rebelling child any suggestions???????

Canada
March 4, 2007 12:03am CST
As a single parent I have met a man and now my oldest son which is 5yrs old is very jelous of him he act's badly everytime we go to visit this man he rebels like u wouldn't believe...My oldest child just does thing's to make that big splash and I don't know what to do any suggestions???????? He is good with my children and trys really hard for them, but my older one will not except him and he never treated him badly he treat's them good....Info on this plssss
3 responses
@anirc750310 (3424)
• Romania
4 Mar 07
hi yesterday evening i was talking with my friend who has the same problem with her daughter, jelous of the man in her mother's life.What can i advice you, is to explain him, you love him more then every other man on this earth, and about the guy, try to make him in your boy's eyes a good friend for awile not a lover. Try to not kiss him in front of the boy or afective scene like shake hands, etc. Time will pass and he will adapt to the situation, but do not fixed your life their will, cause time will pass and they will recoqnize their mistake but it will be too late for you to be happy near a man. i know because i did the same thing with my mother, and now i do not like decision i've made long time ago. She had her right to be happy .
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• Canada
4 Mar 07
Thanxs I just need to give it time I like ur responds it helped alot on me dealing with this situation cause I was ready to give up when I posted this and put my happiness on hold and raise my children, I don't like to c one of them being upset in anyway, And u are right I deserve to be happy also....thanxs for ur comment
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@ronita34 (3923)
• Canada
5 Mar 07
I think that every child goes through this sort of stage especially when they are used to having you all to themselves!! I think that he will eventually adgust and that you should just give him some time. Sit him down and have a good chat with him and let him know that you do not want to be alone forever. Explain to him that mommy needs someone too and that this new man in your lives is not there to replace him at all! Good Luck and God Bless!!!
• Canada
7 Mar 07
Yes u are right it will take time but does he take the realtionship till nil before he takes the reason he is very stuborn child....thanxs for responding God Bless u too
• United States
4 Mar 07
Your son is just threaten by another man in his life. Rebelling is a sign of insecurity and he might think you will not give him more attention now that you have met this guy. The best thing you can do is explain to him that he will always be important, etc. Make him feel that nothing will change just because of this new person in his life. Assurance is the best way to tone down this rebellion. Once he gets the idea that Mommy will always be there for him even though there is another person in her life, then he will calm down.
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• Canada
4 Mar 07
Thank u for ur responds I agree with u I need to reassure him that just because there is a man in my life now does not change are relationship between us, but it seams very hard for him to take this man as a friend because to him right now he's the ememy and it's hard..I don't treat him any different while we are all together, but can tell my son is threated by hes presents cause he acts out doing things he never does.....
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