Would you turn in a loved one if they commeted a really bad crime?
By bicklelady
@bicklelady (1404)
United States
March 3, 2007 8:34pm CST
I see all these crime shows on t.v. all the time. There is so much killing, rape, drugs, and much more out in the world. I was thanking God the other day, that my two boys had never been in any trouble. Then I was thinking about how some parents have so much trouble with there children. How far would you go to protect your child or a loved one?
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@smilingurvashi (1151)
• India
17 Mar 07
i think in such a situation, i'll try my level best to protect my child or a loved one.
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@smilingurvashi (1151)
• India
17 Mar 07
its tough to answer. i think when it comes to your own self including people who are a part of you, meaning of your existence then in that case people tend to get selfish . i think its like i say today that i can never do robbery but God forbid if a situation comes where i don't have money, and am hungry for many days and nobody is there to help me out with a single penny then i'll forget my moral values, and try stealing food.
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@bicklelady (1404)
• United States
17 Mar 07
Oh I agree. If my boys was hungry and I could not get any help from anyone. I would beg and if that did not help and I could not get a job. I would steal. What I am talking about is if a loved one killed someone or raped someone. What would you do?
@Ravenladyj (22904)
• United States
17 Mar 07
i most certainly would...much unlike the wife of a bar boss I had once....Her teenaged son "accidently" murdered this other guy...so he paniced and brought the flipping body home to his mums house...So what does she do? Rather than calling the cops, SHE HIDE THE BODY IN HER FREEZER!!! I was floored over that one...yet at the same time I wasnt cause she was a wingnut and so was my boss..As far as I know or rather last I heard they were both in prison (for different reasons)....which is where they both belong
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@bicklelady (1404)
• United States
21 Mar 07
I bet if it was the son that got killed, they would not have looked at it that way. They would want justice. I am so glad they are in prison.
@sidoney (1033)
• Jamaica
5 Mar 07
it depends on the situation that surrounds the crime was it a set up is it true was it accident there is no excuse for rape you do or you don't unless it other party was lying firstly I would try to talk to my to see what exactly happen try to help him not to make such a mistake again choosing between my son being in jail and being with me is a hard decision but I sue would try to talk to him to help him change his ways if its a case where he keeps doing the wrong over and over again I there is a 95% chance I would turn him in for his own good as well as for some other mothers child
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@bicklelady (1404)
• United States
11 Mar 07
I think this question is harder to answer for people who have kids.
@xParanoiax (6987)
• United States
17 Mar 07
It depends on the crime. Later I'd be required to or else it'd hurt my profession..but right now it would depend on the crime and the reasons.
But I can honestly say I'd encourage them to turn themselves in. Lessen the punishment and not to do it again if they could help it any.
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@bicklelady (1404)
• United States
17 Mar 07
yea you are right. I guess it would depend on the crime.
@uu4h708 (638)
• Philippines
17 Mar 07
it would be hard doing that to someone you love, actually i dont think i would be able to do that... i wont turn them in, but i would try my best to convince him/her to turn themselves in.. i think it is best if it came from them not from someone close to them, they might think its betrayal even for me its not... but then again, if my love one cant stop himself from doing those crimes, then id say id have to do something and prevent him from hurting other people again
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@bicklelady (1404)
• United States
17 Mar 07
Well this is what I THINK I would do. If one of my loved ones hurt another human being, I would have to turn them in. I can say that now, but if it ever happened I hope I would be strong enough to do thay.
@kurtbiewald (2625)
• United States
11 Mar 07
I probably would
for minor crimes, I would just warn them
the more I love somebody the more I would protect them
@bicklelady (1404)
• United States
11 Mar 07
I would like to say I would. I have tried to teach my boys right from wrong and doing the crime would be wrong. Not turning them in would be just as wrong. But! they are my kids. I dont know if I could stand seeing them halled off in havd cuffs. I just hope I will never have to face that.
@visitorinvasion (7709)
• United States
4 Mar 07
It would depend on the crime. I couldn't hide my kid knowing that he/she killed someone else's kid. I couldn't abide by no raping and bull like that either. No way. It would be wrong and I wouldn't be able to sleep at night.
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@bicklelady (1404)
• United States
4 Mar 07
Yea, If one of your loved ones was raped or killed, you would want the person turned in.
@kathy77 (7486)
• Australia
4 Mar 07
yes, I see quite a lot of these kind of shows as well on the television,. Yes many parents do have a lot of trouble with their children, but I believe that this is due to the time and how the children have been bought up the majority of the time. I would go all the way to protect my children and loved ones, and lucky none of my 5 children have been in trouble with the law.
@bicklelady (1404)
• United States
4 Mar 07
Thats great! I know what you mean. I work with the youth and alot of times the parents just send them to church just to get them out of there hair. some kids get into trouble to get there parents attention.
@rosie_123 (6113)
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4 Mar 07
Well that is a difficult one, and I'm not sure anyone can answer that fully unless they have been in that unhappy position themselves. But I would like to say - yes, I would. I certainly can't imagine protecting anyone that had committed rape, or murder, no matter how much I loved them.
@joey_matthews (8354)
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4 Mar 07
Morally I wouldn't turn them in unless they wouldn't do it themselves.
If a family member wouldn't do this and it was serious and I'm not talking about accidents or prevoked attacks. I think they'd sort this out without myself getting involved.
Personally I think nobody should hand someone in unless they won't as for a family member who's meant to care should help them see sense and it would help them more.
Kudos,
~Joey
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@bicklelady (1404)
• United States
4 Mar 07
That makes since. But you know now a days some people dont care. They think that if they dont get caught, that is there luck. Thanks
@bicklelady (1404)
• United States
4 Mar 07
I know. It would be so hard knowing that your child would be going to prison.
@paulskie (246)
• Philippines
17 Mar 07
Hello there !
That's a really tough one you have there! I am not still a parent myself but I would want to share my views.
I find it hard to turn in my first born son if ever I have a son in the future. I'm really thinking about this right now. .. But I can't think of ways to at least justify my thoughts.. I find it really hard to turn my first-born son in. I can't stand the mere thought of it. I would just make sure that when I'm a father someday, I would direct my son to lead a decent life...
You can call me biased and unjust father for sharing my ideas. Harboring and protecting my son from authorities even though he committed a crime.. but that's how I feel.. :(
I would make it a point not to be in that situation someday... I'd raise a son and I'd raise him good and decent...
BUT I have to get married first before a son comes into the picture. :D
