Is my boyfriend sincere?

@shevamp (120)
Philippines
February 28, 2007 9:57pm CST
I am a single mom with a 5-year old boy and have a steady boyfriend for almost three months now. my boyfriend and i met online and became friends for more than two years before we ended up as lovers. i love my boyfriend and he does reassure me every so often about his feelings for me too. what bothers me though is that, we are still at the early stage of our relationship, but he is already expressing his intention of having a family with me. he is 35, single, and just recently resigned from his job because of poor management issues in his workplace. he has no problem getting a new job as he is good at what he does (he is in the I.T. field), but scouting for one now, he prefers a job overseas as our country doesn't have much to offer and he believes if he should raise a family, he would need a really good-paying job which he sees may only be available in other countries. i am so surprised that at this point in our relationship he is already thinking of settling down with me, and his future plans include me and my son. he has met my son only once and they have both come to instantly like each other. i am really not so good in telling if a guy is sincere as i only had one boyfriend in the past (the father of my son), who did fool me into believing he was sincere about me. now here i am again, faced with the same dilemma. can anyone tell me if my boyfriend is sincere? or at least give tips on how to tell when a guy is really sincere?
3 responses
@Grandmaof2 (7603)
• Canada
1 Mar 07
Guess you'd be asking the wrong person here I'm on my second marriage so what do I know ? lol. I'm confused as to how you would know for sure your boyfriend and son could live happily ever after if they only met once. Children sometimes feel jealous of their parents when they find new partners. If you have ANY doubts about this for goodness sake DON"T DO IT. I'm real serious about this because I've been there and done that. Now lets look at this from your boyfriends point of view. He's 35, and I also think that perhaps there is a good chance he wants to settle down fairly soon because if there's going to be more children it's more than high time he has them. Think about how old you two will be when the kids are let's say 13, 14 15 and 16 that's a time to be doing things with your kids like hockey games or whatever the kids are into because soon after they'll be moving out in the world on their own. There's no quarantee no matter what we do but just BE CAREFUL PLEASE !!! And GOOD LUCK shevamp
@shevamp (120)
• Philippines
1 Mar 07
true. i am most worried about how my son and my boyfriend will fare as far as getting along with each other is concerned. i was kind of hesitant at first when my son asked me eagerly to meet up with my boyfriend. but my baby boy seems to be seeking a father figure and for the first time since his dad went away, i met someone who is seriously considering growing old with me. yes, my boyfriend is geared towards settling down as he is not getting any younger. i myself would like to have a "normal" family as i will be turning 34 soon. I want my son to have a father he can call his own, and my boyfriend has volunteered to be the one. it is just too good to be true. it seems like a dream for me, that someone could possibly love me for everything that i am, including my excess baggage.
• Philippines
1 Mar 07
My advice is that please do not completely trust him. For you do not know what he is thinking. Just believe what he say but don't hope that it will happen. If it will happen then it is better. If not atleast you have not hope too much and the pain will be lesser. Good luck. I hope he is true to his word to you.
• Philippines
1 Mar 07
Has he introduced you to his friends and relatives? If he has, then he is sincere and has included you in his future plans. How he relates to his family will give you an indication of hw he will treat you and your son when you take the marriage bow. Pray hard and ask for divine intervention. He might be the one true love for you.