Have you ever stood up against the the majority....

@Avichail (694)
Indonesia
March 4, 2007 8:05am CST
...although it caused you to lose something dearly? I did not stand up against the majority for a few times for fearing it would get me into trouble. But it turned out eating me out inside and I just could not face myself after that. Step by step now God has taught me well to choose the right thing, instead of the pleasing thing. It's still a struggle for some cases until this very moment, but I've learnt if I choose the right thing, it will always be right to the end, even if it stand against the majority. Do you have similar experience? Please share here, maybe we can strengthen someone who has to take a very difficult options against the majority.
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@stephcjh (32327)
• United States
4 Mar 07
I feel like I am always up against the majority day in and day out. I really don't think there is anyone out there that has the same views and feelings that I have. It is very lonesome and I don't know how much longer I can stand it. I am married to a wonderful man and I have a 15 year old daughter. I just feel so alone in this world even when I am in a huge crowd. I never seem to be seen, noticed or understood. It is almost like I am totally invisible. I stand aginst the crowd of people, even family, who try to make me do the things they are doing. I don't like what they do and they have no part in what I do either. They never did. I just don't know why I even exist really. I think I was only put here to please others and I am to never be happy in life. I stand against saying yes all the time to people for whatever they want or need because it never comes back around to me. I do anything I can for my husband and daughter, but like I said, I feel so alone in life and my marriage. I know he loves me but he will never understand how I feel. I have told him many times, but it does no good at all really or I still wouldn't be feeling this way.
@Avichail (694)
• Indonesia
5 Mar 07
Dear Stephcjh, If you stand against the majority, people around you will certainly notice you, although their reaction might not be what you hope it to be. So, it's very possible that it's only the deceiving voice inside your own head that keeps telling you you're unseen like that. Don't ever believe it. You see, don't we all like that? We want the focus to be us most of the time. It's like a wanting-to-be-heard competition. A vicious cycle. And I learn that in order to break it, simply by shifting the focus on us to others. Easy to say and hard to do, but it's true. I know people who do that by starting to be thankful for the things they have and I have to say, it works. Just start counting the blessings, we'll soon realize that we actually have more than we deserve. Besides, I always believe that there is always Someone watching over me, His eyes is always on me, He understands me more than I understand myself. And you what, His eyes is always on you, too. He heards your deepest sorrow, sees your every tears and He has put you in this universe for a certain purpose. He says in essence, "Look around and you'll be depressed, but look up to Me and I'll give you rest." Keep it going, Steph, but keep it going with God...=)
@compumom (738)
• United States
4 Mar 07
I understand what you mean. Although it may be difficult at times, I try to do the right thing. I haven't had to stand up against the majority, but I did have to deal with my conscience. On several occasions, when purchasing groceries, the cashier had inadvertently left an item off of my bill, or I've gone out to eat and the waitress forgot to charge me for one of my items. I usually call their attention to the forgotten item and have them re issue the bill. I know I could have gotten away with it, but the guilt isn't worth the couple of dollars
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@Avichail (694)
• Indonesia
4 Mar 07
Thanks Compumom for sharing about the bills stuff. We may think nobody's watching, yet we have to later deal with our conscience and it can be our most difficult moment, can't it? Like you said, it's not worth it at all.