Terrible two's will i survive??

United States
March 1, 2007 12:32pm CST
my 2 yr old is going through the terrible two's as its put, and im not sure if i can take another minute of it she is full of drama, attitude etc. she is constantly whinning and tattling over every little thing, if she doesnt get her way man she lets you know that shes ticked, shopping has been a real test lately now that she can unbuckle herself out of the stroller. everything is attitude like "whatever mom" or "i dont care" man i dont remeber my son like this when he was 2 maybe its a girl thing for us females tend to be more moody and attitudy . but when will she out grown this or wont she??? in the meantime i need some ideas to deal with it, time out is not working at the moment it use to but lately she finds it to be a game and ideas? im open to just about anything
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@msqtech (15226)
• United States
1 Mar 07
Just work on your patience you will survive. when you are stressed dont punish. Put them in a safe place and take a minute for yourself. You will make it.
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@daycarepal (1998)
• United States
2 Mar 07
Have you tried taking away something that she enjoys playing with? I have found that helps. Terrible twos is a tough time. But believe me, she will be a teenager before you know it and you will wish you had the terrible twos time back again! LOL.
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• United States
1 Mar 07
I know how you feel my son is 2 soon to be 3 he cant stan when he dont get his way. he screams and crys till he gets what he wants i try to do the time out thing but all he does and cry the whole time and get up thinking its a game i dont know how to punish him and him belive me i pray to god my daughter which is a year old now aint like him at all when she gets in her terrible 2s every one is telling me that it will go on through the 3s as well so if you find any good ideas please let me know them to.
@Rahleah (187)
• United States
1 Mar 07
Allow me to introduce myself as the mother of two girls, 18 and 19. Believe me when I give you the short answer and tell you, "Yes, you will survive." And also, "Yes, I think it is worse with girls." Then, ignore me (for your own survival benefits) when I also tell you the truth that your description of your daughter's behavior could also have described both of mine as sixteen to nineteen year olds. I'm sorry. But it's true. I'm afraid this behavior is cyclical. Everything is a test. Every day is drama. Everything is constant whinning. Total attitude is "Whatever, Mom." And, there is the added twist that a 2-year-old does not have. Everything drips with sarcasm. Everything. And if you think when your 2-year-old lets you know she's ticked it's hard to handle, just wait until you get the dirty looks a teen can give you. You will LONG for her 2-year-old days. I'm not kidding. You will ache for it. Because eventually, 2 year olds get tired and take a nap. When they're 16, 17, 18, 19 ... they can outlast you. It's survival of the fittest, baby. Good luck. But save your strength. The second round is far worse than the first.
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• Canada
2 Mar 07
Very true comment, I am a mom of a 16 year old. my aunt once told me that if I could get through the terrible two's I would be ok, that between the ages of 2 and 4 were the worse,everything after that was a breeze. Then I thought about it, she had kids practically in the stone age. When a girl turned about 14 back then they were sent off to work, usually away from home. So it probably was a breeze for her because her daughters were gone before they even turned 16. Mine is gonna drive me batty, I keep saying its just the age she is, just something that she is going through, I would beg on bended knee for her to be 2 again, where I saw and controlled everything in her life, like what she ate, and when she went to sleep and play silly little games and stuff like we use to do . Those are the days I miss. I miss when she would talk to me and ask me why the sky was blue instead of telling me stuff now like "oh thats so gay mom", "you are so weird".
@KrisNY (7609)
• United States
2 Mar 07
My daughter is 10-- for the most part she's a great kid... But she is still whiney, moody, major drama queen, testy, attitude at times. I really don't think girls ever grow out of it-- I'm so sorry! : ( Just have patience-- Tell her her behavior is not acceptable-- Hopefully she'll get the hint. : ) And don't forget mood swings-- Hormones- period, boys.. We're hitting this part right now. Hey we're good right-- and we're girls-- so we must grow out of it .. Oh wait- I'm moody, attitudal, testy, full of drama at times-- Maybe we don't.. I hope I at least made you smile with my answer-- : ) good luck- It does get better!
@kahlana (58)
• United States
2 Mar 07
I feel your pain lol. The only thing is my son don't really talk yet and he's 3 all he does is scream when he's upset. Sorry I wish i could help but I'm going insane myself lol. I'm thinking or at least hoping it will pass. I useally make sure i have at least a few hours with my son alone to do things together, it seems to help some:)
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@mom_of_2 (399)
• Canada
2 Mar 07
I have bad news and I have good news. The Good news is yes, you will survive. The bad news is...Behavior issues and attitudes only get bigger (so I've been told)My only addvice to you, is the same advice I give myself. Have patience and even on the REAL bad days remember one thing...in about 12 years you will look back on the terrible twos and wish you had those troubles again. Good luck figuring out the perfect punishment...and please let me know when you have found it :) Keep smiling, as a mom..you're doing your best !
@jchampany (1131)
• United States
2 Mar 07
I have to say that girls are definitley worse than boys. My son is 8, my daughter is 1 1/2. I don't remeber my son being so agitating. My daughter started her terrible twos long ago and I have the feeling they are not close to being over. I feel for you. I am going through the same thing. I am a single mom and it makes it hard to do everything and still have to watch her every move. And I mean EVERY move. Man she likes to test me.
