what do you and your partner always argue about?

Philippines
March 1, 2007 9:14am CST
should the bygones really be bygones?
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6 responses
• United States
2 Mar 07
Ok, well I am marrying my daughter's father, in about 4 months. In prison. I love him and we share the bond of parenthood. The thing we fight about the most is the fact that he is in there, that I wanted a real wedding, at a church, not a prison. And, the fact that we both were unfaithful at one point in time. But, above all, I feel that bygones should be bygones, and, our past, even our past together, should stay in the past. But, as true as that is, sometimes its REALLY hard!
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@ZenDove (698)
• United States
2 Mar 07
My husband always says that I hold a grudge, I say that I believe in accumulative learning. I mean, you wouldn't get very far in school if you forgot everything that you learned in the previous year, now would you? It's been 2 years for us and it's been interesting. I guess most of all we argue about ...oh, just about everything. I think our underlying problem is resentment - I resent that he did change after marriage and he resents that I didn't. I think that is why our disagreements get so heated, there's always that underlying issue turning up the flame. I don't think that bygones can be bygones until they are resolved and both parties have a chance to heal.
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@kahlana (58)
• United States
2 Mar 07
Well for one we don't really argue. sometimes i will tell he needs to help me more with the kids and he'll say why didn't you ask before. I'm thinking to myself should i have to ask ? I mean their his kids too lol .. Well in close I do think bygones should be bygones..
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@yaneeps (122)
• Philippines
2 Mar 07
we do not really argue like fight, but we do discuss things in a very mature way.... i wish! hahaha! we argue about so many things. but we have already accepted that fact that we wont always agree on everything. we have our own personalities and identities and we may complement each other or oppose one another. but at the end of the day, no matter how much we argue, we still know that we are a team and could depend on each other always. bygones should be bygones. learn from mistakes then move on. each must uplift the other and not put him/her down.
@Fishish (697)
• India
1 Mar 07
no with relations i dont let bygones be bygones. i make it a point to clear things as tehy are the ones we live with adn no point in not telling your mind to them. on eday it will catch up with you....we used to argue about his towel till last week, though lightly. now we have sorted it out. i let him hang it where he wants to and he sometimes hangs it where i want him to... :)
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• Singapore
1 Mar 07
Well, that would depend on what the bygones are. Also, it would depend on each and every unique individual. For me, I think I will very long to trust this person once he/she betrays my trust.
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