Do you think I have to consult the doctor (OB) now?

@cefaz_21 (2597)
Philippines
March 7, 2007 1:49am CST
We've been married for 11 months now and of course we wanted to have kids since last year. I'm 34 and people says I'm already at the high risk stage plus I don't have regular menstrual period. I was supposed to see the OB last week but i chickened out and I got really nervous,thoughts like, what if I got problems? serious one? what will I do? do you think I really need a check up now or wait for a few more months..Just the mere thought of seeing the doctor make me nervous..sigh
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@byfaithonly (10716)
• United States
7 Mar 07
YES - did you get the message? MaMa Faith is serious, you need to got to the doctor and let him/her check you out good. If there is something wrong then they can start fixing it - if they don't know what is wrong it could get worse... have you had a pregnancy test? I've known a lot of women, including my own daughter, who had irregular periods even when they were pregnant. GO TO THE DOCTOR ASAP (as soon as possible).
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@mrsturner (519)
• Canada
7 Mar 07
Please consult your doctor. There are so many "easy" things that they can check out if you are not conceiving. Don't worry about your age making you high risk - a lot of that has to do with life-style. Many women older than you have healthy babies every day. The doctors are wonderful. I was married for 19 months (trying to have a baby right from the start) before I got two lines on my little stick:). Some of the tests are not comfortable, but they are so worth it.
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@Michele21 (3094)
• United States
7 Mar 07
I think you should go ahead and go to the doctor. I am sorry that you don't like going-I don't have a problem getting naked for a stranger...just kidding (trying to lighten the mood). I am 25 and my son just turned 2 and I had a really hard time getting pregnant with him. I don't think age is too importnant when it comes to having possible problems. I always had an irregular period so when we tried getting pregnant it didn't happen. I wasn't ovulating so I had to go on come medicine to make me ovulate, it was a pain but worth it.....get to the doctor!!
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• India
7 Mar 07
when you are thinking of childbirth you must see a doctor as soon as possible .. you need guidance at every step once you are pregnant so dont think more just get your self examined .. it wont harm you and once you have your reports you would know exactly what is happening in your body .. its best to know that to keep wondering .. right ?
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@jolanda33 (720)
• Netherlands
7 Mar 07
i think you should consult the doctor, so you know for sure everything is ok! if it's not oke there are several options to choose, and because you are 34 the other options can take a while! most of the times they say it can take around a year to get pregnant. ofcourse there are lucky woman like me i was pregnant after 5 months, and the second one after 11 months!
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@sumi123 (129)
• India
7 Mar 07
i can understand. I suggest you can see OB and there is nothing to get nervous about it coz this is quiet common out here. Now a day alot of technoligies and changes. You will need to have a regular menstrual period to have kid so doctor will be able to help you. Take it easy
@raeleighb (385)
• United States
7 Mar 07
you need to see an ob. you need to have someone who can inform you and help you during a prgnancy. it is dangerous but with the right care and ob you can still have a perfectly healthy baby. see an ob, you'll be glad u did
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• United States
7 Mar 07
I would definitely see an OB. If there is something wrong wouldn't it be nice to find out before things got too bad?
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• Indonesia
9 Mar 07
Yeah, you absolutly need to go to the Gyneacologist! i suggest you do asap. Do not to feel chickened, its all to your own health, check it out. It's okay, you'll be threatened by the expert..
• United States
9 Mar 07
Go to the doctor. You need checked out. You just need to think positive and tell your self your fine and everything is ok. Dont worry all will be fine! And If you want to have children your going to have to go to the doctor.
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• United States
9 Mar 07
My husband and I are in a very similar situation. In my case I have regular periods but was treated for cervical cancer about 2 years ago (when our first born was a couple of years old). I hate going to the dr.s but in this case see it as part of the prenatal counseling and care. Even if they don't find anything "wrong" they migth be able to give you tips and advice on how to ensure a healthy pregnancy from the start and might have some advice for helping conception. From what I understand most conception "problems" aren't usually all that serious these days so don't stress so much about it. Did you know that stress can actually be one of the problems with concieving ;) Hehe...just a thought.
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@gianena (256)
• Philippines
8 Mar 07
Hi... I'm not yet married but all I can say is you should visit your OB as soon as possible. You don't have to be nervous about it because OBs are there to help women regarding these problems. My sister-in-law regularly visits her OB and according to her, she feels good about it.;) And if you're afraid and nervous about it, ask your husband to come with you.;) Maybe you're afraid that you might find out that something is wrong with you but that's the point there, you go to your OB so that she can help you with your problems. It's okay cause I also have my regular check-up and nothing bad happened. God bless...