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@pudgles (414)
• United States
1 Mar 07
terrible twos are bad, but terrible fours are even worse. i remember my oldest being like that. if she didn't get her way, she would lay on the floor in the store and have a fit til she did. if mom didn't give in, daddy sure did...alot of times we give in to prevent embarrassment, but lately, discipline could led us into trouble. so, compramise, if she has a fit, give her a choice, like if she is good, then she can help you bake or if she continues to behave like she is, then she will have to sit and just watch or something like that. alot of times its for attention and to test to see what they can get away with at that age. its the curious age as well...let them explore, but to a point. if you ignore, which i eventually did, then in most cases it will stop. if you react, she wins for she gets the attention whether its positive or negitive. again, 4's are worse. and i too find it only in my girls..
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@Mamaof4 (222)
• Philippines
1 Mar 07
Sit her down and tell her that it is NOT good to give mommy attitude. at all. you'll be surprised at the perception of kids. You have to get "that tone of voice" that will realy make them listen. This is what I've done with my 4 kids when they pass the terrible twos---I'm on my last terrible two phase :)
@erielle (1281)
• United States
1 Mar 07
I think the best advice that I can give you is relax. Try not to be constantly nagging her. If she keeps doing something over and over and you've told her over and over not to do it, try to find a natrual way for her to realize that she shouldnt do it. For instance if she is running she will eventually fall, and she will learn not to run again. Also make sure that she is getting a nap during the day and that she has a full belly. Enforce naptime and mealtime, and dont let her get up until she has eaten some of her food. Be consistent. If she is not tired and full than she may lose the attitude a bit. If you think that the sitation is that she has so much energy and she does not know what to do with it, let her get her energy out. Let her run outside and get tired. If she gets angry a lot, than help her understand her anger, and get rid of it. Let her crumble or tear a peice of paper up and say 'This is your anger. Put all of your anger in the paper. Tear.Tear.Tear." Than let her throw it away. Another way to let out anger out would be to Jump Jump Jump, and let her "Anger bounce out" Remember that when she is throwing tantrums, she is just doing what she thinks she should do to let her anger out. Your job is to teach her a more positive way. I hope that helped.
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• United States
2 Mar 07
You'll survive I'm sure, but I have quite the little drama queen, and honestly 2 was really tough with tantrums and such, but I think 3 was much harder to handle--now that she is 4 it is starting to subside, it's all about your individual child and seeing what works for her, there is no cure all.
@apky12 (776)
• United States
2 Mar 07
My son is almost 3 and from what I hear and from his attitude lately, 3 is worst than 2! I know, don't tell you that. I've found that putting in his room is better than time out b/c he thinks time out is fun now. I don't have a lot of toys or anything in his room. I haven't found much of anything else that works yet. Yelling definitely doesn't work. He thinks it's funny now. He still has a pacifier but not during the day. I threaten to take that away and that sometimes works. You will get through it. It also has phases to it. She's probably just going through a rough one right now. Then you'll find she'll be really good for a little bit and then go through it again. It definitely is a girl thing with the whining and the major attitude. Although, I think my second son is going to have the attitude. He already tries to tell me what to do and he's 19 months old.
• India
2 Mar 07
well i do not have that much parenting knowledge but i wud feel gr8 if i cud help u in some or the other way!!!!!11
@Sicantik (706)
2 Mar 07
My son also two and sometimes he really driving me crazy with little thing like doesn't want to eat or prefer to wear his pj for nursery or keep changing his clothes. And when I get upset he start to scream.... I have some good advice from my health visitor, that is just to ignore when the tantrum start until it's ended the give him a cuddle when it has ended. We 've done that several time now and it seems to work. I also call my husband at work and ask him to speak to him whenever he become too much and start screaming...I don't know why but it works for me...he normaly listen to his dad.. Well good luck to you...and all the best..xx
@AnnaB87 (761)
• United States
2 Mar 07
Two years old is a great age people should call it the terrific age not terrible. I do understand two years olds can be trying at times, but so can kids of any age even adults. What I would suggest for you is this if you use a stroller when shopping and she wants out okay fine, but she has to hold your hand whether or not she wants to, because a two year old can quicly get lost. Also the priveledge of going shopping can end until she shows better behaviour, which means she will have to stay with a sitter, while big brother gets to go shopping. You do not have to play this game you do need to break this habbit she is developing because it will get worse, I would also suggest no more tv at all. Instead go to the library and you choose some good stories to read aloud with her, Play games with your daughter, and read to her, but no tv at all, not even a little. That may help a lot.
@kirokiro (95)
• Malaysia
2 Mar 07
goodness... After reading your post make me recall my sons' attitude. He can already get out of the seat belt on his own!. --11month boy--- I buckle him in the car seat to teach him flash cards. As he felt bored and doesn't want to learn, he couldn't want for me to unbuckle, he had already squeezed himself out all by himself , with big frustration and angry face. What will happen next, will he be like your daughter when he is at your daughter's age.... i wanted to run away.... thinking of that.......
@harwoodkp (285)
• United States
2 Mar 07
I wish I could tell you about the terrible two's. He did not start until he was three and has continued until he is in the 4's. Yes you will survive, Just be constant with your actions and dont let temper tantrums go through. He will love you no matter what you have to do.