Imposing our beliefs and faith to your children??

Saint Vincent And The Grenadines
March 5, 2007 11:18am CST
I know that many people don't give the chance to let their kids to choose their own path, and even though they have the right to live their lives according to their beliefs....do you think they are entitled to impose them to their kids? I think that our education should be a bit more neutral, and once the kid learns a proper age he or she can choose his path, a certain religion, agnosticism, atheism, etc. What do you think it's best?
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• United States
6 Mar 07
Oh wow...I agree with you there. I have actually taken it upon myself to learn as much as I can about all religions and beliefs and have tried to teach them all to my kids. I think they should have the right to choose their own paths, and I want to make sure I give them as many stepping stones as they need to find their way. But I do think it has to do with how religious the parents are too, and what they are comfortable with doing. To each his own.
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@rhinoboy (2129)
5 Mar 07
I recently discussed this with my wife. We were raised as loose Church of England, but are pretty much atheist adults. My wife was unsure whether we should have our daughter christened anyway, since it would be the 'done thing' and we didn't plan anyhting else like a naming ceremony or anything. I thought for a long time and decided that my daughter would not be indoctrinated into any religion until I am satisfied that she has had sufficient impartial education of most major faiths. It is my belief that religion, although unintendedly, drives a wedge between cultures in 'integrated' societies. Until religion can be seen by all as a matter of personal choice, rather than a duty or obligation it will continue to be more burden than assistance to a modern progressive society.
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@Ravenladyj (22940)
• United States
5 Mar 07
My kids are aware of my path etc because i'm open about it, they live with me and so on but i dont force them to follow or believe whta I do...I educate them on numerous religions and paths etc as best as possible and when they are ready to decide if ever then they'll be educated and at least have a good headstart....I totally disagree with parents who force their children to go to church with them or participate in rituals or whatever...especially if they arent teaching them the basics of other paths as well..or if they are claiming that all other paths are bad/wrong/evil and so on...I think thats a horrible thing to do to a child really
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@chloe9013 (532)
5 Mar 07
If i had children and was religious, i would bring them up to belive in it. But at that stage should they have chosen to question or not belive anymore i would be 100% find with that. People have there own opinon and should not be forced to belive something. Bringing a child up with your religion is fine but i think you have to be prepared to accept it should they decide they dont agree.
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5 Mar 07
I think that it is very difficult not to impose your beliefs on your children. In your eyes what you believe is the right way and so that is what you teach them. However once the children start asking questions about things as parents we should show them how to find out more.
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• United States
5 Mar 07
I disagree with your word "imposing".It is a parents duty to instill beliefs to their child.In the Bible it tells us, "Raise up a child in the way they should walk & they shall not depart from it"...would you agree to have a child believe in satanism? I wouldn't.
@Galena (9123)
6 Mar 07
either it's right for parents to raise their child in their beleifs or it isn't. you can't pick and choose which religions should be allowed to. as it happens, the few Satanists I've met are pretty decent people. although why they call it Satanism when Satan has nothing to do with it, I don't know. must be for shock value.
@vetsmom_rgv (1083)
• United States
5 Mar 07
This is what I believe. Once you have kids you have a responsibility to show them a path, whatever it may be. And if they are 21 and living under your roof and don't have the ability to live on their own they follow your rules. Once they move out and they decide not to follow your path, so be it! Every parent if different. They might let them stray off before that, but I believe that's a mistake, you are no longer being a parent to them. GOOD LUCK!
@Galena (9123)
6 Mar 07
the thing is, beleif isn't a choice. either something rings true to you or it doesn't. so by your reasoning you are saying that a child should have to have the same religion as the parents until they leave home. that's ridiculous. what if they decide before they are 10 that they don't beleive it. nothing you can do can make someone beleive in something that they don't beleive in. so would you make a child homeless just because they don't beleive the same thing as you? because lets face it, children are able to make up their own minds about religion long before they're old enough to live alone.
@kaplya (1578)
• India
6 Mar 07
u have a point there as it would help children grow without having any specific prejudice about other religions but i think if someone has kids he would naturally like to raise them with those beiefs he has and the way he thinks is the best for them.in my opinion it's up to their kids when they later grow up to realise and find out themselves that what path they should follow( i assume that's what most children do presently). it's totally unaccepted and wrong if someone imposes his beliefs on someone even though his children do not want to follow their path and it should not be encouraged on any rate! however in my personal opinion it's a parent's responsibility to raise his children in as free (mental)enviornment as he could maintain because this things only helps someone with improving his mind and thinking level. i hope my reply is making a sense...lol
• India
6 Mar 07
I think inthe childhood of the people they are unaware of the choices that they could make.They only can learn the things in their parents lap.They see the world from their parents eyes.So if parents try to impose their own ideas n beliefs, there is a great danger that children would not be able to perform at their best in that field.Since they might have some different qualities in them which may suit to some other field.so its better to shoew the right direction rather than destination.
