Fears of pregnancy

United States
March 2, 2007 5:03pm CST
What were your fears when you were pregnant or your wife/girlfriend was pregnant? Right now I have so many things going through my head. I keep thinking that the baby will have some kind of problem like he will have six twos or no arms or something like that. Is it just me or are there other women out there that feel like I do when they were or are expecting their first child?
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• United States
3 Mar 07
oh man when i was pregnant, you can even ask my doctor lol, i was such a HUGE worry wort. i would call him all the time asking if this and that was normal. half the time he would laugh and say stop worrying everything is fine. i would be relieved untill the next thing came. he would always tell me it was fine to call him, cause he knows how first time mothers are. his wife had a baby a few months before i went to see him for my first prenatal care. it didnt bother him at all, he just thought some of the phone calls were funny, and some he told me to go up to the hospital to get checked out. such a sweetie. dont worry your not the only one. and my doctor said not to worry so much cause that bad for the baby. easier said than done lol!!
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@biwasaki (1746)
• United States
3 Mar 07
When I was pregnant, I was also worried about these things. There are so many news articles or shows on tv that talk about all the possible things that can go wrong. Then I realized that the media and society always makes a big deal over the bad things but hardly ever talks about the good things. The ratio of normal pregnancies and healthy babies to abnormal pregnancies and unhealthy babies is much higher. There are tests that can be done during your pregnancy to catch any problems and if there does turn out to be something wrong, at least you will know about it before your baby is born. I think being worried is just a normal part of becoming a parent for the first time. If you are overly concerned, talk to your OB doctor about it. I'm sure he/she can help put your mind at ease. Good luck with your pregnancy!!
@sunnypub (2132)
• United States
9 Mar 07
It's kind of sad to say, but I didn't have any fears. It was really weird but I never really grasped that I was pregnant. I just never got that feeling that everyone talks about. I never had any morning sickness and only started to have back pain in my last few weeks. I think maybe deep down I had a fear of losing the baby so I didn't want to actually embrace it. I sometimes feel like I robbed myself of something great but in the end, I guess it was okay because it kept me sane during my pregnancy and once my duaghter was born, all those feeling washed over me. Now she is the most important thing in my life and I know I am blessed because I have her.
• United States
10 Mar 07
I didn't have any fears with my first 2 boys but after I had a miscarriage I did worry ALL the time until I felt that great and wonderful feeling of the baby kicking and hitting and moving all around inside me. I am prego with #4 and had the same worries this time until the baby kicks and reminds me everything is fine so far. I can understand how you can worry so much but don't stress too much it isn't good for you. Try to keep busy and your mind off of it for a while. I know it is hard if this is your 1st. The baby was all I thought about when I was pregnant with my son. I hope everything is fine and you do well with your 1st baby :)
@stacy624 (2777)
• Canada
13 Mar 07
I to had these feelings and Dreams.. they were scary but I have had 7 heathy Babies ...Good Luck Stacy
@kimko5099 (195)
• United States
10 Mar 07
I was scared the whole time during my pregnancy. It is so normal, dont worry it is natural. I felt the same way that you did. I was so scared that something was going to be wrong with my baby but he was perfect. Just dont worry too much, you dont want to stress yourself out. Just make sure that you take care of yourself the best you can and dont miss your doctors appointments. If you doctor says you're doing good then dont stress too much. Trust me, worrying is a natural thing, and it doesnt stop after you have your baby either lol