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• India
8 Mar 07
There is no harm in consulting a Doctor. Your age is also over and your menstrual period is also not proper. In that case, if you consult the doctor he/she will advise you what to do. So better go and take advise from the doctor.
• United States
8 Mar 07
It has been said that if you have been trying for a year to have a child and you are over 30, you need to see your doc, 6 months if you are over 35. The simple fact that you don't have a regular cycle signals that there may very well be something else going on and it is preventing you from conceiving. Yes you should see your doc, you need to. Not having a regular cycle can be very detrimental to your health, especially if you don't know what is causing it. Good luck.
• United States
8 Mar 07
I am curious what people (doctors, nurses or just other housewives) told you 'already at high risk' for what ? procreation, at 34 since when is there an ideal timeframe. Fear about seeing an OB why, never before I take it, huh ? Your 34, married almost a year, irregular and afraid to see the obstetrician/gynecologist but want children. Don't get pressured either way but just for medical curiosity, why irregularity, have that checked out. Put off baby-making if it is not meant to be yet, you have time. I hope I have helped in some way, Good luck to you !
@mjgarcia (725)
• United States
8 Mar 07
I would see the OB. If there is a problem, maybe its something that he can fix. As for 34 being high risk - it depends on who you ask. I had my first child at 32 and the doctor didn't think it was a problem at all. When I was 38, I had my second and the doctor said I could even have another one. Well, I didn't plan on the having another - but just before I turned 40 I had my daughter. I became pregnant for my first child a few months after I had laser surgery for pre-cancer. In fact, the last two pregnancies were easier than the first. All of my kids are healthy and have no problems.
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@mythmoh (3986)
• United States
8 Mar 07
you have to consult the doctor.Because it will be late if you wait for another couple of months or so your age is already 34 and improper menstural cycle.there wont be any serious problem with you and ob will help you regarding this.Even if you have problems it can be rectified very easily because of the advancement in science.so dont be afraid to go and mee the OB.Get the appointment and meet and convey the Happy news to all of us.
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@jen0526 (82)
• United States
7 Mar 07
I struggled with infertility for four years, and can honestly tell you that waiting is not a good idea. I tried for the majority of that time to get pregnant on my own, and by the time I saw the doctor who helped me get pregnant by prescribing fertility medication, he basically asked me, what took you so long? Under the age of 30, doctors will tell you to try on your own for a year before seeking medical advice. Over 30 they generally cut the waiting period down to six months. I could share a lot more of my story with you if you want. I didn't have regular cycles either, and my problem ended up being an easy one to fix. If you want to talk, you can send me a private message. I am more then willing to share my experience with someone who is going through this.
@cjthedog64 (1553)
• United States
7 Mar 07
Well, if you don't see a doctor, you'll never know if you have any problems. And if you do have something serious, you'll be pretty out of luck. You should definately go see the OB when you're considering conceiving. They'll get you prenatal vitamins and make sure everything is physically ok to start trying. If you don't have regular cycles, they can try to get you sorted out, so you'll at least know when you're fertile, and if you're fertile. There's nothing that bad about going to an OB, especially if you plan on having a baby. You'll have all kinds of stuff happening in the delivery room and you won't care anymore! Just get in there and do it!
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• United States
7 Mar 07
Cefaz, I was married at 30 and after a year we started trying to have kids. It took us several years of trying and going through my regular ob/gyn and then to a reproductive endocrinologist in order to get pregnant. We also had to go through the expense of in vitro fertilization - 4 times. I FINALLY had a daughter at 36 years old after much heartache and stress. I urge you not to wait. If you want children you need to get yourself checked out. I had normal menstrual cycles, but I know many woman that did not. Their ob/gyns put them on a pill called Chlomid, which helps regulate their menstrual cycles. That can be an easy fix for you if that is the only problem. Nothing to worry about. You can also buy ovulation detector kits in the grocery store. Once you have your period you can wait the necessary days the instruction tells you to and then start testing to find out when you ovulate. That way you'll know the precise couple of days you and your husband need to "get busy" and try to conceive. Good luck and feel free to ask me any questions. I've gone through a lot to be a parent.
@ethanmama (1746)
• Philippines
7 Mar 07
I think you should. In fact, I think you and your husband should go together. The first thing in an infertility workup is usually a sperm analysis, basically because it's the easiest and cheapest. If it turns out normal, then you proceed with the workup for the wife (that's you). You are right, 34 is approaching high risk. So it's best to find out if you have any problems before you get any older. I got pregnant at 34, just after my wedding and gave birth at 35. I was really apprehensive about that, but thank God we pulled through. If you need an infertility specialist, message me so I can refer you to my OB :).
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