giving birth

@jencai (3416)
Philippines
March 3, 2007 11:23pm CST
i'm planning to get married next year, right now i'm afraid of giving birth (baby).. i dont know how does it feels like, i don't know if i can do that.. or if i can give my husband a baby.. i'm just certain for the fear i feel inside me.
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6 responses
@beaniegdi (1966)
4 Mar 07
having a baby feels different for each woman. but these days pain relief is so much improved on what it used to be. the main thing is pain that is like bad period pain and I'm sure you cope with that often enough, although it is hard to believe but the bit that the baby comes out of actually has few nerve endings so does not feel pain, and the actual delivery when the baby finally comes out only lasts seconds. try to stay relaxed, you are designed to give birth, it is what yur body is built to do, it is like anything we do t he first time - scary because we don't know what to expect. just ask for all the pain relief that is on offer and remember that the birth is only a small part of the pregnancy and the rest of you life with yur child.
@jencai (3416)
• Philippines
4 Mar 07
yahh. that's what technology gives us... thanks for the doctors who discovers them.. thank you also to you
@sahira (1072)
• Philippines
4 Mar 07
Sis,don't be afriad.Just don't think of pain in giving birth because it makes you sick and besides it will be difficult for you to be preganant.Just imagine how many mother or women experienced pregnancy,what happened to them?They are happy now,right?like me,i gave birth a healthy son.When you see the fruits of your labor,every pain just vanish.good luck!
@jencai (3416)
• Philippines
4 Mar 07
thanks, you're right, alot of peolpe told me that before. but is it really painful? did you had normal delivery?
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@Dolcerina (3380)
• Hungary
4 Mar 07
You do not have to worry about it. There were a plenty of women before you who gave birth to a child :) YOu must be sure that you will have a baby, and you will have :)
@Dolcerina (3380)
• Hungary
4 Mar 07
Yes it is very painfull, but I wanted to feel this pain. After my son was born I could not imagine, that I will give birth to a child once again. But I think the women forget this pain. I think the nature wants us to forget :) Never forget that so many women did it before you, even younger ones!
@jencai (3416)
• Philippines
4 Mar 07
now i don't have to worry no more... thank you for the enlightning messages you had send to me.. i want my baby so i will face my fear.
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@sacmom (14338)
• United States
5 Mar 07
Like you, I too was afraid of giving birth for the first time! But I got through it and I had another baby 3 years later. The fear of giving birth that I had was not there the second time around as I found out I can do it. And I'm sure you can too! After all, women are made to have babies. :)
@jencai (3416)
• Philippines
5 Mar 07
yes, now i can, with your help and other mylot members.. i'm ready for the baby next year.. i can't wait no more.. thanks!
@jolanda33 (721)
• Netherlands
4 Mar 07
just don't listen to the other stories! every woman has her own feelings, pain, fear etc. and as soon as you hold your babt it is gone!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! and when you go to the hospital they can give you something for the pain, so don't worry be happy! if you worry already it is possibly not to get pregnant at all. and if you are married next year, you don't have to be pregnant right away, you can also wait a couple of years,when you're feeling says yes, you go for it! and remember milions of woman gave birth to a lot of kids!
@jencai (3416)
• Philippines
4 Mar 07
that's the point.. there are people who had alot of children, whose not afraid to do it that's why i wonder how they do that.. anyway, i guess i had lot of encouragement from all of you guys.. i'm now prepared for having a baby.. thanks to all of you.. GOD BLESS.
@syndibee (799)
• United States
4 Mar 07
birth is a mystery surrounded my awe and fear. no-one can accurately tell you how it is or will be like. the feeling is unique to each individual. there are bad days and good in pregnancy as well as in raising children. there are good experiences and bad in every single labor. it isn't either all good or all bad in my opinion. yes most people do experience a degree of pain. tho the love and amazement is so much more prevalent than any pain. the feeling of seeing and holding that child for the first time is so completely overwhelming that you can't help but tremble and cry with amazement. the pride is unbelievable. no, having children isn't for everyone but if fear is the only thing holding you back then i say let go of your fears and feel what your true desire is in your heart.
@jencai (3416)
• Philippines
4 Mar 07
great.. i feel much better now. being a mother for the first time is really exciting.. i cannot wait no more.. god bless.