How do I tell my sister that she is never going to understand....

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My husband grew up in a very wealthy home. They got everything they wanted because they h ad a lot of money. It was not middle class it was definitely higher class and status is key with this family and the way they live....so now fast forward. My husband was always told that he would be well taken care of when he got older, meaning he would have had a piece of his family's company which would make him a lot of money and provide for his own children. WEll all that has changed, a lawsuit occurred and here we are on the S*** end of the stick. we are starting over and it is very hard for my husband to deal wiht. Now I grew up in a middle class family as did my sister, we grew up in the same household. Although I am sure that my parents could have lived more lavishly than they did they are incredibly frugal and smart about money. We pay for what we can afford PERIOD, The phrase "pay for what you can afford" was not in my husband's vocabulary growing up because they never had that problem EVER! So, with that, as I have learned more about his upbringing and his family and how they live I have a better understanding of how they work. Now I am not saying that I agree with everything that they do and spend money on but I have learned to mind my p's and q's and to pick my battles. My sister on the other hand has not, and I know this because she grew up with me, she is very outspoken and seriously needs to be on something to calm her hormonal issues. However she does not agree on getting on any medication at all, FINE I do not care but she has to find ways to control her crazy temperment and frustrations without gettng SO worked up about them. So we did talk about that, and she does realize that she has an issue but she can not help it....I did suggest to her to talk with her boyfriend's dad who happens to be a doctor and she is going to because though he himself does not believe in medicating when it comes to depressin or anxiety, what they do not realize is that we have a genetic mental disease in our family and it may be NECESSARY for us to be on medication...I know it is for me, and my husband and I struggled through that and both of us realize that I need to be on my meds.... anyway, she does not understand how it is that my husband wants to provide for his family the way that his father did for him, but I do not care either way as long as our family is happy and we can provide for good education for the girls that is all that matters! anyway, any other suggestions? She says maybe she needs to just butt out but I say she should not feel like she has to butt out but that she needs to find a way to control her emotions and stress and anxiety about what MY Family does with OUR life.....