Babies having Babies!

United States
March 4, 2007 12:36pm CST
Has anyone else noticed the extremely too high number of young teenagers having babies? There were at least five out of my class of 67 who had children before they graduated high school! It's starting to become rather ridculous. The sad part is they think that having the baby will mature them, but in all the cases I've seen, it's just the opposite. However, I have heard of people benefitting from the baby, but in most cases, the result is unfortuantely tragic! Babies having babies...what a strange concept!
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@judyt00 (3504)
• Canada
4 Mar 07
A woman's best fertile period is between 18 and 21, so its really a good time to have children at 16 or 18 if you are mentally mature enough and not going on to university. Unfortunately, most people aren't these days, since they have always had everything handed to them. My daughter had a baby at 16, and she is a very good mother. She took a class with other young mothers-to-be, and out of 27, only two still have their babies 6 years later. Nearly half had their babies removed before they were even 6 weeks old because they simply weren't capable of raising them and others were charged with neglect. Two babies were removed because the fathers sexually molested them( sick fu*ks!).
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@alirana (297)
• Malaysia
5 Mar 07
This is something which logical and rational mind can't accept that get babies before marriage and than transfer them into legal babies.The world must have to know that the civilized societies never allow such kind of fasl concept which became so common now. Mother encoraging daughter to get babies without wedlock hahaha...ridiculous..so much now plz try to change this kind of concepts which will turns the face of any civilized society.
@whozefa (448)
• India
5 Mar 07
well in this world everything is possible quickly
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@jadeybabe (264)
4 Mar 07
im 18 and i have had a baby six months ago do you think i'am a baby , i think i don't act imature thoe.
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@meljessxena (2317)
• Australia
5 Mar 07
i agree with you that a lot of teenagers are having babies, but not much you or anyone can do about it and some people are mature even before they have the babies, then others just need to grow up. some girls just cant help having a baby as if it was an accident etc. like i could abort a baby if i fell pregnant no way i dont even believe in abortions. its not tragic i dont think. some people just need help and some girls think that by having a baby thats helping, but its just comes from how they were raised. thats my opinion
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@villageanne (8554)
• United States
4 Mar 07
I too have noticed the trend. Woman have been having babies at a young age all through history, the difference is that they were married. In pioneer days, girls were married at 15 or 16 and started to have babies immediately. Today, many of the girls haveing babies at a young age are not married so it is difficut to raise them alone. I was 18 when I got married and i was very mature for my age. I was raised on a farm with lots of responsibilities and that that taught me much.
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• United States
5 Mar 07
Being married ISN'T a requirement to having a baby and being a good mother. And it shouldn't be forced upon someone that doesn't want to get married. I'm a mother of a 19 month old boy and I'm not married to his father, nor do we have any plans to ever get married. I'm not saying that marriage is an outdated practice, but it really isn't necessary to be married to be a good parent.
@kgwat70 (13396)
• United States
4 Mar 07
I have definitely noticed that the number of teenagers having babies has increased here as well and it is sad because they do not know how much of a responsibility it is to raise a child yet. It is amazing that they are having children at such young ages as they more than likely do not have the money to support a child. They should be concentrating on their studies so that they can get a good job and then have a child later.
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• United States
5 Mar 07
Jacksmom: Congrats on a well achieved life! =)
• Canada
5 Mar 07
Yes , I noticed a great deal of this the year I worked in the school . It was sad to see all these girls pregnant and they were not old enough to have any concept of knowing what this was all going to be about . Children laughing and excited about there friends who were going to have a baby and about how cute this was going to me , none of them giving much thought to the baby getting up in the middle of the night or how the person's life was going to become more restricted with having a new baby . They just didn't seem to have any idea of what this was all about except what fun they would have showing off a new baby .
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@sarajw (85)
5 Mar 07
I think it's very sad. I have a girl who lives opposite me and last year was just 14 and she told me that as soon as she's 16 she's going to have a baby. I was so shocked that the only thing a lovely 14 year old girl aspires to do with their life is get pregnant. Anyway just after her 15th birthday, she is now now very pregnant, i feel very sorry for her. She comes from quite a disfunctional family, and when i passed her dad in the street last week and asked him how his daughter was, he said fine and was very excited about the imminent arrival of his grandchild, because he said, they will now get a bigger house from the goverment, neither parent works!!! I was 22 when i had my daughter and i now think that was too young, there's so many things i wish i'd have done first now.
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@sweetsue (759)
• Philippines
5 Mar 07
This is no ordinary thing wether to date or yesteryears. Indeed, very prevalent and this whole thing is very certain as the world itself is certain.And this has been increasing. Who's to be blame on this sitution? Who holds responsible for this mess? I guess, both the teenagers and the parents take equal share of respobsiblity of guarding this kind of situation. Horrible and tragic but what we can only do is to hope for the best to those who are in this situation. May they all be responsible in thier newly found responsoibility.
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• Canada
5 Mar 07
I totally know what you mean. In the UK we leave high school at the age of 16 unless we decide to go on to do whats known as year 12 or 6th form. There were 3 of my friends who left high school early because they got pregnant, and then another one found out she was pregnant a week after we graduated. I think a lot of times, teen girls have this mentality of "Oh, it'll never happen to me!" but unfortunately, circumstances prove otherwise. I had my first child a month before I turned 20 and I had a lot of trouble with my aunt who said I'd never make it as a mom. I made her eat those words. A lot of these young girls just aren't as mature as they think they are, and they find it extremely hard to cope.
