My ex called me?!?

@Marie2473 (8523)
Sweden
March 1, 2007 5:07am CST
He hasn´t contacted me for a few months now and I really thought that he was out of my life for good this time. I even changed my number but there is a leak somewhere and I do not know who it is. He called while me and my bf was watching a movie and said that he just called to congratulate me on my first year with my bf and also told me that there would not be a 2nd. He really freaks me out, he can sound so creepy and who knows what he can do? I told him again - like I did 100 times before to stop harrassing me - to not call me ever again. He says - well Marie - you know I just want you to be happy and I am afraid that that can only come true with me. I hung up the phone and after 20 minutes of constant calling I unplugged the phone. Me and my bf talked it through and even though he says that he knows I am not to blame, I still get the feeling that he somehow blames me. i don´t know what else to do, I feel like I´ve done all that i can, except going to the police, wich I by the way know will result in nothing. I have no belives at all in them here after I tried to report him last time.. I hope he was just "sentimental" yesterday and that he will give up again and leave me alone with my new HAPPY life!!
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@lauriefnp (5113)
• United States
4 Mar 07
Why is it that the losers in life keep re-surfacing when we least expect it? I wouldn't bother trying to reason with this guy or even to acknowledge that he is alive. He is obviously up to no good. I know that you have said he has been abusive in the past, and talking with him only encourages him to keep trying. I don't have much faith in the police in these matters, either, but I think that if I were you I would consider reporting this and getting an order of protection. He did threaten you in a way, he has a history of violence towards you, and he managed to get an unpublished number to call and harass you. It might make him think twice about doing it again, but I think that it will also reinforce to your current boyfriend that you are in no way initiating contact with this guy and that you want him out of your life. Just that reassurance to him might make both of you feel better. Of course it goes without saying that you need to be careful when you go out so that you're not alone in secluded places, especially if he knows your schedule. Good Luck, and I wish the best for you and your new relationship.
@Marie2473 (8523)
• Sweden
4 Mar 07
yeah his abusive behaviour is what scares me and he has shown psycotic behaviour as well. I will be careful and I will also consider going back to the police, maybe get a restraining order!
• United States
4 Mar 07
I hope that you get this resolved soon. I was totally creeped out after reading this. Your ex sounds like a stalker. You should report this to the authorties again. You now have proof from your current bf that this idiot has been harrassing you. If your local police will not offer to help, try the next level.
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@Marie2473 (8523)
• Sweden
4 Mar 07
I have changed my number again and now only people I trust have it. I have made sure that they will not give it to him, but you nver know. Hopefully he will leave me alone and stay where he is - but I will be careful!
• China
1 Mar 07
i suggest that you should aways go out with you bf. although he is in anther country now. you can not predict if he will come back harrassing you,right?
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@Marie2473 (8523)
• Sweden
4 Mar 07
That is my fear - that he will come back!
• Philippines
1 Mar 07
THis is a creepy situation. Based on your story, your ex is still in love with you..It's like he's a psycho, still crazy over you...i read that he's in another country so there's no need to worry..however it's a good thing that you reported him to the Police for you to be protected just in case he comes back...change your number again...In time your ex will learn to accept that you are happy with someone else (hopefully he will) = )
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@Marie2473 (8523)
• Sweden
4 Mar 07
I have changed my number again and just gave itto people I belive i can trust, we will see if he gets hold of it again!
• Philippines
1 Mar 07
hi marie! this is such a tough situation. i think someone needs a psychiatrist to help him through his issues. meanwhile, kudos to you for handling it quite remarkably. for one thing, i think you need to be more careful. do not go out alone. you must always have your support group, your pals or your boyfriend with you when you go out especially at night. if it will also grant your some peace of mind, do call the police and tell about the incident. if in case he does some other stuff in more alarming ways, at least you have some backup.
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@Marie2473 (8523)
• Sweden
1 Mar 07
I do not ned to worry yet since he is not in the same country as i am.But since he is abusive, if he returns i will dedinately make sure to be protected!