Something I have noticed...

United States
March 2, 2007 3:23pm CST
I have noticed that some people in myLot like to 'agrue'. I have also noticed that said people will completely clam up when I give them just the right arguement (does that make sense? In my brain it does but I can't seem to find the right words - sorry) Why is that? Have any of you noticed the same thing happening to you (or even me lol)?
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@byfaithonly (10716)
• United States
3 Mar 07
Oh dear it's not just mylot there are people like that all over the place. Normally when they clam up it means you have worn them down - they can't think of anything arguement to top what you have said. When I'm in the right mood I love to "play" with people like that, may come from being married for 8 years to a man who was like that - of course he was always right and never did anything wrong and knew everything about everything - his words not mine.
• Canada
3 Mar 07
Yes, byfaithonly. I ever met this kind of persons. It is so frustating. Sometimes, I'm getting bored and I don't want to argue the topic anymore. Because it is getting nowhere and it is on and on. It's better to find other topics and I don't want to focus on one topic and to make me stretch. Besides, speaking of one topic from time to time won't be good. My view will be limited.
• United States
9 Mar 07
It's fun to have a go with these people (as long as no one gets insulting). I think you are exactly right - they can't top you so they just shut up.
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• United States
9 Mar 07
Friendship - I agree those are great reasons to stop talking. It just can be frustrating without so much as a "goodbye" LOL
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@astromama (1226)
• United States
3 Mar 07
I like to 'debate', which I think some people misinterpret as being 'argumentative'. I know what you mean, though.. I will respond passionately to a discussion that has sparked that fire in me, then check back again and again just to find the 'other side' didn't bother addressing my valid points. I just try to pick my battles and stay fact-oriented. It's very hard for someone to know what to say when you've cornered them with the truth. I would also like to add that I appreciate being able to use Mylot as a forum for these heated discussions. After all, these things never get talked about face to face, and I feel Mylot provides an opportunity for us to listen to other people's views on any number of sensitive topics... maybe something you say on here changes someones mind, or at least gets them thinking. That's an amazing tool, if you ask me...
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• United States
9 Mar 07
Yeah its like they get you all excited and then.... boom they are just not replying. They leave you hanging! I love being able to discuss things freely here. I just wish people would remember to be nice to people. It can get downright nasty sometimes. I have learned to pick my adversary (not so much the topic)
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• United States
2 Mar 07
Yes, I have noticed this as well. I love to discuss topics but I often find they turn into arguments where the person disagrees with me in an inflamatory way withoug providing any actual information. I often post studies or outside links to information to support my post and I find that some respond and just ignore the information I have provided or say it is wrong without explaining why or providing any counter material.
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• United States
2 Mar 07
Seems almost like the other person becomes afraid in the face of the truth. So ignore the truth and keep arguing OR just stop saying anything cause you figure out your wrong.
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• Australia
9 Mar 07
I enjoy a good debate as long as it is intelligent, courteous and respectful. I have enjoyed many such debates here on myLot and have made some good friends with whom I would not normally come into contact. I am a Christian and my Christianity has first priority in my life. The Lord Jesus Christ has done so much for me and I can do no other than talk about how wonderful He has been to me over the last 48 years of my life. Here on myLot I have met and debated with some truly lovely people: people who are agnostics, pagans, wicans and Muslim. Some of these are special friends. While we do not agree on the main interest in our lives, we agree on many things and are still friends. Then I have also come across a few "arguers". These are people who show intolerance and even venom for anyone with a different viewpoint. Thankfully they are in a minority. They do not debate. They ignore your opinion and keep hammering their own view without comment on your point of view. I've also come across ones like I think you are talking of: ones who espouse something, but then can't back it up when you put an alternative viewpoint. I guess we meet all sorts on myLot and we can pick and choose who we respond to and who we continue to debate with. That is a good thing about myLot.
• United States
9 Mar 07
We certainly come across a broad spectrum of people here. I honestly don't mind debaters or arguers but don't just bail on the conversation cause I have you. At least bow out gracefully. I guess I am just one of those people who likes closure LOL
• Australia
12 Mar 07
I know what you mean. I had one "clam up" on me. This morning I checked on a discussion I answered yesterday. The discussion made a very definite statement, with no "ifs". He categorically stated something that was wrong. I responded, giving undeniable proof that his statement was false. When I checked, I found the person who posted the discussion had commented on every response except mine. Evidently, he couldn't refute the statements I made, so ignored them. He clammed up.
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• United States
17 Mar 07
I'm so glad someone else understands how I feel. It is just such a let down when you are into a good debate and then bang not another word.... *sigh*