Are there still TRUE GENTLEMEN ?( where have all the manners gone)

@weemam (13377)
March 3, 2007 9:53am CST
my husband is a true gentleman in every sense , We have been married almost 46 years and he has such lovely manners , This was brought to mind when I saw him cross the road with a female friend of ours and I noticed him going to the street side to keep her safe away fro the traffic , he carries my shopping when we go out , He opens doors for me , he opens the car door for me , he opens the gates of the drive for me to drive the car straight out , he packs my elderly parents shopping( they both have Alzheimer's now)and he always puts my mum in the front seat of the car . ( He makes her laugh every time by telling her to " belt up" ( Scottish for shut up lol ) I just see all of this disappearing as I am out and about and I think it is so sad . Can I say too that my 3 sons have been brought up the same way , My daughter n law said it was my sons manners that first attracted her to him , xx
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• United States
4 Mar 07
I think it's wonderful that your husband and your sons have manners. I've written a few articles about this issue because so many people don't have manners and young people aren't taught manners. They are rude and selfish. I still believe in manners and I think everyone should learn to act accordingly. Our world would be a much nicer place to live in if people would just say "Please," "Thank You," "Excuse Me," and treat others as they would like to be treated.
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@weemam (13377)
11 Mar 07
I agree with you 100% on that xx
@Sweetpeas (739)
• Australia
4 Mar 07
Aaaaw Bless, you dont rent him out do you? lol. Your very lucky hun and it really sounds like you've done a wonderful job also with your own children. Great to know theres still people out there that believe in teaching there children respect and manners, as we can see from your example, it certainly works out for the better. Just let me know when your husband is available and ill send my fiance around for some lessons ;).
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@weemam (13377)
11 Mar 07
lol Ok , but it won't be for while my grandchildren have lovely manners too just by watching and learning I would think xx
@limosonia1 (1559)
• United States
4 Mar 07
I think it is slowly making a come back. My husband is a complete gentleman. He opens doors for me and walks on the side where the street is he truly respects me and opens doors for everybody. He is also teaching our boys that and I love it. To the point that my son without thinking will help a lady pack her car with her groceries or he will help and elderly women carry her bags to her car. I was truly amazed that he learned the lesson and still does it without being told. He can't take the garbage out but he has all his manners in the right place. LOL
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@weemam (13377)
11 Mar 07
That is lovely , my boys learned by watching their dad too xx
• United States
3 Mar 07
Just a bit of trivia. The reasons a gentleman walks on the outside nearest the street came from the old days when horse drawn carriages were on the roads it was to shield the ladies gowns from being splashed with manure and also to protect her when people used to throw their slops out the window (didn't have indoor plumbing or drains). No wonder you are married for so long you have a "keeper".
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@weemam (13377)
3 Mar 07
Thanks pal I liked that xxxx
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@Tsferrets (421)
• United States
3 Mar 07
I am one of the lucky ones too.. My husband is a god send.. I broke my arm and shoulder and boy let me tell you I will never forget what a sweet heart he is again.. I had gotten used to him opening doors for me or almost knocking my over to reach the trash first because it's to heavy for me.. Am the groceries?? I have to fight for the little bags to carry in.. But I love him and I wouldn't change him for the world.. His manners were what I liked best about him when we started dating.. Boy I was really impressed.. I kept wondering if it would all change when we got married.. Nope.. He's still may hunny that thinks I'm made of glass and going to brake.. Now that he is retired he has even taken away my cooking job "Cause I do all the had work"" the animals,sweeping,vac,ect.. Boy am I getting more spoiled... I have to say that I have seen alot of young men that have manners too.. I think its all how you were raised and its up to us wives and mothers to keep it going for our future women and men..Tammy
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@weemam (13377)
3 Mar 07
my hubby recently had a triple bypass and it is so hard for him as I have to do more now , I have to do it before he notices though as he gets quite annoyed with himself , as I said its the gentleman in him , but I want him with me for a long time yet xx
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@koikoikoi (1247)
• United States
4 Mar 07
That is what I want to know. It seems as if manners no longer exists. As if they don't matter. Now everyone is so, not exactly rude but I rarely hear anyone say please or thank you now. Everything now even in restaurants is so street oriented. That is what I feel.
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• United States
4 Mar 07
I wish that my husband had the manners of yours. My husband will on occasion open a car door for me, and usually open a shop or resturant door for me. Come to think of it he will hold my purse too sometimes. But most of the time I am left to do the others on my own.
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@franxexces (1096)
• Philippines
4 Mar 07
oh yes...! my boyfriend is... it's nice to know that your marriage is almost 5 decades and that he continued being a gentleman when you were already married. Most guys are gentlemen during courtship but when they are already in a relationship it expires.
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• United States
4 Mar 07
I agree. The generation of men noe day's isn't raised that way, and there would be alot of really happy women out there if they were.
@faith210 (11233)
• Philippines
6 May 08
Hi weemam! Luckily, my husband and my younger brothers belongs to the "True Gentlemen Club". Whenever I am with them, they always see to it that I am on the safe side of the road, open doors for me, carry my packages and all those gentlemanly manners. However, it seems they are a dying breed and that is sad. Just my thoughts dear friend. Take care and have a nice day!
