Going to parenting class to help me be a better mom and havew a few problems.

United States
March 6, 2007 3:11pm CST
I'm going to attending a parenting class I signed up for at my church. I was reading over the book they gave us and different things we will be talkin about in class. I"m new to the church and don't know anyone else attending the class besides myself. And in the second class it has a discussion about your relationship with your parents. I don't know how I will address this topic. My mother and I had a wonderful relationship she is now dead. She died back in 97. However me and my dad have a bad relationsip and I'm in the process of sueing him because the 73,000 that I was suppose to get from my mothers death when I turned mature age he spend every dime. I don't know if I should tell them all that though because don't want anyone more so at church to judge me because I'm sueing him and think I'm after the money when its not about that its more about him paying for what he did and what my mom wishes were. So how do you think is the best way to deal with that subject when is brought up in class?
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@jchampany (1131)
• United States
6 Mar 07
Well, I don't know that you have to go into major detail. After all this is a class to make you a better parent not your parents. You are doing this for yourself. You can just say that you and your dad have a rocky relationship. Another thing that concerns me is that you said you are new to the church but have already signed up for a class. I think it is great, I attend a wonderful church. Something that I notice happens often is that when people start going to church, they try very hard to be accepted and want to show that they are serious about their relationship with the Lord, so they join everything they possibly can. They do anything they can to prove themselves. I have seen many new people burn themselves out. They think, "I don't have time for church." Also, people aren't quite ready to join all these things, either their hearts aren't fully open to it or they may not agree with the views of the people at the church or teaching the class. Don't do these things if you are not completely ready to join them. Feel out the church a little first. You don't have to prove yourself. Any good church knows you are just like everyone else, a sinner. We all have to accept that and that no one that goes there is perfect. If these people immediately start judging you, maybe you don't belong at that church.
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• United States
7 Mar 07
I'm not trying to burn myself out as you say. I've been going to church.I"ve just moved here and found this new church. Been going a little over a month now. Everyone is sweet and I heard about the class and it sounded fun. I just don't want people to get the wrong idea of my relationship with my dad. Even strong Christian are sinners as you say and judge. I really love the church and everyone I've interacted with to this point has been wonderful. I just don't want some people to judge or get the wrong idea of my ways because they don't know the whole story.
@jchampany (1131)
• United States
7 Mar 07
Well, I understand a little better now that this is just a new church but you are not a new church goer. I think that if you don't want to talk about, then don't. They do not need to know everything. Like I said before this is a class to make YOU a better parent, not your parents.
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@Connie1013 (1098)
• United States
6 Mar 07
I took a parenting class years ago. I don't recall my parents being brought up. I know if you don't wish to comment on a subject or have nothing positve to add that you can just not speak. I had a wonderful time in my class. I hope you do too.
@wmaharper (2316)
• United States
6 Mar 07
I think you should just be upfront with it. They may just surprise you and be understanding. (at least I hope so) Sometimes parents aren't good parents, and you shouldn't have to pay because he wasn't responsible with your money.
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• United States
6 Mar 07
I don't understand why they think they have the right to ask that question. I would tell them you're not comfortable with that topic and that your mom passed away. I took parenting classes and was never asked anything about my parents!
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• Canada
6 Mar 07
I would say if you are not comfortable talking about this in front of people you don't know they you should state that you are not comfortable about talking about this for personal reasons . And another way you could look at it , is that no matter what we say or do in life we are always being judged by others , but anyone who liked you for you would not judge you and would like you for being able to talk and in this case you don't need to worry about what the other people think as they never took the time to get to know you as a person before they made there assumptions . Best of luck !!
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