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@doc_sid9 (316)
• India
5 Mar 07
well the prob lies with-- ignorance lack of love towards teens unawareness communication gap....
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• Philippines
5 Mar 07
yes, actually a lot of my friends on our batch have babies now.
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• United States
5 Mar 07
I was a baby that had a bay.I had my daughter when i was 15yrs old.Im now 23.Yes i know it was stupid and wrong but it happened and oh well.But when i found out i was pregnant the father just up and disappeared especially when he found out she was a girl.I did what i needed to do.I went to school and held a almost full time job.I had to grow up pretty fast.Now i can proudly say that i have a wonderful kid!!!Shes so respectful and caring.I did everything in my power to not make the mistakes my mom made.My mom had my older sister when she was only 13 yrs old!!!!Now im a hard working mother.I live on my own and take care of my kids.I know what you mean though because where i live either they give the kid to thier parents or they just dont give a damn and neglect thier children.Its sad to see especially cuz i personally know it doesnt have to be like that.Yes i was young and stupid but i fessed up to my mistakes and took responibility.My younger cousin is 17 and she has 3 kids!!!Its getting worse and worse as the years pass.The teens get younger and younger and have more and more kids.Alot of teens i know have at least 2 kids.Its sad cuz these kids get brought into a life full of bullcrap when they didnt ask for that.
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• United States
5 Mar 07
I've noticed this and I find it rather alarming. Heck I've noticed it with anyone under 25 and not just teens. I'm a single guy and so I've been shopping the shelf. I'd swear that about 60-70% of the females out there are either married or have kids unmarried. And that amount is probably split evenly between the two. I do agree that most aren't mature enough to have the kids. Add that to the fact that most can't even financially support them. The put all of the responsibility on their parents. Then they have a hard time being able to go to college due the extra expense. Personally, I think most teenage pregnancies are perfect examples of child abuse and neglect. The mother doesn't have enough to give the child a good raising and can't spend enough time with them unless they drop out of school.
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• United States
5 Mar 07
I felt as if a lot of young women in my high school were having babies. It's strange to think though, but I believe the percent of teenage pregnancies are actually going down! For some people, having a baby really helps them straighten up their life and to set some priorities and have responsibility. IT's not fair for the baby though if they are born in an unfit home. :(
@Marie2473 (8521)
• Sweden
5 Mar 07
I agree, way to many people have children too earlie. My mom had my brother at the age of 16. She nagged on all her kids not to get kids until we were were ready and my brother is now 38, I am 26 and my younger brother is 23, none of us have any kids =) My mom is now scared that she scared us and we will never deliver any grandchildren =)
@suspenseful (40316)
• Canada
5 Mar 07
Yes it is. But you have to know how this started. It started in the 1950s and possibly sooner when if a girl got pregnant, the guy didn't have to marry her. Before that he had to -shotgun marriages and that. She was also not to tell anyone unless she got engaged. That meant either she remained single or when she married, it was difficult to get pregnant. Since she never told anyone and since there were a lot of women who had infertility problems starting in their twenties, the idea came that either you get married in your teens, or if you do not get married, you sleep with someone and get pregnant because you aren't getting any younger and once you reach your twenties or thirties your chance of starting a family has gone to slim or none which is ridiculous since it is all because that when that pregnant girl needed proper medical attention she was discourage from it by making her feel too ashamed to seek help. So it goes this way" 1: girl refused marriage when she has a baby in her teens 2: girl now woman gets married in her late twenties, thirties or forties, because of what she went through, and is now not able to get pregnant for whatever reason 3: some women even in their twenties have difficulty getting pregnant 4: therefore the young girls conclude that if they want to have babies, they had better have them in their teens (oh before 17 or 18 for that young women who also made a comment on this board) or they will remain childless. 5: They want someone to love and the grandparents feel their unmarried daughter having a baby is more important than morality 6:"All their friends are having one and babies are so cute. and 7: they have no conception of going to the burger joint or hangout for something to eat, going to a movie, etc. or getting to know each other and they just want to jump into bed when some guy says "do you want to go out."
• Philippines
5 Mar 07
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@TerryZ (22083)
• United States
5 Mar 07
Yes this is true but if you think back in your grandmothers erra they were getting married and having babies at a very young age too. And I think because their was no birth controll back then. I think that it does mature a person when having a baby at young age. It all depends on the individual. I have to blame the parents of these kids who are having babies at a young age. Its up to the parent to either allow it or have a abortion. The parents need to sep up to the plate.
@kakuemmom (862)
• Canada
5 Mar 07
It is so sad these girls are not getting to experience life before they come responsible for another life. I am lucky I have a 17 year old and she is sooooooooo sure she doesn't want kids for a very long time. she has had to share a room with her little sister who is only 4 since she was 9 months. Emma has been the best birth control ever lol. I know the town next to ours is supposed to have a very high rate of teen pregnancies I do see a lot of kids pushing baby strollers. All I can say to them is good luck its a hard road ahead of you.