@weemam (13377)
6 May 08
Thanks pal , My hubby and sons all have lovely manners too , I noticed too when I was visiting My second sons last week that my 2 lovely grandsons were the same , it is so lovely to see , xx
@twoey68 (13651)
• United States
20 Mar 08
I don't see many of them around anymore...Hubby is occasionally. I think they are a dying breed. !!HAPPY EASTER!! **AT PEACE WITHIN** ~~STAND STRONG IN YOUR BELIEFS~~
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@weemam (13377)
20 Mar 08
Thanks for the response pal , I am just pleased that I have four gentlemen in my family xxx
@kgwat70 (13396)
• United States
11 Mar 07
It is nice to hear that your husband is a true gentlemen. There are still many gentlemen out there though it may seem to be more difficult to find them these days. Everyone considers me to be a true gentlemen when I talk to them or email them. People keep asking me why I do not have a girlfriend or wife yet. I am sure that your sons are already gentlemen and will be like their dad. It sounds like you have a wonderful family. :-)
@weemam (13377)
11 Mar 07
thank you kgwat I go and 4 beautiful grand children to who also have lovely manners xx
@kathy77 (7488)
• Australia
3 Mar 07
Oh you are a lucky woman Weemam, there are not many gentlemen around these days although my husband does have quite a lot of manners which he uses most of the time,. yes gentlemen manners are very important to me and for others it does give a great impression of how the man was bought up and taught manners which I believe are wonderful.
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@weemam (13377)
3 Mar 07
Thanks again Kathy xx
@ukchriss (2103)
3 Mar 07
Yes, I think good manners are gradually disappearing, i did post a discussion on this a couple of days ago... Do you think Good Manners still Matter? Men, do you Show your date that you are a true gentleman?
@weemam (13377)
3 Mar 07
sorry chriss I didn't see it xx
@gabs8513 (48715)
• United Kingdom
3 Mar 07
Yes weemam you are right those kind of Manners have gone even in a lot of elderly People to. The other Day I followed this old Gentleman into the shop and he just let the door shut on me and I really had to bite my Tongue, I was not in a good mood anyway and if I would not have bitten my Tongue he would have had a right telling. My Son also knows his Manners, but it is true not a lot of that around anymore.
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@weemam (13377)
3 Mar 07
It is a shame though gabs as it is nice to be treated as special , and I always say thanks If someone shows manners as I am sure do do too xx
@wolfie34 (26793)
• United Kingdom
3 Mar 07
46 years! Wow my friend that is something to celebrate, and I can understand why you have been together for so long! He sounds like the perfect gentleman, very rare species in today's society! I like to think I am a true gentleman and if I see someone struggling I will offer to help, being tall I am very useful for old ladies in the supermarket to get something down off tall shelves. I also help mum's elderly neighbour when I go over and see her.
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@weemam (13377)
3 Mar 07
I take Ross shopping with me lol I am under 5 ft and he is over 6 ft , useful lol xx
@mummymo (23707)
3 Mar 07
LOL Your hubby is a true gent in every sense of the word!!! Bet it took your friend a couple of minutes to realise why he was going to the outside of the pavement! There are still some manners out there, I try hard to teach my children. When you come across someone who not only has nice manners but goes that extra mile it really makes you realise how much more we should all be expecting of ourselves!
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@weemam (13377)
3 Mar 07
Thanks pal and guess what ? that lady was you xx
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• United States
3 Mar 07
My husband grew up rough and gruff on the streets in NYC, but he always puts me first and treats me like a lady. He holds doors open, wants to help carry everything, makes sure I think of myself when shopping, and even asked my mother to come live next to us when we moved to our current place, he is respectful of women in his everyday dealings and makes sure our boys are respectful and helpful as well. There are still gentlemen out there, but they are getting harder and harder to find.
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@weemam (13377)
3 Mar 07
That is brilliant shady , I am so glad , It is lovely to be treated as special , isn't it ? xx
@honeyangel (1992)
3 Mar 07
my hubbies not to bad he has some manners but not a lot. most of the younger one dont have any now adays,they dont know how to say please or thank you.im teaching my 2 manners and if they dont say thanx or please,i tell them off and remind them to have manners.
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@weemam (13377)
3 Mar 07
I am a wee bit cheeky there , I say " and what is the magic word" lol xx
@lauriefnp (5112)
• United States
3 Mar 07
It's so sad that there aren't more men like your husband around, and more couples who would bring up their sons to have decent manners. Of course being polite and having good manners is important for girls, as well, but it is different for men. We expect them to do the things that your husband does; it's just such a nice way of a man showing that he respects and wants to "protect" the women in his life. I am so used to men with no basic manners that recently the guy I'm seeing called my attention to the fact that I always open doors to restaurants, stores, etc. before he has a chance to do so and it makes him feel "less than a man". I guess that I've gotten so used to doing this myself. Now I make a conscious effort to "allow" him to do this, because he feels better. He's not into the opening the car door thing or anything else, but at least he has some manners. Your husband sounds like a real gem!
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@weemam (13377)
3 Mar 07
he is laurie he is very special and I wouldn't sell him for a million pounds he is my soul mate xx