• India
6 Mar 07
I do think that we have no right to impose our beliefs on our children or siblings but we sure have the right to tell and show them as to what is right and what is wrong so that when they grow up t age to choose, they choose the correct thing for themselvs and be happy. I think thats the best way. I feel that when we teach something the only by following what we teach. And we should always be try to be friend and protector and not the leader or imposer. Just teach them how to LOVE and thats all. Done Thank YOu Take Care May GOD Bless YOU
@nancygibson (3738)
• France
6 Mar 07
Its a very tricky area. One one hand its right for a family to bring their children up within the framework that they believe to represent a decent, ethical and moral way of life, for many people that means within the embrace of their chosen religion. However, I also firmly believe that we all have a right to follow our own path, so I would also make sure that they understood the basic precepts of a number of other belief systems, and if they show a natural curiosity about any of them allow them to find out a little more. In time, if they do choose a different faith to their parents, it is of their own free will and with more mutual respect than if they have to 'rebel' against a set of rules forcued upon them.
@shalix (14)
• Philippines
6 Mar 07
all of my children are all baptized as member of the roman catholic. but when they grow older i am prepare for whatever decision they have towards their belief. i cannot raise a commanding voice to them, it is their right and i respect them.
@davido (1624)
• Canada
6 Mar 07
I dont think it will be possible for a responsible parent not to want his/her child go the right way or not want to impose his/her beleif into him/her and i think it is better to do this than allow some unknown people by the guise of being a teacher to impart unnessary tyhings into them eg not beliving in God or prayer to God but belifs that Satan or Angels who are supposed to be your ministers(Servants) to be worshiped, or brain wash them to the fact that it is right for a guy to befriend a guy or vise versa. Well the Bible says Teach your child the way he/she should go, when he is old he will not depart from it. That the landmark will not be moved. When we are kids we were taught the way of the Lord by our parents although we have a lot of inquisition and want to be like the other kids but the foundation (Chiristian) we received from ouyr parents have held us together(me and my folks). When your kids start asking questions you should let them know the definite answers and dont hide, knowing the definete answers yourself is a matter of you as parents knowing what you belief.
@fianne (1059)
• United States
6 Mar 07
as parents, you need to tell them your beliefs, your thoughts... but you don not tell them come on follow mine and believe mine. those beliefs will be set as an aexample by your kids as your principles. it will be as like they say, "my mom believes this and i like that for standing in her own belief when it does not go with mine." meanbing you stand for your right.
@chavezrmc (4078)
• Philippines
6 Mar 07
We can't impose the things that we believe to our children. We are here parents to guide them only. They have their own lives to live let them live it the way they want it to be. This is showing respect to individualism. We are all a unique creation of God and i believe that we are also responsible for our own lives. As much as we wanted our children to have the best life, let's not forget that they also have the right to live it.
@jmp824 (741)
• Philippines
6 Mar 07
I was given the freedom by my parents to choose the path that i want to. The course that i want to take in college, the person that i want to marry and all other stuff. my parents gave me all the freedom to decide for myself, but of course every now and then i consult them if im making the right decisions. they become more wiser and i consider them as my mentor. and as for me, i wont impose to my kids to follow WHAT I WANT, but to be more supportive of WHAT THEY WANT!
@suspenseful (40316)
• Canada
6 Mar 07
As a Christian, I have to raise my own children to be Christians, but only God can open their hearts. The education in Canada is neutral, or rather anti Christian, in fact it is secular so if God did not open the heart of the child, he would probably chose another way. It is different if the person came to know God when the children are grown or almost grown as in teens. Then the children are probably attending high school or university. But even then it is up to the parents to raise them up in their own beliefs.
@Galena (9123)
6 Mar 07
I was raised in a broadly Pagan environment. but not necessarily raised to be Pagan. the morals instilled in me were. you stick up for your family and friends. you act with honour. you care for nature as ultimately she cares for you. you DON'T drop litter. you don't bury your head in the sand from facts just because you don't like them. if it is not right, don't do it. if it is not true don't say it. we are a part of nature, and not above nature. we are animals. all things have spirit, from us, to other animals, to trees, to plants, to rocks. respect it. do not make an oath or promise without thinking it through and giving everything to keep it. so despite what many people think, being raised loosely Pagan gives a very good moral foundation for life. we celebrated the turning of seasons and points in the agricultural calender. we knew our place in the food chain, and how that affects other animals, plants, jobs, the countryside. however I was never told what to think about Gods or Godesses. any beleifs there I have come to myself. when we were taught Christian stories as fact at school I always questioned it, even at 5 years old, and wouldn't bow my head in prayer with the rest because i didn't beleive it. when I asked my mum about the stories she told me that they were very very old stories, and no one was there when they were written, so no one knows if they are true or not, but that some people do think it's true, and they might be right or they might be wrong. everyone has to make up their own mind. that's how I was brought up. if I ever have children I will raise them just the same. broadly Pagan, as I would hope they find the same spiritual fulfillment from it as I do, but I would allow and encourage them to understand other religions and if they find that one seems more true to them then I would probably be a little disappointed, but I would support and respect them. no matter how young they were at the time.
• India
6 Mar 07
i do believe that children should be given to go by their beliefs and we should support and guide them in the same.
@meoasis (721)
• Nepal
6 Mar 07
imosing (teaching) the best you achieved on your childern may not be that bad but if you are yourself not satisfied with what you have and simply teach your habbits attitudes or achievement may sometimes bring a negative or similar as result as your on your child too so the parents must be very much conscious before they teach their child if you have noting to give let them learn themselves after all they are also human beings and can learn so parents must not worry but be happy