Do you take responsibility or cast blame elsewhere?

@pilbara (1436)
Australia
March 6, 2007 10:45pm CST
There is a man who is suing a casino. He lost a lot of money gambling and wants them to return the money. Apparently it is not his fault, he didn't want to gamble the money but they kept on sending him offers, freebies and discounts. He accepted all these things, never asked to be removed from their contact list and is now taking action. I know it's awful to lose a lot of money, but as I see it he made the decision to take what was offered and he made the decision to gamble. How does it then become their fault?
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20 responses
• Canada
7 Mar 07
Well he needs to learn to take responsibility for his own actions . I get coupons all the time but it doesn't mean I have to use them . If I don't want to use them , it is so very easy to walk over to my garbage and drop it in . It sounds like he is making excuses for his own gambling problem . I have been in the casino's myself and know how easy it would be to lose a lot of money so when I do go in I only take 20 dollars in with me and that way when it is gone then I have nothing left to play with so I have to go . I can see that they will allow him to win this in court as they would have every body who ever lost money trying to sue for there money back . At some point we all have to grow up and take responsibility for our own actions and this man is being very immature in the way he is trying to blame someone else for his own mistakes .
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• United States
7 Mar 07
What you sow, you reap. So? I take responsibility for all that I do.
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@liranlgo (5743)
• Israel
7 Mar 07
this is the most funniest story i have ever read and the absord in that is that i wont be surprised if he will get the money back by suing them ..stranger things happend to people.. ofcourse it is his fault. he made the decision and he acted no one is the blame i am sorry but it is like i am going to sue the candy shop for gaining weight because they gave me the money.. but can i tell you i wish him good luck if he will win this won i would be amazed:)
• India
7 Mar 07
The casino is not responsible for the loss of money he has incurred they did not make it compulsory for him to gamble. It was his mistake he should know whether he should gamble or not or how much should he gamble so that he dont lose a lot of money. The man is again gambling by suing the casino and he will further lose a lot of money on this case and he will be never be able to win the case against the casino. One shouldnt blame others for what they do, they should accept their mistakes and try to rectify it than pointing fingers on others
@lingli_78 (12852)
• Australia
7 Mar 07
i always being taught to take responsibility for all my actions and cannot cast the blame on someone else... well, the man is the one who make a decision to gamble... so, how can he blame the casino??? it is his free will and nobody is forcing him to do it... if he loses a lot of money, then it is his fault and not the casino's fault...
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@Shebang (244)
• Philippines
7 Mar 07
Yes you are right. It is and it has been the decision of the man. Why put the blame on the casino that kept on sending him freebies and discounts? Those were just offers anyway, he can leave it or go for it. But obviously he went to the casino and gamble. Apparently he chose to spend his money there. The lesson here is we must learn to be responsible with all our actions and the after effects of such actions.
@Patswords (189)
• United States
7 Mar 07
I think taking responsibility for ones actions is a sign of maturity. It's natural as a child to try to lay the blame elsewhere. But as we mature we learn to accept the responsibility for our actions. Some children mature beyond their age. While at the same time, some adults have never matured enough to take responsibility for their actions and never will. Unless the man had a mental disability he knew very well what he was doing. I don't mean to be cruel but even if he became addicted to gambling it is his problem not the Casinos. If he did not ask to be removed from the contact list I can not see how he could blame the casino. He needs to grow up and accept responsibility.
@Limey73 (161)
• Canada
7 Mar 07
I suppose it could be said that they took advantage of his addiction to gambling, and maybe that's his argument. But the casino is their business, and legal, so all they are doing is what businesses do all over the world - encouraging their clients/customers to continue dealing with them with offers, discounts etc. The fact that he accepted their specials, and got carried away with the "kick" of it all, is his responsibility - and his monetary loss.
• United States
7 Mar 07
Come on really? Stand up and accept the blame where it lyes. At his own feet! A person needs to accept the responsibility that they did smething stupid. Sure he can argue that gambling is a habit, maybe even an addiction, but if he argues that, then he knows he had a problem to begin with! He needs to realize that he has a problem, and its no ones fault but his own! Be responsible and own up to your mistakes!
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• United States
7 Mar 07
IF he made the chose to gamble, then it is his fault. I think that whenever we do something that causes lose, pain, heartache, and anything along those lines, we should take responsibility for our actions. I think that is the problem now days. Nobody wants to admit that they are in the wrong, so they try blaming other people. I personally don't understand why though. It seems like they would feel guilty, but I guess if you make that your way of life, it must come naturally. I would much rather take the blame myself, especially in his situation.
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• United States
7 Mar 07
That is the most ridiculous thing I have ever heard. I think most people know when to claim responsibility for their poor actions, except for this guy. That's kind of like the people who become overweight by eating too much McDonalds and suing them for getting that way.
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@cyrux004 (949)
• India
7 Mar 07
Look, the man must be intelligent to reject the offer freebies. After that casinos are in for making money
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• India
7 Mar 07
2 me da fault is of dat man only.... dats bcoz he s a grown up guy....n he is grown up to take his own decisions.. nobody forced him 2 take decisions...... so its completely his fault
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@vicky19810 (1601)
• China
7 Mar 07
lol...it is a good discussion,and i think i will take responsibility if it is my mistake.
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@Mollyjo (268)
• United States
7 Mar 07
Well maybe he was an older man that didn't really know exactly what the offers were for. Maybe they mislead them on the offers and told him that it would benefit him in some ways. not knowing what you are getting into can take its tolls. That is why so many people get scammed!
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• Philippines
14 Mar 07
casinos are legalized business. it is usually in the form of a corporation which stands as a separate legal entity. the incorporators are likewise protected by suits (direct, indirect, special, consequential, etc.) against possible hold of their personal assets in the eventuality of unliquidity. gambling is a vice and the marketing strategies set by the team are merely to lure the not-so steadfast ones to try their luck in earning big-time in a short-time. however, like all buinesses it can be prone to internal fraud (whether directly or indirectly sanctioned by management). the story about the man suing the casino for his monetary loss might have more to it that what meets the eye. at any rate, whether or not fraud was an issue, he should gain a mature understanding that winning the suit and proving to the court that he was a victim of fraud is again another roll of the dice. in a nutshell, the court issue is still one big gamble. let us all be responsible of our actions and take accountability for it.
@kgwat70 (13398)
• United States
8 Mar 07
For the most part I take responsibility for the things that I do, whether wrong or right. I think it is better to take responsibility for your actions and not to blame other people. I have in the past blamed others when I should not have but do not do that anymore. It is the man's fault for losing money since he was the one who gambled. The casino did not force him to gamble. he did not have to accept the offers sent to him. When it comes to gambling, it is only the person who lost the money fault.
@Savvynlady (3686)
• United States
8 Mar 07
They didn't tell him to lose ALL of his money; Sorry, I cannot see how it ISN'T his fault. They may have sent offers and invited him to come, but we all have this thing within us called "discipline" or "self control" to keep us from doing stuff that would mess us up. I live like an hour from the casinos in Biloxi,Mississippi, and I know of folks who go down there and spend their paychecks at the casino. I don't believe in giving ALL my money to a place like that. I know of one person who was in deep and if it wasn't for Katrina, they wouldn't have been able to handle their business right if they had continued. I can't get with that.
@onesiobhan (1330)
• Canada
8 Mar 07
I hope he loses. If he has an addiction, it's his responsability to seek help for it.
• United States
8 Mar 07
It doesn't sound like they held him at gunpoint so I would say it is his own fault.