraph isn't trying to suggest that is the only to deal with kids; but cmon, if a kid is out of hand, you had better make sure that when you tell them to stop, you *REALLY* mean to stop.
• United States
28 Feb 07
Give me a break. There IS a difference between spanking a child and beating a child (abusing a child). When my son was 3 or 4, I spanked him because he went into the house of a stranger. Luckily we live in an apartment complex and everyone knows everyone else. He wasn't in any danger. But he COULD have been, and that's why I spanked him. He never did it again. He didn't want another spanking. Now that he's 11, punishment is no cable, no gamecube, washing the dishes, etc. I think spanking in moderation & with an explanation of WHY you're spanking is fine and will NOT scar the child for life. I bet if I asked my son now he wouldn't even remember the incident. I was more scarred by him going into the house of someone he didn't know just because he was offered a cookie.