My husband is UNFAIR!!!

I think you guys must realise what is important to you!!! is it a personal life or a social life... !! whatever it may be.. it must be common for both... i think if you both value social life as more important... you should compromise over a personal life then... also if you want to concentrate on your personal life... you will hvve to compromise more on your social lives...

your husband is being unreasonable.he should have let you went alone an seen your friends.he is was being selfish.i would have found a babysitter an went any way without him.next time he wants to go out tell him you want to go with him.an take the baby with you an see how he feels when you turn the table on him.i hate a controlling husband.they think its okay for them to do whatever they want.but exspect their wifes to sit home an do what they say an tell them.when an were to go..i am glad i dont have a husband like yours..i would have went any way

Sounds like he is unfair, you all should compromise. he likes to have his way doesn't he? Why does he want to hang with you and your friends. he should let you be with your friends sometimes, that's not fair at all. you all need to sit down and talk.

you're right, it's not really fair. my husband allows me to go out occasionally because we both know that we need a break. we need to be on our own sometimes, away from the family and be with the company of friends, just so we can relax, adjust and catch up with the world. if he can spend time with his friends, then you should also be given that right. and taking care of your child is both your responsibility, not just the monther's. talk to him and tell him your sentiments. sight examples so he can fully understand. hope he's open-minded enough to give you what you deserve. good luck!

yes he is unfair sounds like he is the jealouse type. next time he wants to go do something tell him to take your daughter with.

married is a to be patience, honesty, love and care, responsbility. Everthing happen good or bad in marriage is usuall.Just be patience all the times.

If he is allowed to do what he wants, then you should be allowed to do what you want.

yes he is unreasonably. bu tdid u discuss all this with him. sometimes we girsl tend to be quiet adn bear it all till it gets too much. i think u must try to tell him, give him instances of how he should be helping u with small jobs around the house. see if u can get him to be helpful in other matters than takign care of your daughter. tell him that u will have to work out a way or else your marriage is in trouble. be careful while taking like this, he might feel rejected and get defensive...all teh best.

Your husband I feel is being extremely unfair. He sounds very much like the jealous type. Try and find the courage to talk to him about this. You need to make him understand that if he's allowed to go out with his friends, then you should be allowed occasionally too. He's trying to control you and he really has no rights to do that at ALL. A marriage is about give and take, but if he's doing all the taking and no giving, that has to change. I wish you luck.

I agree with you totally that is not fair at all. My opinon is that if he can go out then so can you. Don't ASK, just do it. If he gets mad just tell him it is only fair that you get the same treatment as him. If he doesn't like it he can find another doormat to step all over! I hate men that think they can do whatever they want and expect their partners to shut up and take it.

You should try to talk with him and explain ur reason. In most cases to talk is the easier way to solve a problem...I think u're in the right so just find courage ;)

He could be the jealous type. I don't understand. Did he want you to show up to your sister's party late, or come home late? I didn't get that part. He could be insecure about what you could be doing without him. I think you two need a talk.

First things first. It is normal in a relationship to have separate friends. It would drive me crazy to be around my husband 24/7. I love him with all my heart but everyone needs some "me" time. It's time to sit down with him and have a frank discussion and be honest with how you feel. Tell him you are angry and hurt. Maybe there is some underlying reason to his selfishness. Maybe it's time to seek some counseling. But you need to have an honest discussion with him to start.

Do you find consolation in the fact that I find this humorous? Because I do.

You are going to have to stand up for yourself. If you can't go out once in a while then I'd make darn sure that he can't either. A wife is not there to JUST take care of her family. You are a human being too and not just the mother and maid. He may not like it but if you don't stand up and tell him that you won't put up with it anymore then you will be treated this way for the rest of your married life. He needs to grow up and be a real man. He has to take your feelings into account. Honey, you are his wife, not his child! You don't have to have his permission to have a life! Women are social creatures. We need friends. You are going to have to make him understand that. It bothers me though that he insists on going with you but doesn't invite you along when he goes out with his friends. Makes me wonder what he's out doing that he feels the need to see if you're doing the same thing. Sounds like a guilty conscience to me. And controlling whether or not you are on time for your sisters' birthday? Control freak? Stand up for yourself. You'll regret it later if you don't.

well yeah, you need to talk to him and point things out... explain to him your side that once in your life, socializing is part of it too. you'll never like him if you never had social life with him, right? don't make it to the point that you need to fight against each other and divorce him.

Never mind alice he is your husband, forget him and you'll get a life in heaven. I agreed he is not fair with you at all but the time passed away so do not think about it and forget him this is the name of compromisation! And in being every relation every one has to compromise with his/her partner! Move forward and wait for the right time I swear you'll meet your high school friends and you just wait and watch because the world is not so big! One day you'll meet them. And one more thing I'd like to tell you that is happy birthday to your sister! May she have a blast, may she get what she wants and God bless her! Be happy and forgot everything :) I know you're to strong!

uummm.i'm not really defending him but he might just not be comfortable being left with your daughter alone.i mean taking care of her while you're away.sometimes its just too much for us to handle kids, specially toddlers. but suggestion though,you can perhaps get a baby sitter just for a night so can get your night out. (",)

i think u have tryed more abt explaining urself to ur husband...my frnd.. life is really a unpredictable one so be cool and go with ur husband... definitely he will change one day....:)

So much complaint, Maybe you should give him more understanding.